why am i the a#*

I know I'm jumping in a little late to this conversation but I think you have a right to feel upset betrayed and offended. You literally tried to help you hubby's dad out and he walked all over you and put his son in a position that a husband should never be at a choice between his wife and his dad. Your hubby should understand that even though that is his father that you had an agreement and that out of respect to you his father should have kept it. If his father can foot the bill for all this other stuff, then he should finish paying you off. I'm sure you would have been happy to see $50 a week until it was paid off when he ended up only giving you three hundred instead of five. But your hubby is only looking at it as this is my father and i'm his son and he raised me and so on and so forth. I think what would be smart is that you call your father in law and take charge of the situation. Tell him he has x amount of time to get the money to you and if he doesn't then you will be picking up the vehichle. If he does anything to disable the vehicle then what I would say it get a tow truck take it to the nearest garage and have the lock changed on all the doors so he can't put the item back on and then drive away with the vehichle. ... I feel for you because you are stuck in between a rock and a hard spot. You need to make it very clear that you would do the same thing to your family if this was happening so your hubby isn't thinking you're only doing this to his family. Another things is before you repo it check your state laws. Or do the really easy thing and report that the tags on the vehichle are not valid and then get it out of impound after the vehihcle is impounded. Your father in law will not be able to pick it up from impound becasue the vehichle is in your name there fore yours. Good luck with this situation. I know that your right but you have to also think on top of this these are you inlaws your stuck with them for as long as your married to him you can have a peaceful relationship with them or ww3 happenening that is entirely up to you and how you deal with the situation.

I definitely do not believe that you are wrong in your situation. I know it has to be hard on your husband to have to hear about and see the things going on with his family, but he also needs to realize that you are his wife and you come first. You knocked off a great deal of money to give the truck to his dad and his dad should give you the other two hundred before even expecting to get the title. It's wrong of your husband to be fighting with you about it. I'm sure he is frustrated with his family and with you being the closest you are the easiest to take it out on. Just try calming sitting down with him and explaining why you feel the way you do about the whole situation and if he wants to argue about it then tell him that when he can calmly sit down with you and discuss it, you would be more than happy to talk some more about it. Good luck and keep us posted. God bless

Very very tough. One thing I will do,i,e, not to enough thinking after any purchase.

girl you are so right not to do business with family. but now that you did let me tell you this. if the price of the truck was $500 and he was to make payments on the $200 and has not done so, then by law you can get the truck back and no you do not have to give him back the $300. girl i watch a lot of Judge Judy

It's true that they do not give your money back when they repo your car. It seems like you tried to do something nice and now it has come back and bit you in the butt. If they wanted you to donate the car, they should have just said so in the first place. I would not feel bad if I were you for wanted to get the car back. Your husband wants you to sacrifice something of value to you for his father. If it was your husbands car and your father doing that to him, what would he do? If you don't have financail stress then I would just keep holding onto the title until he paid for it. I would also tell him that I expect him to live up to his part of the agreement on payment. Even if he gives you $50 a week, you should get a payment from him. If you are having financial stress, I would discuss with your husband why you want the money for the car. He will understand that you aren't being selfish if he sees that you are more concerned with being able to pay the bills instead of saying the car is mine. First you need to get your husband to see you two as a a team. You aren't going to get anywhere if you are waging a war with him about the car. I would try to get him to be less defensive for his father too. I know how this situation is. I have been here before. It wasn't worth it to me to have my family upset with me over money, so I counted it as a loss, and never offered anything I couldn't lose again.

After reading through everything you said, I think you need to go get it NOW. If it's still in your name and he's driving it illegally it will be your responsibility to pay for damages caused by your vehicle. Don't put it back on your insurance for him to drive it. Consider the $300 a rental fee (a cheap one at that) for several months of use and wear and tear on your vehicle and sell it to someone who will actually pat it's full value. They've used you and if you don't out an end to it now they'll just keep doing it. If your husband can't understand how he's enabling them to do this then I think you two have a lot of issues to work out.

Is the car still in your name? If it is I would have no problem with going there with the keys and driving it home with me. Let them call the police and do what report you for taking your own car? Please stand up for yourself now and put your foot down. The sooner the better. Let them know you will not be taken advantage of family or not. Take him to court if you need to. Stand up now or else they will keep taking advantage of you. Let us know how it goes.

If your father in law's son that lives with him is 50, then I guess your father in law is in his 70's? In that case, he is probably old and doesn't have much money and as you say his kids are taking what he does have. A lot of times, old people cannot stand up well to their grown kids. You have your own husband to think about. Put it this way: is this principle worth losing your relationship with your husband? I doubt it. In the interest of keeping your husband happy, and helping an old man who seems to have a LOT of troubles, just sign over the title and count it as your loss -- and your good deed. I think you are right, in principle, but it is not the time or place to stand your ground.