Leader or Follower

I guess I could also be considered a loner, I don't mind and sometimes even prefer to be alone. But when I do deal with or are around people it also depends on what we are doing. If there is something going on I have no idea about, like someone is talking about computers, I usually follow and listen and learn. But put me in a situation where I know something really well, like dance or worship, I will jump in and lead.. So I guess I am a little of each if that's possible..lol

I am more of a follower. I can fit into any social situation without any problem and feel very comfortable. If I disagree with someone else's opinion, I would be more apt to listen to them and not say anything. I don't like conflict. Being a follower doesn't mean I get into trouble. Really never been put in that sort of situation. Am unhappy when alone too much. Can only entertain myself for so long with the internet, television or crafts. I do prefer to be with people, especially one of our kids. Love being out and about in crowds or at a party. I work tonight and since I've been home all day alone, can't wait to get to work. Will have dinner with my husband and off I go. It's a short shift but love the people interaction and dealing with the public. Too many close friends can drive me nuts. Am not a phone person unless one of our kids call or my husband. Never have been a huge phone lover. I'd prefer to have one friend that is very trustworthy and we can chat about anything. I do make lunch or dinner plans all the time via email. Never a problem!

Wow, I totally understand that feeling of being a "loner". Though when put in situations, people seem to want me to be the leader, and I try to avoid situations where people put me in that position. I don't know if that's a good thing, since perhaps they see something I don't about myself, but I don't enjoy it and don't like having it thrust upon me. I don't like being pushed around but at the same time I can't stand babysitting adults. Sounds like we're both mavericks!

I am probably a carbon copy...lol. You expresssed my feelings quite nicely, thanks. I like to think for myself, but have no intention on leading anyone on the same path. However, I think so many leaders or experts of full of beans and I have no desire to blindly follow them. I hardly have ever "fit in" much of anywhere. I dispise the implications that I need do so to be successful. The only thing I want to fit into is the place where I need to be to realize my true self. A place where I can prosper and know joy. I think it is most important to be someone rahter than to do something. Like, be yourself and not always do what every one else does. Good topic, ww1.

Like you I've been a loner most of my life too, yet even so, I've never been one to follow the crowed either, I think I've spent all my life being the different drummer type, the initiator, the get things going kind of person. I like the fact that when push comes to shove I can problem solve especially when the hard knocks in life come by, and I've never been one to "lean on" someone else or make decisions for me..yes, I might listen to advice, but I pretty much follow my gut instincts. When I say I'm going to do something..I do it...uh, I think you know that about me, right? LOL

I actually have two categories that I fit into. For my work, I have to be a leader, seeing as I'm an ESL teacher, teaching kinder and primary students. This also means containing any emotions from my outside life as well. Outside of work, I am definitely not a leader, nor am I a follower. Like you, I tend to be a loner, making my own decisions, very rarely basing my decisions on other people's thoughts or theories. I am much more comfortable in my loner role than my leader role.

I want to be a leader in doing good things and want to be a follower of the good people.

I'm a loner too Kercelia, as you well know by now...:). I do feel as though I don't fit in anywhere. But there's more to it than that. Years ago, I read somewhere that it's better to be alone than in bad company. Everywhere I turn people have let me down....family lie and are hypocrites; long time friends let one down and withdraw their friendship and support; partners lie and cheat and don't fulfill their role in the relationship; friends are two faced, insincere while others are thoughtless, unreliable and inconsiderate. You stay as true as you can but you back away and end up keeping all at a distance. Luckily, I'm versatile...I can be a leader and a follower and I certainly make a darn good hermit.

I don't follow or lead. I have always thought for my self.And I am stubborn so there isn't any peer pressure that will make me change my mind.To be accepted is to fit in naturally. you shouldn't have to change who you are to be accepted.There are cliques and then there are groups of friends.The members of a clique have to be exactly like each other.They are like a gang. Same types of clothes, same hairstyles,etc. But then there are groups of friends. They don't all look the same. They hang out because they have something in common , not because they Need to be like all the others.I was in a group of friends.There wasn't a leader and no one followed. It was great.

I guess I've been both a leader and a follower at different times in my life. Like when we plan a family vacation somehow making all the arrangements and reservations ends up being left up to me for some reason and I've been an officer in my bowling leagues several time through the years. That wasn't by choice, I kind of got "involuntarily volunteered" if you get my drift. So I guess it depends on the situation. Annie

Hi worldwise1!Leadership is about getting things done.I am a leader. I work in a Bank in a leadership position and even when i was in my teens i have had this habit of making followers around me. I like to take charge of situations and get things done. I don't wait for others to respond but take the lead when ever there is a need. Leadership qualities are inbuild in your charecter 60% and the rest can be developed by you. Leaders are those who dare and not afraid of what the consequences would be. He/she should even be ready to take criticisms and failure. All the best!

i tend to stay under cover when there is a better leader or when i am not needed but if a situation arises where i am needed then i would be happy to be a leader, but besides that im a follower