grandchildren

I also have four beautiful grand childrem. Two daughters. One has 3 children 6, 4 and 2. Other daughter has 6 yr old (on Valentine's Day. The mother of the almost 6 year old, was just not cut out for motherhood, and took off and now lives with a boyfeiend. My hubby and I, as her parents have partial custody of him and the the father has him most of the time. We had to take him to court and won the most grandparent rights ever because we want the little guy to grow up knowing our family. Because we have partial custody and see alot more of him than the other 3, he has his own room in our house, we buy him clothes etc as the father sends him to us with nothing. It has been like that since he was a baby, we had to supply diapers, formula etc. My daughter with the 3 children is a 'tad' jealous and thinks we favor him over her 3. Not so. We make sure at Christmases and birthdays, etc that everything is even, the same amount of gifts, we spend the same amount of money on each, etc. But because he is with us on a regular basis and we have to buy him things, yeah he does tend to get a little more and when we send him home after a few days visits, we are tired grandparents. It is so very nice to have the other 3 occassionally and spoil them and send them home. We can not spoil the other one, because we are surragate parents and really he has no mother. So I guess all I am saying is that SOMETIMES there are exceptions and what looks to be...isn't always. Does that make sense?

I have 10 beautiful, smart grandchildren and another one on the way any day now. I don't get to see 4 of them that much. The other 6 I see all the time. I do not have a favorite, they are all my favorite whenever I am with them. I am very careful around Christmas time, birthdays etc. that I spend the same amount on them. I would not want them to think that I spent more on this one then that one. My oldest granddaughter was jealous of the little ones once, I explained to her that she got that attention when she was little. In fact she even got more then the other ones. She had all our attention, the other ones have to share me. We had more money also when she was little, now the money has to spread farther. She got over it when I explained it to her. I love being a grandma, its one of my favorite things to do.

Not playing favorites is so important when it comes to being a grandparent. I do not want my grandkids to think that one is favored more than another. I love them all and treat them the same.

I have six step-grandchildren and five grandchildren but I call them all my grandchildren. I see my daughter's children the most as she lives the nearest, my eldest grandchildren I don't see very often now, I used to when they were little but as they grow up they tend to grow 'away', but I like to think that they are all treated the same. I spend the same amount of money on them Christmas and Birthdays. They are all special I love them very much and I tell them so, often.