Meeting Someone For The First Time:
By Stiffler07
@Stiffler07 (1356)
United States
January 5, 2008 7:02am CST
Realationships and people
What Do You Do???? for women and men, do you tip toe around the important subjects when you first meet someone?Or do you lay out all your questions, needs, wants, preferences in the beginning? Do you play it safe and slowly try to get to know the person or do you want to know right up front whether they are mate material or not? Do you avoid questions that might imply future commitment or shared values or do you want to nail them down from the very beginning? This question is inspired by comments a user made on another question I asked. And I am curious how many tip toed when they wished they would have asked the hard questions in the beginning, how many asked and made decisions to pass the person by and now wonder if they decided too quickly. And how many feel that there method of finding out if the person was for them worked perfectly. Share you experience with us...
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@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
6 Jan 08
Hey Stiff... Good Question. I think I have been in the past too open too fast. I guess if you are seriously looking for a quality relationship in a hurry you probably want to "know" a person asap. At this point in my life I slow down and enjoy the momment, have fun and not rush things. I have learned that being giving too much info too fast is a turn off...
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@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
6 Jan 08
Too much to fast hmmmmmm, I can see where that can be a turn off. It's been too long girl. Happy New Year, & keep in-touch :=)
@amitksing (1323)
• India
5 Jan 08
I actually think one has to take different appraoch each time one meets a different person for the very first time. While dating or meeting somebody under such circumstances, one's primary goal should be making the other person comfortable with him, making the latter enjoy his company! For this, one needs to be a bit entertaining, say filling the environment with a good sense of humour. One's next approach should be trying to know more about the other person. One should try to be a good listener. This makes the other person feel that one is interested in knowing him/her. The next thing to do should be doing something special, that will make the other person remember the date/meeting for a long time.
Along with these things, one can add more flavours to the way he approaches somebody.
This is the way I would like to go with. I would love to know how others will do. Good topic to discuss!!
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@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Great answer, & yes I'm sure people will have many different opinions.
@adnanezzi (243)
• India
5 Jan 08
the first thing i would do is try to analyse him/her. is that person on the same wavelength as i am and then gradully try to mix with them
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