do you ever feel taken for granted???
@princessmom1011 (719)
United States
January 5, 2008 8:26am CST
ive had alot of time to myslef lately and well ive been reflecting on my life, relationships goals for the new year etc and i realized that many people take me and my generoustiy for granted and well it not only makes me sad but at the same time angry. if i care about someone they know it for i take the time to show them in many many ways i tend to put others before myself and i was listening to this country song about friends and when in real dire need who could you call "if stuck on the side of the rd in the middle of the night etc" and well although i know there are many people out there who love me in the past i have been in situations and no one could come to my rescue and i realized its still that way when i would drop anything to help those i care about even if it be at 3am in a snow storm. so my NEW New years resolution is not to stop caring about the family and friends i love but to put myself higher on my priority list.
dont get me wrong i hear thank you for all i do but the problem im having is i dont think if the situations were reversed id truly have someone in my corner i dont know maybe im jsut feeling alone at the moment.
but how about you do yoiu ever feel taken for granted, not appreciated?
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@lilybug (21107)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Many times. Too many in fact. I just got tired of it and stopped doing so much for other people. For me it was not even really not getting their help in return. It was more about them not really appreciating the things I did for them. They acted as if I was obligated to do things for them.
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@princessmom1011 (719)
• United States
5 Jan 08
well no one acts as if i owe it to them or they expect it adn like i said i do get thank yous its just i put so much effort into helping others and i feel like the effort isnt there from them when it comes time for me needing anything whether it be help or jsut a chat.
@isikopeacejohn (109)
• Uganda
5 Jan 08
Yaah!
But all the same, what you need is to have respect for your efforts.
You dont have to make someone a favor expecting him or her to do the same to you; if you do so, i promise you that you'll be disappointed make times.
Just help... because even those you favor in whatever way never planned to be in a given situation that you would help them.
And as for me, i'll be their for when no one cares; it's true!
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@princessmom1011 (719)
• United States
5 Jan 08
i never do anything with the expectations of anything in return i do it because i truly believe in helping those i care about but as i was sitting there thinking i realized im the "go to "person for many people and i realized i dont have one of those in my life not even in those i help out tremedesouly but like you said i too will still be there for those i care about even when no one cares! thank you for your input
@pudgles (414)
• United States
19 Jan 08
I know how you feel...for as long as I can remember, I always took care of others, food, money, etc. even if it meant going without. I would even go without eating at times while my children was growing up, just so they would have enough. I was told i was buying peoples love, but was i really or was i looking for that attention i so desperately needed. I figure, no one was or is there for me except when they want money,etc. that even in my deepest need for help, these past two years, either for borrowed funds,a place to stay, or support, a shoulder to cry on or an ear to hear,etc. I probable would still give,
I am always alone, and if I didn't have my children and grandkids, I don't know how i would of survived. Don't feel alone, there is people who do care and love you, and would love to spend the time with you, but maybe work or appointments, etc, keep getting in the way,,,call on your mom, she is always there for you even if you might not think so..
but as for ever being there your mom is always in your corner in spite of what you might think,,,and she will always come to your rescue..i know my mom would.....have a good day...if you ever get so alone feeling again, call your mom, i am sure she would love to hear from you....
