Being there for someone who's not there for you in return!

I guess it shows how ungrateful an individual could be,m but there's also this thought that I have on my mind. Some people would only come to your side when they need something, they come to you like parasites that enjoys sipping all your resources then leave. I understand you, as I have been into that situation before. With that, I learned who are my friends.

Yes I have encountered people like that. I try to stay away from them. I really look down on self-centered people. All they care about is themselves.

I can somewhat understand how you feel and where you are coming from. Here on Mylot as well as in the the rest of the world, the rule of 'do onto others as you would want to do onto you' is seldom followed. Although I cannot relate to your experience thus far here on Mylot, I do have a general sense of what you are feeling. Due to the fact that I am used to being kind and not being treated the same in return, I have learned that at the end of the day...it is me and God who should care about what I did or didn't do. Continue to be a nice person, others will soon begin to see that and will cherish you instead of take you for granted. Just because of a few inconsiderate people here and in the rest of the world, don't change who you are...it is not worth it. Besides, often times we don't realize what we have until we lose it...so just continue being you. Sooner or later the candle will be lit and it will bring forth realization to the blind. Be blessed and always positive.

I understand what you are talking about,it does not seem fair to always be the giver and never getting nothing back..I find that many people are selfish and only think of themselves..It depends on how you feel about it really..It might be that you have a special calling in the field of helping others,if this be so i would not let anyone beat me out of that calling by letting others that are selfish be unresponsive to me....I also have helped others and not any help in return and i know it does not feel good, but i continue to do it and sometimes i just vent..Lol

Gosh, I have a friend who is like that -- the "it-will-always-be-about-me" type. And I will always be a friend who listens to her. It kinda suck though. I mean, sometimes, it's tiring hearing about her rants but when it's time for you to rant, and always it will end up me listening to her. :)

i don't meet this problem. they always say somethink really help or interest me. i think they maybe really unhappy then tell you as friends.listining others' sorrow is kind action

I have had this happen. I watch the neighbors kids all of the time. I listen to how they can't afford things to survive but yet they get over $800 from the state for food each month! There are 2 of them they could both work they choose not to. I feel sorry for their kids. I try to work as much as I can and have called them to watch my daughter but they always say no due to the fact that they have four kids and one more would be too much. But like a dummy I keep offering their kids a place to stay.

Of course but it doesn't define my day nor my relationships. Learn to self-sooth. Tell your friends how you feel, and know that most of them do care about you and what you are going through.