My 5 year old never stops talking!
By gettinggreen
@gettinggreen (125)
United States
January 5, 2008 6:22pm CST
Okay, I love her dearly and I love that she has such an incredible imagination that allows her to create such elaborate stories, but must she tell me every one? I know that sounds super insensitive and what I'm about to tell you next will sound even more insensitive. She has aspergers syndrome (autistic spectrum) and one of the characteristics of the disorder is excessive/repetitive speech. So she can't necessarily help this and she isn't doing what she does to annoy, but eventually it does annoy me! Is it wrong for me to tune her out? I feel that I have to acknowledge all she says so she doesn't feel left out or ignored, but then I end up feeling like I'm on the verge of going crazy. What do you think?
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11 responses
@neelygal (1022)
• Bahamas
10 Jan 08
My 6 year old is always talking too,even in his sleep.Try your best not to let it drive you nuts seeing as though you know she cant help it.Try giving her crafts and colouring pages to keep her bust so she will have something to concentrate on and not have so much time to talk.Good luck.
@gettinggreen (125)
• United States
10 Jan 08
Just wanted to say thank you for your response. It's nice to have someone understand this situation.
@My2Cents (291)
• Canada
29 Apr 08
I had to respond to this because I am pretty sure we may have the same daughter....hehe.
My daughter is 5 and she can NOT stay quiet. She talks constantly - and FAST. If she isn't talking she is singing. I like it - but it does get tiring. Even her tantrums are full on DRAMA and go on and on and on and on.
One thing I that gives me patience (and I NEED it) is knowing I am the same way. I now know what I put my parents through.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
6 Jan 08
I think you should be super-thankful your daughter can talk. She could grow up to be a famous author.Listen to her stories and give her encouragement. So many kids are born with speech impediments or Down's Syndrome It seems there are multitudes of children's diseases. Imagine if she was alergic to nuts and one peanut could kill her? You are a Very lucky Mother. Its time you woke up and smelled the Roses!
@cyndysue5 (27)
• United States
6 Jan 08
The elaborate stories are a sign of a very high intelligence. It only proves that her brain is continuously working, and neurons and brain tissues are connecting. I know it can be annoying, but I used too ,and probably still do , talk in my sleep. I have currently tested at a 125 on an I.Q. test given by the leaning assessment center at the college I attend. Don't worry at all until she stops talking. Encourage everything, even if you don't understand at the time what she is talking about.
@WiteNgtOwl (304)
• United States
10 Jan 08
Support her. I have a handycaped daughter that dose sign language and my older one talks alot to about everything. And she thinks shes always right. Its not wrong to tune them out, but if you do, listen once in a while so you can keep up on her little world.
~WiteNgtOwl
@janisspaggiari59 (656)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I don't think you should tune her out because she might have something important to say one day and you'll miss it.
Accept her problem and deal with it,have patience and just get used to it.She can't help it so what else can you do ?
These are some of the cards you and her were dealt in life.You just have to accept it and live with it.Everyone is dealt
certain cards in life.You just do the best you can.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I think that fluffychenille has the best idea for helping your daughter. I was going to suggest the tape recorder but she added it to her suggestion. I have a granddaughter the when she was that age also talked none stop even when no one was listening. Just remember that because your daughter drive you nuts you don't have to feal guilty about the way you feel.
@olaff123 (433)
• Namibia
6 Jan 08
I don't have children, but it will drive me crazy. Remember, you are human too. No parent is perfect. You need some space as well and I hope you find a way to get it. Is there maybe someone who can spend some time with her as well, giving you a break?
@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
6 Jan 08
Wow that a great talking child you got there, now you know that she is like that you will have to deal with it according and should ask for the experts advice on whats best for your child. You will have to extend your patience, and its not only you but both you and your husband should help hand in hand with your child, and just be there to suppot her always.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I'm sure it gets annoying, but, keep one thing in mind, she won't be little for long. My 'baby' turns 19 this month, and seems like I just want to go 'where did the time/years go?' She is expecting on of her own, due in Feb. and that's the best thing I can tell her, enjoy every minute, cause they go by faster than you think.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I am the queen of "I'll completely tune you out if I don't want to listen to you", so I can understand what you're saying. I have several family member (father, aunt) who talk non stop. I know your daughter can't help it but is there a way you could work on training her to know when she talks to much? I don't know anything about Aspergers but I think if she is somewhat intelligent she can learn anything. Maybe you could have cues with her that when she is doing this behavior and can stop it. If you're getting sick of it I know other people around her are too. Is she in school? I'd say just keep working with her to try and tone down her chattiness. Good luck.
