need some help on how to deal with my 20 month old

My 13 month old son is the same.He's very demanding. I'm not sure if this will help but I ignore it. He pulls at my dress and whines sometimes and I just go about doing my stuff. It was hard at first (especially since my older son was never so demanding) but I taught myself how to tune out the tantrums. I hope someone comes up with a better idea.

I think some children are just wired differently. My youngest can throw a tantrum like no body esle. He is sixteen months old. He bangs his head on the floor, screams, wails and wallows. He will walk around the house whining and crying and sobbing hysterically because you tell him no. He will purposely run himself into walls and turn his face to them and scream at the top of his lungs. Usually what I do, is I give him a chance to calm down, if I see he is not, I will pick him up and hold him for a minute, if it calms him, then great, but if he's really upset, it just makes him angrier, then he goes to his crib. I know he's just upset because he's not getting what he wants, and I feel I shouldn't have to listen to his fit, so in his crib he goes, I give him 2 or 3 minutes to calm down, and I take him out after that, and he's usually fine, if his fit continues, he goes back in for few more minutes until he is ready to calm down. I find I am not as stressed about it.

think that she is only 20 month old, and she is the little princess in your house, i think you can solve those problem for your daughter, maybe just she need more time on you & try to avoid all what she need, just let her eat & her stomach full so she can play alone. or the most thing is bring her in tiny little angels so they can help you how to handle those problem.

I have a 3 year old daughter who was like this. I also have a 6 year old son who was in your son's situation. I came to the conclusion that this was just my daughter expressing herself. She is very tough, and I love it. I want a strong girl who won't take any crap from anybody. She is still demanding and I too tried everything as you have. My husband works funky hours and it is me and her and my son most of the time so I had to deal with it more than anyone. I don't spank much I just tell her no or tell her what she is doing wrong and let her throw a fit as long as she is in a safe place to do so. And, I don't let it bother me. My child is difficult but it does not have to drive me insane. I hated taking my strong-willed daughter with me to the store also. I'm sure you do as well. Yours is only 20 months old, if she is anyting like mine, I can tell you it will get better. She's the baby girl.