Is spanking your kid disipline or abuse???
@kodeshkodashim (925)
United States
25 responses
@maddogv21 (80)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Spanking is NOT abuse. Beating your kid IS. Kids need to be disiplined! Some times the only thing that works is a spankin.
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@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Thank God somebody knows the difference..Good for you.
@dollbaby (595)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Agreed. Children need boundaries and they need to know that when they cross those boundaries, there will be consequences.
@Juli_angel (1063)
• Israel
31 Oct 06
i think it's wrong.
not only kids won't get the idea,
they'll allso kind of hate you
and it's just not the way to disipline them.
@frankmichaele (3)
• Canada
31 Oct 06
I also thank and love my parents for the discipline they gave me. Like another previously said, it was never done with hate or anger in their hearts. I think that was the difference.
@west_tx_goddess (1197)
• United States
31 Oct 06
I recieved more spankings than I can count from my parents and I don't hate them I respect them for that.
@Krisss (1231)
• Australia
29 Oct 06
I have raised two kids to adulthood, one a very active boy who nearly drove me insane when he was a toddler and never once have they been hit.
I do not believe anyone has the right to hit a child or adult. What one person considers a spanking another can consider abuse so in my opinion never touch another human in anger is the best rule.
What a nicer place this world would be if everyone acted this way.
@vhenwood (1061)
• United States
29 Oct 06
I think it's disipline . . .not abuse, unless you are leaving bruises or any other kind of marks on your kid. I can remember my dad beatin the crap outta my butt when I was younger, gettin my hands smacked too . . .you can be damn sure that my kids will get whoopins.
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Cuts, bruises..and alike are crossing the line...But ya good a$$ beating....I can remember those days too.My mom..ouch!!
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Hope ya didn't get the wrong impression when I said ,,good a$$ beating,that was meant more expresive than actual...a pop and the behind.no a saturday night wreastling smack down.
@kenzel_merea (59)
• United States
31 Oct 06
i think it is ok to spank your kid.not beat them!! sometimes when im walking through the store.and i see kids throwing a fit and cussing and hitting their mothers.yeah they need to get spanked.lol
now i do believe spanking is ok.but not everytime they get into trouble .but if its sometihng major.then yes goahead..but after a certin age i say somewere around age 10.if ur still spanking ur kids.i think the only thing that is ganna become of that is hatred towards you,from ur kids.
@alex512 (128)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Discipline and beating are two different things. Spanking a kid a couple of times is discipline. Punching him or her in the face (or anywhere else, for that matter) is abuse. Spanking is classical conditioning, and it's a very effective way to change behavior. I don't think there's anything wrong with a good swat or two.
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Do ya have a bi polar ........well never mind.You seam to have a spit decision going on in your head...let me guess ???????you don't have any kids but want to Tell me how to raise mine.HHMMMM
@trish32 (1471)
• United States
31 Oct 06
No, I don't believe spanking your child is abuse. A slap on the hand or bottom for bad/potentially dangerous behavior is not abusive. Beating your child out of anger, calling them names, not feeding or loving them is abuse.
@briennekb (610)
• United States
31 Oct 06
I don't think it is wrong as long as you don't take it too far. It's possible for people to get really upset and really hurt their kids. But, I think that most parents don't get that frusterated, and if they do, they can control it. For my nephew, sending him to the corner seems to work well, strangely enough. But, there are times when he does get a spanking.
I agree with what most people have said about there being a difference between spanking and beating. They're so different you can't even compare the two.
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
31 Oct 06
love can be tough some times when it comes to a child
@micheller (1365)
• United States
31 Oct 06
i think you should only tap their hand and tell them no but not hit them. what is hitting a child gonna solve. that would just make them more angry.
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Weird...most of the judges in this country are doing the samething with adult's....it seems to be working...just look at the crime....
@jahboogie (97)
• United States
31 Oct 06
it is definetly disipline i got butt whippings as a kid and i turned out fine
this next generation is in for a rude awakening. you definetly have to have it.
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
31 Oct 06
I total agree...the next generation is in for a rude awakening...were already see it now.
@meaningless (95)
• Germany
31 Oct 06
Violence can only be respected if it is necessary for self defense in my opinion. But self defense against a child? There should be other ways to draw the necessary borders.
@dixielol (1579)
• United States
1 Nov 06
So what about these 13 year old that beat up ther mom? I can promise you that if mom had been spanking them when they were little, they would have more respect for her then that now! think about it, in the early 1900's everyone in the US spanked basically. The crime rate was low. Now, not alot do & the crime rate is high. In my opinion, spanking is at times nessasry. If a 6 yr old steals candy & all mom does is make them stay in there room for a week or two then when they get 16, want to go on a date but dont have the money, do you think that they will think twice about knockin the convient store over? No, because they have not been taught that some things are not acceptable. such as stealing or lieing. Parents are to guide the kids, not be there best friend. Though it is great to manage to do both, it is basically impossable.
@west_tx_goddess (1197)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Ok......20 years ago was there as many juveniles delinquents as there are today? No there wasn't. Why? Because children were disiplined. These days it is against the law to spank your children. When children no that there are no reprecussions for their actions why should they behave? These children ultimately end up doing prison time. As I say I would rather go to prison for teaching my children right from wrong rather than them go to prison because they didn't know right from wrong. I do believe that spanking your child on the bottom is disipline. The line is drawn between abuse and disipline when there are bruises left. Just my personal opinion and not meaning to offend anyone.
@Force_Fed (745)
• United States
29 Oct 06
If you spank your child with anger in your heart it can be abusive. However sometimes children want to test you. They will push buttons to find out what your limits are. It should be avoided whenever possible but there are times when you have to get their attention or show them you WILL be listened to. But never when you're angry, punishment is not discipline if it doesn't correct behaviour.
Force
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
29 Oct 06
I totaly agree....any time you do something in anger or raw emotion it never turns out good...
@saibal06 (2575)
• India
31 Oct 06
Well.. the line is very thin and it is very difficult to decide whether to spank or to abuse for teaching discipline.You can never change your kid using either method from inside.May be for the time being or in front of you he/she would be fine but what matters is whether this is coming right from his/her own heart or not. This depends upon the basic nature of the kids. I think from very early age if you present yourself as a role model by being discernably disciplined, then spanking or abusing would not be needed.
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
29 Oct 06
And keep the balance in your home...Sometimes as parents we forget who's running the show..you run the kids or they will walk all over you and the rest of the world when they grow up.
@silvatungfox (336)
• United States
29 Oct 06
I don't know if it actually is abuse or not, I do know I was raised with never having been given a spanking.
It would seem that it worked pretty well since I have pretty good values, pretty good ethics...
I think that spanking is perhaps a last ditch effort to get the attention of a child. I suppose if you have exhausted all other avenues it might be necessary, but I do not under normal conditions think it a good practice.
I suppose my reasoning (which obviously has nothing to do with the "it was done to me so I won't do it to my kids" syndrome) stems from the belief that we need to teach peace, negotiations, arbitration, compromise and other peaceful means to settle differences in the world.
@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
29 Oct 06
I've never negotiated with my son...I'm the parent...not the freind.My son has always tested his bouneries...And he gets reminded of where they are...and the consiquences for crossing them.
