Things that irritate me about my spouse
By PrettyViolet
@PrettyViolet (86)
United States
January 6, 2008 11:24am CST
I had a real desire to rant today. LOL So, I'm going to start this discussion for married (or those living together as married couples do) to list some things that just get under our skin about our significant others.
Without further ado:
He refuses to go to the doctor for his psoriasis, even though it itches him all the time, and he spends half the night in bed scratching in his sleep, which shakes the bed and wakes me up all the time.
He drinks quite alot of beer, and even though he is not abusive towards me in any way, he just acts stupid alot of the time, and it really bothers me that he seems incapable of staying sober for very long periods of time.
He likes to "spoon" me in his sleep and snore right in my ear---this drives me up the wall! LOL And when he isn't scratching or spooning me, he lies flat on his back with his knees up in the air, and they slowly fall over until the weight of his leg is on my hip. Grrrrr!
And so, while he is a good provider, a great parenting partner, and a wonderful man in general, it's the little things that irritate me the most....like his pickiness over shoes---I have gone to FOUR DIFFERENT stores with him while he was trying to find a pair of tennis shoes!! He's just as picky over socks---only the "over-the-calf" type tube socks, which he pulls up over his knees and then puts a fold in them right below his knee cap. He has a habit of putting his shoes up under the coffee table in the living room---which is okay for a pair or two---but then they start piling up if I don't watch him, and he has been known to have five pair in the living room at one time!! Worse than the kids! He refuses to eat a meatless meal----absolutely no vegetarian meals allowed. Now, I like meat too, but I can live without it for a meal once a week or so....nope, not him, if it has no meat, it's not a meal. grrrr.
Okay, here's your chance to list those irritating things about your spouse....I'm interested to see what the men have to say too! Rant away......
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
6 Jan 08
At this point it might be easier to list the things that DON'T annoy me lol...I'll try to keep it short though.
He procrastinates about EVERYTHING...his "just a minute" usually means an hour on a good day,"tomorrow" really means next week, and if he says he'll get to it next week I might as well forget about it ever getting done.
He can't get his priorities straight about anything...from getting us a home to how the money gets spent to what to do on a Saturday afternoon.
He doesn't pay attention to anything around him when he's on the computer...I already knew this but really tested it one night by getting completely undressed right next to him while he was playing his computer game, he didn't even blink.
And finally, since it covers a lot, he's a total pessimist about life. He never sees the good side of anything and will always find something to complain about...I'm a total optimist so this is extra annoying, although I'm sure he feels the same about me!
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@PrettyViolet (86)
• United States
6 Jan 08
OMG! The procrastination! My DH does that too!
When the roof was leaking, he'd say,"I can't fix it right now, it's raining." And when it wasn't raining, he'd say,"It's not leaking right now, is it?" ARRRGGGHHH!!! And one time, I asked him about putting up a gate on our porch, to keep the kids from falling down the steps when they were playing on the porch...he put me off and put me off for like two months---and finally, I broke down and put the thing up myself. He came home about the time I got finished, and said,"I was going to put that up for you." I said,"WHEN?!! Doomsday??!!" LMAO
I guess with the computer thing, now, I have to admit, I'm the one who usually doesn't pay attention to anything else when I'm on the computer. DH doesn't use the computer much at all. LOL And he hates it when I don't pay attention to him while I'm on the computer! And I'm really more pessimist than he is, although I think it has rubbed off on him, he's alot more negative now than he used to be. Results of a hard life, I suppose!
Thanks for responding! It feels good to rant once in awhile!
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
7 Jan 08
Oh boy I wouldn't dare. I might be able to come up with a couple of things if I think really hard about it. But I tell you it is the reverse in this house for sure. I might have to think about what irritates me about hubby but I am sure he could come up with a list of things that irritate him about me without even having to think about it. I procrastinate like crazy, beyond what is normal I am sure. I hate laundry but that is okay because he doesn't mind it at all so it gets done. I am not that great at keeping house but he is so helpful and that makes it okay. I don't clean up after myself to quickly but he doesn't say his job is done until he has cleaned up after himself well most of the time....Oh ya sorry this is about him...hmmm ya,,, let's see.....oh ya , drive me nuts.. he leaves his shoes where he takes them off and I usually trip over them.. why can't he just put them in the closet.. this house is not that big and the closet is close to the door and before you enter the living area...oh and he thinks he is so could about putting his glasses in the sink but I find them around the house all the time... He likes things way to sweet and that does irritate me; for instance he loves chocolat e milk.. I say he might as well for get the cholcolate and use straight sugar because that is all you can taste anyways. Same with his toast.. why not have toast with jam no no he has jam with a little toast. I hate seeing him eat all that sugar. Drive me crazy. But he isn't overweight and I am so figure that. Why do I feel guilty about commenting in this discussion? Does anyone else feel guilty? I feel like I am betraying him or something? Is that normal?
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@PrettyViolet (86)
• United States
8 Jan 08
Betraying him? Nope, I don't feel that way, mostly because I know that men take every chance they get to complain to each other about the shortcomings of us women. They are more harsh than we are most of the time. LOL
If it bothers you so much, list some of his good points along with the bad, kind of like I did in the first post of this discussion.
And thank you for participating in my discussion!
@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
6 Jan 08
my husband thinks that football is more important than my job
my husband smokes pot which I hate and he won't stop for anything.
My husband is so grumpy in the morning. It is impossible to have a conversation with him.
He always has these big plans but never actually goes through with them.
@UnselfishShellfish (1306)
• United States
6 Jan 08
Procrastinator.
He does laundry, which is fine, but he piles it on the stove or on top of the dryer for me to fold. Problem there in lies in that we have cats that like to knock the stuff off the stove/dryer and that in turn gets it dirty which means more electricity wasted to wash it again.
I think mine is scared of the dark. Every light in the house has to be on at night. He's the world's worst about walking into a room, turning on the light then leaving with it still on.
He loves to wake me up when I don't have to get up early to ask me off the wall questions. My first appointment was at 930 the other day rather than 7, so I had a few extra hours sleep. He woke me to ask where his boots were, where his phone was and a host of other questions.
He loves to complain about how messy the house is but won't help me clean it.
And I could go on.
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@PrettyViolet (86)
• United States
7 Jan 08
I wish mine did laundry...or anything else in the way of housework. But he doesn't. He won't even put his clean clothes away!
He's not bad about the lights, but then, I am. I forget to turn them off, especially if I'm busy.
If my husband woke me to ask me where his phone was, I would probably smack him. LOL If he can't keep up with his own things, then he can go to work without them...including his boots. LOL
Man, I am enjoying this too much! LOLOL
