Separating being a mom and wife

I totally understand what you are saying. As my children get older (7 & 5 now) it is getting easier. They are getting more independent and don't "need" me as much. I really struggled with this when I had my son (firstborn). It was all so new to me and my husband just didn't understand it even though I tried to explain it to him on several occasions. I think this is where going on dates with your husband on a regular basis is so important. We don't do it near as much as we should but when we do, it really gives our relationship a boost. We try not to talk about the children the whole time we are out. I am like you, at the end of the day, I like the quiet and just want some "me" time. . .without anyone pulling on me or wanting my attention. It seems selfish, but a woman can get lost in her "roles" and neglect her needs (quiet time, sleep, etc.). If you are too tired, too stressed and just drained of energy. . . you won't have anything to give anyone at all. . .so make sure you take that time for yourself to be "energized". . .do what you need to do to get there. You are in a season of life and all too quickly the children will grow up and leave the house. Enjoy them!!

i'm not yet a wife but i'm already a mother..for me, i think being a mom and a wife at the same time is important because having a family you owe your self to your family, being a mom to your children, attending there needs, and to be a good mom and a good model to them..at the same time you have to have a time to your husband..being a wife for him..also attending with his needs, make love with him, give him a big hug when your already in bed together..talking with your plans in life..

theese roles must be comlementary, not synonims each to other. It`s difficult to be a good wife, good mother and good professional at your job in one and the same time.So all of us really need a husband who is supportive, understanding and not too selfish. Unfortunatelly most the men just dont aware some very simple tips how to treat their wife and accept her as slave whoose obligations are to be universal for everything and everybody.

me and my hubby are married for 7 years now, but our son is only be turning two on february. he understands that i am really tired specially now that our son is a toodler. during the time that we dont have a baby yet i spend the time being his wife whether i am tired or not. that is why now that we have a baby he understands it very well. and on the other hand we talked about it too. try to talked about what you feel with him. i believe that everything can be solved on an open communication