If I would get a wife like her.
By CSHINE
@SHAMRACK (8576)
India
January 7, 2008 12:03am CST
Hi, She is so nice to me, so friendly, I do not know whether I had fallen in love and do not know is I just a friend for her. Any how I am sure the person who get her as his wife is too lucky. May be these kinds of women and men for women are mostly seen even thou some may not express it openly. Some may like to be friendly as it is so nice to be with them. The human basic tendency to get loved and to give love may be the basic reason to be with another companions. I do had seen many people comparing their partner with other asking them cannot you see her or him and do like that. Look at the way she love her husband so on.. Any to share...
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13 responses
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
8 Jan 08
If she is single, ask her out. I know that men can be shy. My boyfriend was. I sent him signals, hints, and signs. My last signal was what wrote in my notebook: "I love ______!" for all the world to see. He saw it. That night he wrote that he loved me in a cryptic message. He and I have been together for three months now.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
8 Jan 08
Life is full of taking chances and taking risks, and you will never know what might be, unless you go out there and do it. You have to put your best foot foward and "woo" her. Make her see you, make her see that you want her. I had to make my boyfriend notice me believe it or not. He was so damn shy, I had to do all of the work, and I was not going to give up, not without a fight. I sent out so many hints and so many signals. I should have joined the military with all of the signals I was sending out to this man. I wore my hair down, I wore chapstick, I was standing up straight, I was listening in on almost all of his conversations with my other friends, I told my friends that I wanted to be with him, I finally wrote that message in my notebook, and that was it, he finally wrote back to me and said the same thing. This all went on for a month by the way. Now for some people, it goes on longer, it could take a year before she says anything, but you just have to keep on doing it. You have get her to see that you love her.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
8 Jan 08
Oh, another I meant to add, do make sure that this is love, and not "lust" before doing all of this. If you are behaving differently than you normally do, then that means that you are in love, if not, you might want to sit this one out. If you want to make sure that she loves you, the best approach is talking to her as is a person. Just say "hello" or "hi". Do not use "pick up lines", those never work. Treat her as a person. Get to know her first. My boyfriend and I talked a lot before actually getting together. I was the one who came up to him and began talking to him. Make the talking friendly at first and then see where it goes from there.
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
3 Mar 08
Hi,
I also though of that, but after she comes to know that my intention is something else will she even ignore her friendship or the present relationship, may be I lack bit confidence, any how I am still happy with her present relationship, now we are going well, I have an access to her at any time.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
5 Mar 08
I am so idealistic when it comes to love and marriage. Each of us have this ideal man/women in our minds as our wife/husband but we may end up not having those ideal because we fell in love with somebody that is just so unsuitable and too far from our ideal. Sometimes it happens that way and if given the choice, I would want to fall in love that way and marry the person. I want to love the person and marry that person for who he is and not because for I think that person is supposed to be. It is unconditional acceptance and should be what is love and marriage should be about.
@islandrose (686)
• Philippines
8 Jan 08
Hi Shamrack!
Being a friend to her is a nice beginning. You can understand and know her better if you are friends. If love will knock at the door of your and her hearts, both of you can understand that. I think, you would rather stay as her friend, share your achievements, problems in life to her that she can understand you better. Then she will share her life to you in return too. You become mirrors to each other, then special attention will come in, and you just can feel aaaahhhh.... you love each other now. Then, that's the time to propose marriage.
@cartoon4umaniacs (1648)
• United States
8 Jan 08
What I understand is first off I should find someone who loves me and that I love and marry that person once that is done then I should not compare and say hey my friend's husband is such a good guy I wish I had him or do any kind of comparison because in order to keep a good marriage going I should embrace the idea of being married to him and love him unconditionally and to think of him as the best husband for me ...with that said hmm because I am human and therefore not perfect I do have a tendency to sometimes say hey such and such husband do dishes and do comparisons like that but I know that is bad and I will try to stop because I love my hubby and I wouldn't want any other man..
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
7 Jan 08
I'm not sure I really understand what this discussion is about.
But from personal experience, I feel that when we usually meet someone for the first time, we tend to focus on their good qualities more (even if we know their bad qualities). It's mostly after marriage that we focus more on the bad qualities and forget the good ones.
And you must have heard of the saying 'the grass is always greener on the other side'. That holds true for people too. What you think is the best wife might not really be the right one for you or it's probably a face that the person shows to the outside world. You can never be sure.
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@Ohara_1983 (4117)
• Kuwait
7 Jan 08
i think it not wrong if you will tell her your feeling if she is really sigle, but if not so sorry shamrack your love is will be your passion he he he he, or just try to ignore her she in other side maybe the right one will be there for you:)
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
8 Jan 08
Hi,
Actually I though of it but I really do not to loose her if she comes to know what is in my mind I afraid whether she tend to look me in another way which may effect our present friendly smooth running relation. Actually I do not want to ignore her. Thanks for suggestion.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
7 Jan 08
i think most of the people think so when they see someone, whose character they like too much. they want that person to be life partner. i think its the case with you as well. I do not exactly undersatnd who that person is. If she is your friend and has the same feelings, go ahead.
Best of luck.
@marymarj2002 (1769)
• Philippines
8 Jan 08
If she is still available then why not approach her if you loved her. Talk to her about your feelings. And if she gives her yes to you then that would be a good news.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
7 Jan 08
Hello dear shamrack. Many people would like to compare their own partners with others'. I think that it is very natural for people to compare so, but what we need to know is that what we see is not the complete fact as there is still so much that we do not know about. I think that we can learn from the others for their merits, but we are not supposed to forget the goodness from our own partners while we are having the comparison. By the way, I wish that you would get a wife like her as you wish. Good luck, my dear friend.
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
8 Jan 08
Hi,
May be it is God wish and I leave to God to take decision on this. If God permits it will be done. Any how I do not want to hear that I like a brother. I just like the present relation we have. Also I am happy if she get a good married life. Thanks for suggestion.
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