upset a good friend

Yes, I think the lie would have hurt me the worst... winning back trust takes some serious work and time. All I can think of for you to do is to let her know, in whatever way possible, that you miss her, care for her, and will stop at nothing to be her friend again. If you have friends in common, maybe they can let her know your progress... when she sees that your serious about turning your life around, she may decide that all of this happened for good cause. I hope you can get back together... good friends are the most valuable assets we have. All my best to you.

Honestly hun... I had kind of a similar thing happen. I had a BEST friend that I was inseparable from for 5 years. But then I met a guy and I chose to believe things he said about her rather than even bothering to ASK her about them. So she felt that I just cast her aside for my guy (which I did) and since then she stopped talking to me. I haven't talked to her since 2000 and I miss her dearly. The guy and I broke up in 2003. I recently found her on facebook and sent her a message saying I was sorry for not even giving her the benefit of the doubt etc... her response was to "block" me on that site. So I guess I've forever lost my friend, my sister, my confidante..... It hurts but I basically have learned now that I need to "suck it up and move on". This may be the same case for you. Betrayal whether it's coz of the money or the lies you told in regards to her are deadly to a friendship. It sucks but learn from it and don't ever do that again with your futuer friends. I say Send them a message or letter or email or phone call. Don't stop by their house. But apologize for lying, apologize for stealing. Tell them you miss them and value their friendship and that you don't want to lose them as a friend but then also tell them you would understand if they want nothing to do with you (this way you aren't "guilt tripping" them into talking to you). And then wait for a response. If none comes cry and move on. Hopefully you can mend this. Friends, I mean REAL friends are far and few between. They give us laughter and friendship and things only a wonderful and true friend can give.

The only way to possible sort things out is to come clean with everyone involved, although this still doesn't gaurantee she'll trust you again, trust has to be earnt.more lies or deception will make things worse! I hope you find a good solution.

Everybody will make the mistake, sometimes. I think you have to make an apology to her official. Buy her a gift and invite her to have a nice dinner. I hope she will forgive you.

Sounds like you have a drinking problem. Don't go and blame everything on drinking as that is not an excuse. It's just a gateway and drinking does not hold up. Sadly you will never gain her trust back as you went in her purse her personal belongings and you stole from her. Not a good thing to do. You are going to have to accept what you have done and the repicutions of what you did.