What if you found out that your significant other was (or still is) gay?

If your sig other was once gay, he is still gay. There is not changing orientation. If a straight man has had a relationship with a person of his own gender, he was not once gay. Gay is about attraction. Not about who you screw. My ex husband was and is gay. After two years of marraige, he admitted to me that he cluld no longer live a lie. he was not once gay, he was always gay and still is. He's now happy with a great guy. My only problem is that he wasted 40 years in a lie.

I have gone out with a woman that also liked girls but not too much of it - to say she is bi curious. Honestly it doesn't bother me, but if she over did it then that would be a problem. I wouldn't want to come home and expect her spending more time with girls than me. But I wouldn't have that problem to begin with.

That would really suck to find that out especially if you've invested a lot of years into the relationship. I would feel like I had been betrayed.I really don't know for sure how I would deal with it.