would you go back to your ex if she or he hurt you badly before?

Sometimes it takes twice to realize you made a big mistake in your life. What is important right now is that you are happy with yourself. One important thing to consider now is that you've learned something from that mistake and it prevented you from making more mistakes in life.

Good for you. You finally got out of that bad relationship. I understand what you are talking about. I went through the same thing with my EX. I'm glad you got out when you did. I was not smart enough. I stayed even though he verbally abused me for years. I left him and went back when he said "SORRY". As the years went by things got worse and turned to physical abuse. I could take the verbal but the physical got him 3 wekks in JAIL. HaHA! Lucky him. So you see this same thing could have happened to you had you stayed. I too have moved on. I have a wonderful boyfriend who will become my HUsband this week and then I will become a Military Wife. Good Luck

I am so sorry to hear about your experience. If my ex-boyfriend hurts me badly, I don't think I will accept him again. I know it is hard to forget him because I totally get involve in the love. However, if he can hurt me so badly, how can I expect him to treat me good in the future. He won't be a good partner for me. So even though it is so hurtful and difficult, I have to give him up.

I actually did that. My boyfriend in high school cheated on me....I was very hurt...we split up and then a year later found out he still liked me and wanted to get back together,,,,ha,,,so we talked and worked things out. We got engaged talked about the future...me moving out west with him and going to school...that spring he cheated on me again...I threw his ring in his face and told him to never speak to me again...have you ever heard the song unanswered prayers by GArth Brooks, It speaks wonders for sure...

I wouldn't go back to my ex if she abused my trust towards her. Other than that, we could probably talk things over. For me breaking ones trust is the most serious offence you could ever have in a relationship. That's why as much as possible I try to be worthy of my girlfriend's trust all the time. It's very hard to earn it but can easily be lost.

No, definitely not. If it didn't work before, how can one expect it can work now?

Of course NOT... i will not come back to my ex if he hurt me badly before,, why i will do that? to get hurt again? no way...sometime we are so blind to not see the reality and we continue to be crazy on our life,,but we have to be strong and walk away..

Soo let me think about this...UMM NOOO WAY IN HELL!! i went this route soo man yt imes and im telling u once a cheater always a cheater no matter how many times they say there sorry..of course theer sorry..THEY ARE SORRY THEY GOT CAUGHT!!..im tellin u..its bull..my latest ex was a serious ho bag..i was in the hospital and was in theer for 2 weeks and my best friend took me in afterwards and cared for me and the whole damn time he was doing her!!!! oh yesss!!jerk!! well i wil tell u what..kciked his bum to the curb as well hers..and that sucked even more since she was my best friend and was like my sister to me..and i dropped them bot outta my life forever..babes..its not worth it..i was in a serious depression for a month..and now i found soemone..who is so wonderful..i know he will never stray..he treats me like a queen..and i love him soo much..and hes soo romantic..a bit over jelous..and insecure about himself..but we are workin on that..hes soo afraod that i will be the one to stray/./and well it wil never happen..soo after all this book i typed lol..i say run...RUN AS FAST AS U CAN..it always happens again..and iw ish u the best luck in ur new life..:) April

Every individual is different so you can never generalise this opinion that you shoul never go back to your ex if he has hurt you. I think you should always follow your heart. since you didn't stop yourself from going back to your ex because may be you felt things will settle down but now your heart feels you should leave him..so leave him. Its good to know that now you are happy.

Well I wouldn't, because I believe that if he hurt you even just once, he could do it again and again and again :)

good on you for getting out of a abusive relationship.i know it was probably hard for you to do,even though he said he was sorry ,leopards never change their spots. i am glad you have moved on into a new relationship and you are happy.cheers sue

There was a couple of times I wanted to get with an ex. And as much as I wanted to my friends were there to remind that there was a reason he became my ex. I had to forget about the sweet talking and pretty eyes. I had to remember that he treated me badly when it really counted and people don't change. He was going to hurt me again and I didn't want to put myself through that. I am glad I listened because now I am with someone who is amazing and I couldn't imagine a relationship like this with my ex.

The action of man attack woman is too bad, it should not be forgiven.

As for my opinion, i think giving him another chance for a mistake he has done for the first time, is just ok, especially if you still love the person and you think he is sincere, but if he is doing that a lot of times, 2 times is just enough. There are many guys that would be deserving for your love. So If I am in your place, I would look for another man who would love me faithfully. Well I am happy you have move on and realize what your ex boy-friend is doing to you. Best regards

The answer to that question relies on the sincerity of the ex coming back. Maybe giving a second chance has no harm. But if he keeps on hurting you everytime and then asks for forgiveness again then I would not let the world go around with him again. There should be a limit to his saying of sorry and his hurtings.

When I end a relationship, that's it for me!It would be good to have a second chance but in my mind it would always be at the back of my brain about"What if...then it would be happening again"!In this sense better to have the person be truthful in changing his/her bad attitude before accepting him/her again.In that way, you wouldn't be hurting yourself and the other party again.As much as this is so called a relationship, it takes the two of you to make up, contribute and make it better than before.It takes two to "Tango" you know...don't spoil your lover or the "crap" would come out in him/her.

hello,fianne,if you give him the next opportunity,and he never cherish it,so pls go away from this man..wish you have a good day,and enjoy the relationship now,,,dont sad for the missed wrong man,,,

I believe I would go back to my former lover who hurt me, but only if he proved himself to me that he wouldn't hurt me anymore. I believe people are completely capable of change. I wouldn't want him to change because of me; I'd want him to change because it's the right thing to do. If he were to change just because of me, the change would only be temporary. If my former lover refused to change and continued to hurt me (as was similar in your unfortunate situation), I would get out of it for good. There's no sense wasting time when nothing will change with that guy. Obviously, I wouldn't be worth it to him if he was stubborn like that. Great discussion! By the way, I'm so glad you found an awesome relationship. It's so wonderful to be loved!

Hi fianne, That is a very hard question. If a boyfriend hurt me, I would definitely have to think twice about taking him back. This depends on the guy and how I was hurt; but if I thought the guy deserved a second chance I would go back to him. Sometimes you have to ask yourself, "What if he treats me better next time?" If you try and find this out you will have answered two more questions. The first being , "can he change?" and the other is "will I regret not giving him a second chance?" Anyway, in your case the second chance showed him to be someone to let go. Congratulations on finding out and your new relationship. Take Care.

no never get back wth an ex