Temper tantrums

I cant give you any advice on this one we are going through the same thing and are kids are the same ages.So i will be reading other post as well.

problem of u'r child may be due to his present or past atmospheares.spend u'r relaxing time with them lovely and try grow a belif in their mind that u are someone unavoidadable&respectable.then slowly bring the attention of the elder ones attention to the youngers problem and make him think that this type of behavior is something very bad.

Hi, Rainbow. It's nice to hear you had a better day. Here in California it's 90 degrees and sunny. Last month we had one day when it was 117! I keep thinking about your son and how he's doing. I must tell you, based on experience, it never hurts to thank the teachers and give them some homemade cookies once in a while. They experience a lot of stress and an autistic child is difficult to handle, as you know! By thanking them, they will see you as a partner in this endeavor. Does Bong like T.V.? It never hurts to watch educational T.V., if he will. It could even be a reward for good behavior. You know, it's not just autistic children who tantrum. One time, in a first grade, I taught a child who would scream for up to 2 hours at a time when he didn't get his way. Another thing that might help Bong control himself is to give him lots of physical exercise to tire him out.

I will rather you get him to watch funny things such as cartoons, as well as appease his senses with cartoon drawings and so on. I will also liek youy to introduce to him religion and I will rather advice that it is a Christian religion where he/she is taught about wrongs and right and make it interesting for him. You can also contact Christian organizations for assistance. Pls try to ask this question on the www.cbn.com website and you will get good response.

if you have the time and money the best thing is for you to enroll them into some sort of martial arts! sometimes the cost is very resonable it has helped children with ADHD! at least it wont hurt to ckeck it out.

kids usually tantrum/s to get what their want, this is their own way of getting ur attention. simply dont give in to their tantrum/s, in the long run they would realize that they can get nothing from it and they will stop from doing it.

Dear Rainbow, Bong sounds like he is quite high functioning. That's great! With a good education, he should do well in life. Some autistic children never learn to speak, much less read like Bong. It's common for all children up to age 7 to reverse letters and numbers and even whole words sometimes. Writing is often difficult for young boys. Give him some clay to play with to help develop his small muscles in his hands. Also, stringing beads, coloring, playing with marbles will help. It sounds like you're in Great Britain? I'm in the U.S., so I'm not so familiar with your school system. I think Bong should go to school for a couple of reasons. 1. You need a break and some time to spend with your younger child. 2. Bong needs the expertise of specialized teachers because of his autism and ADHD. Keep in close contact with the school and take advantage of everything they can offer him. You can still work with him at home like a homeschooling parent. Keep the sessions short (5-15 minutes) and use lots of praise and small rewards like little toy cars and inexpensive fun things he likes. One more reason for him to go to school is to be around other kids. Autistic children sometimes withdraw into themselves. He'll be less likely to do that at school. If the school recommends a special class or school, consider it very seriously. Incredible progress is made by kids being taught by specialist teachers.

As a teacher for 20 years, I found that children with ADHD and autism are extraordinarily difficult to handle. Your son needs medication for ADHD; there are enough that the doctor should find some that work. There are also clinics that help parents deal with autistic children. Find one! The school should be able to give you some referrals. The only way to cure temper tantrums is to remove whatever they're fighting about and then ignore the screaming. Put them in separate rooms, where they can't hurt themselves or do too much damage. They'll quit screaming eventually. You must never give them what they want when they tantrum or they will continue forever.

First of all - what makes them throw a tantrum?

I only have one child at this time as a custodial grandmother and his tantrums are a thing of the past. I did with him what I did with my own when they acted out. I ignored him totally. Kids are like anyone else, they repeat behavior that reaps rewards and those rewards can simply be attention. That said, it is quite different when there are two of them as they can hurt each other, etc. I would first make sure they were not experiencing food or airborne allergies. A friend had a small child who threw the worst temper fits I've ever seen throwing himself into walls and injuring her. After an exhaustive battery of tests, it was discovered that the child had a violent allergy to tomatoes and grains. She removed those from his diet and he became a lamb. Also, you might try watching "The Super Nanny." I've not seen a child so badly behaved that he/she did not respond to her techniques. She truly is a SUPER nanny.

wow this is my life... I have two boys aged 6 and 2 1/2 years.. They sound exactly the same. My boys fight over anything and everything. I'm also concerned as now my 2 year old is also coping everything my older son does the screaming and crying is sooo out of control. My youngest is such a "well behaved" kid too and I can see him changing into a little terror just like his brother. Like they say " what monkey see monkey do " I unfortunally don't really have any bright ideas Ive tried everything from taking things away to rewards, new games, new routines, everything but nothing seems to help. Ive just tried to relax more and remind myself this is NOT forever they will be all grown up before we know it and we will be wishing for these days back but it would be nice not to have the tantrums.. I hope you get some great responses I'll be watching as I'm keen for fresh ideas aswell.. GOOD LUCK !! :) !!

If your child has medical problems and requires medication. Talk to your doctor and see if it needs adujusting. He may not be able to control some of it. You might also ask your doctor if there is a support group in your area, I'm sure there are alot of parents with the same or simular problem that might be of help to you. If you can get someone else to watch them for a couple of hours so you don't get burnt out. You sound like a good mother, but you can't help them if you have nothing left to give. Sometimes just talking to someone gives a lift to your day.

Contact Homeopathic doctors. They definity have some medication which will not have side effects. Secondly, put him on yoga and there are some exercises which will reduce the anger(temper).

Show them more love and be sure that either you or your spouse don't get angry like that either at each other or at them cos most times children learn and copy what their parents do not necessarily what you want them to do or tell them to do.

make both ur kids divert their minds.just give them interesting drawing books and provide them with plastic crayons and make them scribble as much they want to.this will also help them have a grip in holding a pencil while writing as well.