my sister

that's a tough situation to be in. I think that sometimes you just have to tell your sis gently that I don't like the situation that you are in, but I'm going to let you live your own life. Just know that I'm there for you. It seems like things are going to go in the predictably bad way that they usually do, but at least she'll know that you'll be there, not to tell her "i told you so" but to at least be there for her. Sometimes i just don't understand what it is about these unreliable men that draw women so irresistably to them.

I feed bad for you both, but i dont know what to say.. I think that if you want to keep your relationship with you sister, you should just let her do what she is going to do anyways without critisims, because it seems she doesn't wanna hear it anyways right ? So just accept her the way she is and what she does, try to help her when you can, but stay out of her personal stuff untill she asks for help/advice or you will end up pushing her out of your life i think.. I hope everything works out for you and your sister. When you were growing up did you think it was a blessing that you were so close in age ? I am pregnant with my second daughter and my first wont even be two before the next is born. I am scared of being tag teamed when they are teenagers!!

I think you already have given your advice to your sister. It is her problem already if she would not listen to you. But I know you will be affected because you don't want your sister to suffer but still she is the one who is making decisions for herself. All you can do is advice and support her.

Sounds like your sister needs a wake-up-call as Dr. Phil would say. And this is no laughing matter. There are children involved. My sister is two years younger than me as well so I know where you are coming from for sure. That guy sounds like a LOSER. Get a haircut and get a real job my friend. He also needs a wake up call. You can't MAKE her do anything. She has to see it with her own eyes that she deserves better and her baby deserves better. She probably wants to be with him for a few different reasons. Go and buy her the book, He's just not that into you. One of the BEST books to buy for ANY WOMAN!!!! Seriously it is great. In one chapter it talks about how if he ain't workin he does not respect you, he sure as hell don't love you, you deserve better, get rid of that ZERO cause the HERO is around the corner waiting for you to be single!!!! Tell her it's a late Christmas gift that will last the rest of her life. Have a sit down one and one talk. Be calm. Be real. Show your REAL emotions. Don't offend him. Don't even bring him up. Talk about her and how she is feeling. What she wants for her life and for her baby's life. It may open her eyes... In the meantime, hang in there, you sound like a great sister. take er easy

I never had a sister but I think you just keeps on telling her what you know. Tell her that you love her so much and you just want her to know whats happening around her. We just all hope that she will listen to you once and for all.

There is nothing you can say to convince your sister that this guy may not be the one for her. Just be supportive of her and learn to respect her choice. If he is not right for her eventually she will find this out and make the right decisions. If you persist you may lose her friendship all together.

Unfortunately people rarely listen to things they don't want to hear so although I think you are right to try to tell her about him it's unlikely to do much good. People generally need to make their own mistakes. It's hard to stand by and watch them doing it sometimes but at least you can be supportive of her when she does finally realise he's a loser.

Let her live her own life and you step in when there is a problem which she cannot manage.

Please forgive me if this seems harsh -- but I've learned a lot during my time here on this planet. Your sis's B/F is exciting. There is drama when he is around. That is the draw that he has on your sis. Notice I didn't say he was good for her. He isn't. Until SHE decides she has had enough of that lifestyle ( rarely does a person like he is change) things are going to not only be bad for her -- but get worse. The thing you can do for her is to be there to talk to her. Don't sugar coat things -- don't try to smooth things over. She will get mad at you -- she will probably stop talking to you when you say these things -- but this is reality. Not the drama filled life of being with a bad boy. The thing you need to watch out for --is rescuing her. Giving her money for food -- bailing her out of jail ( totally not her fault of course --except that is a result of the lifestyle she is headed for) getting her resources that are yours. The right thing to do and the only way she will mature and live a healthy life --is by her feeling the consquences of her actions. That means you let her fall. Let her feel the pain. Let her make the tough decisions that she needs to wake up.