black sheep in the family
By honeylore23
@honeylore23 (1081)
United States
January 9, 2008 2:45am CST
Who is the blacksheep in your family. Do you condemn her/him for being such? Do they need your condemnation, do that help?
I have a sister who used to be the problem of everyone in the family. When she does an errand it takes here an hour and even 3 hours to complete. Just like when she was ask to buy bread on the nearby store, she comes back after 3 hours and mother has already done with ironing the clothes and very hungry. And the worst of all, is what happened last week, when she was ask to get the money from my cousin who happened to lend it from mother the other month. She made us all worried about her. She goes last Sunday but went home Monday evening. And she didn't knock the door to get inside and report what happened. She just slept outside, beside the front door, on the cemented floor and get in when my mother woke up at 2:00am. It was not a new scene, she did it everytime she made a mistake. Do you think she would become the black sheep of the family. What will we do to make her change her attitude? Some advice please
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7 responses
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Jan 08
i dont think she will be...i think in my opinion you have to talk it out with her about her behavior and what goes on her mind..does she do it on purpose or whatever..let her talk and voice out her opinion or whats the reason behind all the misdemeanor..maybe she lacks attention..how old is she?
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@bushfiredmx (111)
• Philippines
10 Jan 08
I had a brother who was once like that. What we did was we started to have these small meetings with him, asking him what's his problem or is there something bothering him. And we also showed him that we are always ready to support him and assist him if ever he's in trouble. Eventually, all our efforts paid off. Right now, he's already a Registered Nurse and were very proud of his accomplishments.
I'd suggest that you try to show your sister that you'll be there for her no matter what. Try to support her and cheer her up instead of shouting at her all the time. Shouting doesn't lead to anything good, it only makes them more rebellious. Take it from me, my brother was like that. So be more understanding and show her that she is important. Eventually she'll come to her senses.
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@honeylore23 (1081)
• United States
10 Jan 08
thanks for the advises. I will remember all of that. Hope it will work. Coz we have been doing that, the past, maybe we need more time to show to her our love and affection and how important she is us.
@ganandoplata (814)
• Chile
9 Jan 08
My little brother is the black sheep in my family.,... he is constantly doing things, messing around and having problems. Anyway, he is not too bad; it´s just that he is the most different of all of us and the one that is constantly having problems. I tried to speak to him sometimes, but I do think that those conversations were not important for him. I do think that there are other things that made him change his mind somehow, like loosing friends or having them away keeping distance, less conversations with our family and things like that. Then he realized he had to change... greetings and good luck!
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@mjweed21 (693)
• Philippines
9 Jan 08
You know, years back I considered myself as the black sheep of the family. I did lots of mishaps that made me think how waa I able to do it. But you know what, that sister of your just wanted to get attention from your family. She's not that problematic one. All you have to do is to talk seriously. Have a friendly talk with her. Discuss with her the things that she had done in the past. Encourage her to make a reflection from the things she'd done. In that way, you surely, at least, in a gradual manner change her attitude. Trust me, she isn't that bad.
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@honeylore23 (1081)
• United States
9 Jan 08
I don't think too that she is bad, and I will never think that way. I did try your suggestion but it doesn't work,she just don't look at me when i talk with her maybe it needs time and patience to make for me to succeed talking to her and let her reflects her actions.
Thanks for the reply...It is really a nice advice.
@abdulwahab468 (384)
• Pakistan
10 Jan 08
dont take her to be a black sheep too early.
try to correct her first, genuinely, without any pre supposed ideas once again.
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@jeff_td (27)
• China
10 Jan 08
Your sister is so interesting, I think she need more care. Just have a friendly talk to her and don't angry to her. you should let her know that all of members in your family are so worry about her when she did that things. I am sure she is not always like now
