what are we teaching our children????
By chigawaga
@chigawaga (592)
Canada
January 9, 2008 1:53pm CST
im at the mall yesterday and there i see 2 girls,,no older then 10yrs old and they both are in miniskirts highheels and tanktops!its minus 10 outside,,snow on the ground,and im sure alot of creepy disgusting men out!now im sure alot of kids take clotehs to school and change there but still,,WERE ARE THE PARENTS!!why would these young girls want to dress like that?where they not taught dressing inapropartly could cause for great dangers?especially the dangers of creepy pervs?it makes me sad to see this and every year it seems to be worse,,more and more little girls runnen around in skimpy clothes!WHAT HAS THIS WORLD COME TO!!were are the parents???
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2 responses
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
9 Jan 08
Between 8 and 10 years of age, girls are totally capable of hiding preferred clothing to be worn when parents are not present...this isn't new. I imagine that there were girls back in the Victorian era who shuck a big sister's corset because trying it on and wearing it in secret made them feel more grown up.
Some of what we see is cultural, but not the way most people think. Some cultures celebrate a girls entering womanhood between 13 and 15 and this "anticipatory socialization" by wearing heels and such is tolerated quite well, so ya never know. Parents might find it reassuring that their daughters are moving up to adulthood, at least mentally speaking.
Each person has theri version of what they fell is appropriate. It is best to take a deep breath, and look away when people you cannot control, do things that you would change if you had control!
@chigawaga (592)
• Canada
9 Jan 08
it still makes me sad:( for a child to hide there clothes to wear elsewere without the parents around shows that there parents have not taught them how to appropiatly put togheter an outfit!ok so your little girl loves to wear that adorable pink skirt,ok well put jeans on underneath and thats ok,,so many simple little things could prevent children from being a peerpressured fashion brat at the age of 10!!
thanks for your response:)
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
9 Jan 08
Well, I don't think it is unusual and don't find it alarming, just interesting. Its definitely not new. I don't think it is indicative of any lapse in parenting at all. If anything it might be the rebellion resulting from living in a very strict household.
To each their own. We can have the rules we see fit for our own offspring, and should focus on those and not what we see in passing that involves other young people. If our rules are sound then we needn't worry about peer influences as much as we need to focus on being sure our sons and daughters are prepared to deal with diversity with a healthy eye towards knowing where they end, and everyone else begins.
@mac1946 (1602)
• Calgary, Alberta
6 Feb 08
while the type of society we now have,yes,it can be dangerous for young children,(boys as well as girls )there always have been style trends that most kids of this age will do anything to wear.
I ca remember the 50's and 60's style of clothing that used to drive my mom nuts and she would try a whole bunch of things to make us stop,I was the lucky one though,as being the only male,I could get away with my styles quite easy,but my two sisters,it was another story.
lets try another anolagy,picture this,( it really did happen with my sister),they style of the day was skirts or dresses below the knees,now imagine my mothers thoughts when she found out my sister came home from school (after a stop at the fountain cafe) wearing her short pleated cheerleader uniform?
I know the dangers were much less than today,but for the mothers,it seemed even then to be bad.
great discussion.
