When is the best time to toilet train?

@LouRhi (1502)
Australia
January 9, 2008 10:35pm CST
I puzzles me that most of western society waits so long to toilet train their babies. I am sure the average here in Australia must be around 3. You see so many toddlers of that age still wearing nappies and there is also a wide range of products available in terms of a nappy for this group. In places like Russia and China, babies start toilet training as young as six months. This seems much more sensible to me. Both my children were toilet trained before the age of 2. What are your thoughts and when did you leave nappies behind?
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• United States
10 Jan 08
My 2 girls were the easiest to potty train. My son on the other hand had many issues with it. He was three before I could get him to go on the toilet. Not that I didn't try. My girls were potty trained by 2. my youngest though was great. Before she was even 2 she wanted to you the toilet
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
I have heard lots of mums say that girls are much easier. I only have girls but they were pretty easy, in fact my first picked it up so quick that I couldn't believe it was for real! On the other hand though I have a friend with 2 boys and they didn't waste time in nappies. Both got the potty thing really quick. Thanks for your comment
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
10 Jan 08
I started the potty training my oldest the day she turned 12 mnths. I got a potty chair and had her sit on it when I went. I kept up with this until she turned 2, then I took diapers away and put panties on her. She only had maybe 3 accidents and that was it. No accidents at night, heck she even got up in the middle of the night to go potty that I got her a night light to put in the bathroom. Now with my youngest, I can honestly say she was a pain in the butt. I did everything with her that I did with my oldest. She saw her potty chair as a trash can. When I put panties on her she would take them off and bring me a diaper. She didn't fully become potty trained until she turned 3. I think it's weird to potty train a child at 6 months, because when they are sleeping, you will have extra laundry. My sister's daughter that's 7 now honestly potty trained herself once she turned 1. She took her diaper off and climbed on top of a big potty. She found a pair of panties that belonged to my oldest that my mom kept around and put them on. My mom was shocked to see her do this. Now with night time, I don't know if she had any accidents or not. I am glad that diapers are not in my daily life or my future (knock on wood.
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
11 Jan 08
It is amazing. I went into the potty training my last thinking it should be easy since my first was. You don't know the joys of not having to deal with diapers again. (knock on wood). Now I can handle dealing with diapers if I'm babysitting but that's it.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
1 Apr 08
yes we van get a bit complacent if it is very easy the first time round. Neither of my two were hard but the second just took a little longer however as I started earlier she was actually out of nappies at a younger age than my eldest so I guess it really does have a lot to do with timing
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@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
Thanks for sharing another great story. Again it is amazing how siblings can differ isn't it? Ahh the end of nappies.....Isn't it every mothers dream!
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• United States
11 Jan 08
I started potty training my children when they could get complete words out. I do believe that all of my children where trained by the age of 2. My boys were trained a little earlier than that....about 18-20 months. Now about training at 6 mo., I think this is way too early. I feel that the child cannot even get themselves to the bathroom at that age, so how will they understand what to do? I dont know...my opinion I guess.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
Yes there is no way that training can actually begin at this young age. It is certainly more of an educating. I do believe that if enough attention be paid that you could be pretty successful. Young babies are fairly regular. Thanks for sharing
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
25 Jan 08
My little guy will be 2 next week. He's been day time potty trained for about 3-4 months now. He has an occasional accident, but uses the potty at least 90% of the time when he's awake. He's nowhere near night time potty trained, though.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
1 Apr 08
That is fantastic that your little boy is doing so well. It really feels great to be out of nappies before two doesn't it. I am sure the night will come soon enough, it also has to do with the size of their bladder I think Thanks for sharing and good luck
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
13 Jan 08
I'm in Oz too but have never known anyone to leave it as late as 3 to toilet train. I think 6 months is silly & far too young, most kids aren't doing a lot at that age so how are they supposed to get to the potty if they need to go? My daughter is 19 months & we've recently started introducing her to the potty! My oldest niece was toilet trained before the age of 2, however, her twin sisters are 2 1/2 & only just getting the hang of it now. I guess it really does depend on the child & how quickly they pick things up - if they have trouble then leaving it a little later might be the way to go but if you have a child that can get in to the knack of using a potty early then i'm all for that as well!
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
1 Apr 08
Yeah I know of some. Maybe not leaving it till 3 to start but certainly not being trained by this age, particularly at night. There is certainly a time and effort factor that makes the difference. It is all about familiarity I think. Obviously at 6 months the parent is going to play a big part in ensuring that there a none (or next to none) wet nappies. Thanks for sharing
@chestyna (113)
2 Apr 08
I have 19 months old baby boy and I am trying to potty train him as i think he is ready, but it is not quite working as he doesnt want to sit on it for longer time and it is starting to be stressfull. I am from Slovakia and babies there start to sit on potty at around 6 months, but they are not going without nappy straight away. It is around 18 months there. So i have that pressure feeling from my mum to push the potty training now and other pressure from the people living here in UK, who are saying it is too soon and he is not ready. I would love if he can go without nappies but it is quite true that he is not ready yet to be potty train. But i do agree with you that society waits too long to potty train the children.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
10 Jan 08
Those who had their trained by two are lucky..The doctor would just say don't force it let it happen on their terms, they will let you know when they are ready. But that can agitate alot of parents it did my mother with my little sister who was 4 before being fully potty trained. Didn't have problem at first then we traveld to visit family and she got scared because of those self flushing toilets and to hurry her up my sister in law told her a monster was in there going to get her. talk about scared she refused to go to any more bathrooms after that for awhile. My brother told her that a monster was on ours that wanted her to feed it..stupid idea..But with patience I helped my mom potty train her. Only had trouble when she got a urinary tract infection. So best thing is not to scare them or push them into it to soon because some kids(the stubborn ones) will just make it that much harder on you to potty train them. And make sure they aren't under alot of stress make going fun if possible like racing to see who gets there first then wiggle around while they use it and make them laugh pretty soon they will start going on their own. I have seen 5 year olds in diapers and seen 4 year olds sucking pacifiers and bottles.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
I couldn't agree with you more. You should never ever under any circumstance apply any pressure for your child to use the potty. To a certain extent going to the toilet is an instinctive process. One that is not easily speed up. It must be a relaxed process. The comprehension will eventually develop. As for the 5 year old diapers and 4 year olds with dummies and the like, it is all wrong and on so many different levels! I am all for extending childhood but all babies grow up and by the age of three these baby items should be gone.
• United States
10 Jan 08
I think everybody's opinion differs on this topic. My son is 19 months and I have started trying to potty train him. He has his own little potty in our bathroom and when we would use the toilet he would sit on his potty so I thought I would go ahead and start trying. He goes sometimes and doesn't go sometimes. I'm not going to push him though, I'm just going to let him go at his own pace.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
Great comment sweetgirl. Parents shouldn't feel pressured to toilet train if they don't think it is the right time. Your son will get there when he is ready and 19 months is still young. Good luck with it, I'm sure you'll be surprised at how quickly the penny drops when the time is right
@subha12 (18441)
• India
10 Jan 08
i think from 15-18 months is the best time. i have seen my little niece to be potty trained by this time.In our country mainlyt the babies are potty tarined at early age. I think its good habit.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
Yes I agree the earlier the better. Thanks for sharing
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
10 Jan 08
I think 15-18 mos is the ideal time to start getting serious about it - as that is the time when physiologically the child's brain neurons are developed enough to understand and control their eliminations. I started at about that age with mine, my son was potty trained to urine before 18 mos but for fecal matter he was closer to 2 years one daughter began at 18 mos and was complete by 2, no night time dipes or anything my youngest was a bit slower - we started, it did not hold her interest, she had a difficult time controlling her bladder until she was a little over 2, and was not completely trained and reliable till 3 years old through the night.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
Again another spot on answer. I have to agree with what you say. Of course there will be differences between children but I think for the most part this could easily apply to most parents. Education and effort can go a long way! Thanks for sharing
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
10 Jan 08
My son was just barely 3 when he was FULLY potty trained. He was a stubborn child. He knew when he needed to go he just chose not too go. My daughter is 11 months old and has used the potty many times since she was about 9 months old. She follows me into the bathroom and I put her on the toilet. Most of the time she will go shortly after sitting down, but she is nowhere near potty trained yet. I think it is mostly luck.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
Yes lady luck was certainly a helping hand with my second daughter. It all helps it sinks in!
• Canada
10 Jan 08
I think 6 months is way too young. I did not toilet train my babies until they were ready. With that said, it was also forced upon them. By the time they were 2.5, I had already talked and demonstrated the whole process. On Christmas day, I ran out of diapers and no stores were open. I told my daughter sorry, No more diapers! and that was it. For my youngest, she was starting daycare and needed to be trained so we did the big countdown, 10 more diapers.... 3, 2, 1... all done! It worked for me but I know a lot of parents have a harder time.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
That is a fantastic story and a great way to approach the subject. It is great when you can communicate in that manner with your children. I think the 6 month thing is based on the elimination communication theory stuff. Where you learn to read your baby's signals. Great idea but a lot of work or rather time and attention. Not that easy after the first child. Plus the countries I mentioned are very poor and can't afford nappies so they have no option.
@Sillychick (3275)
• United States
10 Jan 08
The right age depends on the child. I have seen children at 18 months who were ready, and children at 3 years who weren't. It depends on the child's maturity. But on average, it is probably 2 years, maybe up to 2 1/2 years. When children start showing signs of readiness, like being uncomfortable in a wet diaper, or telling you when they have to go, it's time to start potty training. I think 6 months is too young. I have heard of a group of people advocating 'diaper free babies' here in the US, and they start from birth and never use diapers. While it's economical and environmentally friendly, I don't think it's appropriate. Babies have no control over their bladder or bowels until at least 1 year of age. On the other hand, I see your point- I don't know why people wait if their children are ready. Except because they don't want to do the work.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
Yes it certainly does depend on the child's maturity or comprehension. Yes I to know of the nappy free thing. I have also heard it as EC(Elimination Communication)I don't really understand how it can work in the first 3 or even 6 months. But I do agree that if you pay enough attention you would be able to get it right 90% of the time. It is an exceptionally high level of effort that is needed though, plus messy if you get it wrong. I will probably adapt some of the thoughts if I have another baby but I will just do it with a nappy on.
• Canada
10 Jan 08
My daughter is 2 and she is fully potty trained and so was my 7 year old...she has accidents but she did so well. I started them both when they were 18 months and took my time and had to be really patient with them...I think some people are just lazy to tell you the truth and leave it till there child can tell them exactly when and where they can go to the bathroom. That is my opinion
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
Couldn't disagree with you on the lazy aspect mag. Thanks for sharing :)
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
10 Jan 08
My daughter took it upon herself to start using the potty just before she turned 2. I had pulled out the potty chair to get her use to seeing it, I hadn't planned on even trying for a few months yet. One day she just started using it & never needed any extra pointers, encouragement or whatever from me. My two sons on the other hand I thought would be in college before they figured it out. The older was probably 3.5 before he was using the potty more often than not, but 4 before he was fully using it. My youngest was just past 4 when he stopped having accidents. Boys seem to both not really care about having accidents and not have the muscle control as early as girls. I may be having selective memory, but I don't recall my daughter ever having an accident once she started using the potty.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
Great story eden, thanks for sharing. I wonder if there are any studies on why boys are slower in this sometimes. Certainly seems to be like a trend here
@dania_elm (421)
• United States
10 Jan 08
3 of my 5 were potty trained by 18 months. one by age 2. the other was little hehind and he waited until 3. when they are off the bottle at 12 months and walking i started potty training mine. if ur child gets u a diaper when it does its business--potty train it!!!
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
Yes that is always a tell-tale signs isn't it! Thanks for the comment