Freedom and Indian Women

Hi Subathra its nice to see u active on mylot after long time i always miss the sentence "u r rated plus" (smile) Well as far as the topic is concern, sure ladies are coming at front in differnt section of life as people and gov realize that to meet the challenges of new era, the participation of women is imoportant which is sure half of the population in most of the countries. Women are mostly coming forward in professions like education, medical, banking , call centres and other services oriented profession as timing are quite relaxed. As far as married women are concerned, i personally believe that primary responsibilty of woman is to take care of home, raise a kid in a manner that they are beneficial for society, keep home environment pleasent and cooperate husband. but if necessary for financial support then she should go out and work. other wise use their knowledge and education for betterment of society. if married woman can raise kids and run house properly and still have time to do job then sure do it, keeping this in mind a new business "day care centre" is emerging fast and helping a lot to working woman. i am sure that in bigger and metropolitan cities and in bigger institutes (multinational companies) have facility of day care centre, the problem in small cities but sure it will be solved. but in those area good relation with mother in law can solve the problem (wink) gov is also making policies which are women friendly like maternity leave , their placement near their homes etc these are my views. take care

I agree that the mother's presence is needed to bring the children up as good citizens in society. Let me rephrase that...a parent's presence is definitely needed. But not everyone can afford to stay back at home with the kids and a single income might not be an option for certain families. Having said that, it is more the attitude of the parents and the upbringing the child gets that is more important than the time the parent spends with a child. I have seen stay-at-home mothers who have too much workload and the child takes a backseat and the mother is not really involved in character building for the child. I have also seen working mothers who have worked out everything beautifully and balances work and home...is relaxed and brings up her child with character. So even though it is slightly difficult, it isn't impossible. And doesn't freedom comprise whether a woman wants to work or not (for her own satisfaction)? Isn't that primary? Wouldn't she be showing her kids the importance of putting themselves first? If she leaves her job (which she wants to do...and which she knows she can handle along with the home front), will she not be teaching her kids that the women have to make compromises - which brings us back to the question of women's freedom.

The mother-in-law and daughter-in-raw strife is in existence all over the worlde and it is better to be neutral than taking sides. Secondly the responsibility of raising the child or bringing up the children rests clearly on both the parents not mother alone. Though we say women have been emowered, still male chevenism still continues avoiding the law. Lot more has to be done in this direction.

Freedom is not jut going out & working ,Freedom means to be able to do what you think.I have seen many working woman who have absolutely no freedom in there home in terms of anything.But i have seen my Mother ho have all the freedom to do thiong even if he choose to be housewife.All the people have different situation in life.One has to understand & work like this.

well to some extent i do agree with you.there are many husbands in this world and mostly in india where they wanna rule over their wifes.but i think this era is changing especially in the metros.for me i think its just not the man who is to be responsible for all this.actaully he is made to think like this right from his childhood.and this want he inhibits in himself and this goes on with generation to generation.however a woman is also to be blamed.why is she accepting all this ?if a man stops her form working then why cant she ask the man to stop working and be in house ?we can still consider ladies of yerster generation but this is higly unacceptable form ladies of this generation.and if the husband tries to over rule her she should raise her voice.afterall its her life and its she who is going to decide about it.so the problem and the solution both is with the women.

Hello,subathra! the Indian leaders are hyppocrets.what they say,they never do that.you see for the last few years the women reservation bill is pending,it could not be tabled in the Parliament.you see you have to fight for your right.even women in the western countries do not enjoy the freedom.the way Hillary Clinton has struggled shows how women are still viewed with scepticism when comes to politics.it signals how the much-vaunted equality amongst men and women remains a distant concept.whatever the reason,womwn have always struggled to make it big because of roles society has fixed for them.it is true that whether it is USA or India or any part of the world,the gender bias still operates.but it is time now that every body should realize that women are not just good mothers or homemakers,they can do any thing they put their minds to as well as their counterparts.i advocate for full freedom of women both in homes or in work places.thank you.good luck.

thanks a lot for a nice and well thought discussion. you are absolutely right. we have got the freedom in words, but women have not achieved it in truest sense in india. They are tortured,abused, they are accountable for most of the decisions or arther steps they want to take in life. In some cases i have seen they don't even have the freedom when they are still not married and stay with their parents.Mother's affection is surely needed.But women's career is not less importanty than a man. they should consider it and put themselves in their shoes.

If wives are treated as property it teaches their children that women are property. Girls grow up believing that they are expected to behave as property and boys grow up believing that their wives will be their property. Somewhere the cycle must stop if it is to change. It takes several generations to change a social norm. Don't give up the fight for freedom of all people to make their own choices about how to live their lives.

absolutely correct ,not a single woman can claim that she has real freedom after marriage ,either they hv accepted the situations are in and feel 'good' abt it and some are still atruggle to get out of it still u can't deny the contribution because of these attitude only the family system is still intact and i think it will need great effort and above that great deal of time to change it.

That is a good leader to fight for the freedom of Indian women. When women get married, their family have to pay a lot for the wedding and this is a very heavy pressure. If they can't afford it, perhaps the woman won't have a happy life in the future because her husband's family look down upon her. But anyway, I believe it will change. In the past Chinese women's position was also very low. Now we have more freedom than our grandmas. We can marry to the one who we love. We can go out to work etc.

Hello dear subathra. So it does not seem that Indian women have got their complete freedom since they have to listen to their husbands after marriage. I do hope that some day soon they will win equal rights in the family of their own in making a decision on what they would like to be engaged in. Thanks for your discussion about this topic for us to know more about Indian culture.

hello,i think it is not fair for the indian women,cant do anything if they like,it is necessary for the leader fought for the freedom of indian women,i stand for the indian women thank them,,LOL,wish you have a good day..

This is a subject that is close to my heart as I am an avid new reader and the problem is widespread in so many cultures. This is a problem that is not solved overnight no matter how long that women have had the right to speech and edcuation,this is ingrained in the society that is lived in. The fight is still in progress but it is one that need to be fought on a different level. In the home. The mother in law is from a different generation and one that is steeped in tradition, it is this tradition that has to change, in that way she will in turn teach her sons. You cannot go in there and demand, you cannot go into the streets and protest all that is wrong for women in the home as at the end of the day you have to go back there.It has to be a gradual give and take. Children are very smart and are our and your future,they learn respect in their tradidtion and then there is the outside world that they learn from.If it is presented right,they will know that to suppress equal thought and rights is wrong they will beging to question,and that question leads to change.

This is a subject that is close to my heart as I am an avid new reader and the problem is widespread in so many cultures. This is a problem that is not solved overnight no matter how long that women have had the right to speech and edcuation,this is ingrained in the society that is lived in. The fight is still in progress but it is one that need to be fought on a different level. In the home. The mother in law is from a different generation and one that is steeped in tradition, it is this tradition that has to change, in that way she will in turn teach her sons. You cannot go in there and demand, you cannot go into the streets and protest all that is wrong for women in the home as at the end of the day you have to go back there.It has to be a gradual give and take. Children are very smart and are our and your future,they learn respect in their tradidtion and then there is the outside world that they learn from.If it is presented right,they will know that to suppress equal thought and rights is wrong they will beging to question,and that question leads to change.