Are you a "What if?" or a "What is?" type of person?

I am a what if type person... what if the sun and moon in me have found body? What if everything I most fervently desire is right outside my door, waiting for me to open it? What if everybody in the world was doing exactly what they wanted and minding their own business besides? What if I could smoke all I want and still have skin like rose petals and breath like a fresh mountain breeze. Anything that doesn't fit into my what if scenarios I tend to ignore.

I must admit that I was a 'What if' till a few years back. Then I did an introspection and realized that I was just wasting my time and energy and focussing on what could have been and dreaming about what never happened. I now look towards the future and how I can achieve my goals. And how I can make my today better. I realized pondering over my past got me nowhere and I was stuck in my past and not going forward in my life. But I now focus on the future.

I firmly believe that we are the masters of our own faith, what we make of it is what we'll truly receive. If in case something didn't worked out right, then it is because there are reasons why it didn't end up what we thought it could be. I don;t dwell on the past, of what I could've done. I only reflect from it, learn and maybe do my best that such "what if's" or "what is" won't happen again..

:) Whenever something goes wrong i keep thinking of this what if options and reflect on it...Even the smallest mistake or smallest problem my mind keeps worried of the IF options .....Am not that easy going person and feel guilty for even the smallest things..Usually this thought keeps me so worried...I dont know how far this is good but this really spoils your mental peace and keeps me irritated...When smallest things that needs to be forgotten are analysed again and again it leaves behind only sorrow.

I am the very archetype of a "what if?" type of person. Some people say it's me being a pessimist but I say it's me being overly cautious... always alert and aware that things can happen that can be prevented if I think something before actually going through with it. It also comes from experience being that every time I have done something without first evaluating my concerns, I have always regretted it in some way. So I am definitely a "What if?" person.

I'm usually a "What if?" type of person. I like to think that way and I usually tend to. It makes me think through some things than deciding immediately. Although I do turn to the questions "What is?" sometimes, but on rare occasions.

I tend to be like this. Constantly regretting things I have done in the past. That's why I have developed this attitude where I do everything I can so that I won't regret it afterwards. Example, if I'm torn whether to do this or not, I would choose doing it, to take the risk, to try. Because even if it was a bad decision, at least I tried and I knew the outcome, rather than not doing it and forever wondering what could have happened if I did.

Really I would say I'm more of a 'Should have done...' person although I will admit to having the odd 'What if...' moment but this is mostly as a reflective exercise when I let my mind wander and wonder about the twists and turns life takes and what could have been. Generally though I try to focus on day to day issues and 'What is...'

I just don't think it is healthy to "what if" too much. Although, for safety and security purposes, to teach and learn of what might become of a bad choice or decision it can be a healthy reflection. But to put in your mind the idea of regret by "What if-ing" something that might have been... we tend to elaborate, and our imaginations expand the possibilities of something we might have missed, or passed up, or let slip away without the "right " action or words...but in actuality... no one can say what might have been "if". Wether it be looking back into one's past, or into one's future, the "what if" will only be determined once it becomes reality. Thus, the "what is" is really the only thing that matters.

the thing ur saying is not at all bad. a person should learn from his oun mistakes and try to rectify it.but the point is u should rectify it. remember to err is human. if u make a mistake once its called a mistake but to repeat that mistake is sin