My son has broken my heart!

No I didnt know you had a son from your first marriage. But now I do!LOL That is really sad and I hope he rethinks this decision. My cousin did the same thing a couple of years ago but this year has gone back to school. She will be finishing up this year. And my aunt is very happy! So dont give up!

Your reaction is normal, but dont forget: the parents`s projections for the future of their children are not allways in harmony with the desires of the children. Dont impose to him your hopes and dont make him to feel guilty. Support him! This is his own life, not yours. And may be he needs to make some mistakes before to understand and to chooice his path. Show love and understanding, not judgment!

i think it's understandable for you to feel sad about it. i think you should give him an ultimatum. i think that if you tell him that he has to move out and pay his own bills and take care of himself if he is no longer in school than maybe it will scare him to going back to school. i know its bad to try to scare him but u have to do what u have to do u know? well another thing is that u can tell him that he has to pay for the education that was given to him because he didn't take the advantage of the opportunity to get an education. another thing is that u can show him a comparison in money comparing his current job or a job that he can get as his back up and then how much he will be making if he stays in school for a few more months. that might be a reality check. i hope everything helps!! good luck!!!

One semester to go? Man, that is an awful time to quit. I was in a similar situation in my final year of college. I didn't feel that I love the profession I was studying for. I wasn't happy so I wanted to quit. But I persevered and now I'm glad that I completed my academic credentials. Perhaps your son is not happy with the particular course of study that he took.

Sorry to hear that you are dissappointed with your son. Does he still live home? If so, the first thing I would do is start charging him rent. My rule in this house is if you are not going to school, you get a job or two and start paying rent until you move out. I would also get all the bills from college together and tell him that he needs to start paying you back for the money you spent since he didn't finish and get his degree. I actually think that student should get their own loans and pay for their education once in college~ that is what I did and you end up working harder to achieve when you realize how much you are getting into debt. Give him a reality check and hopefully he will finish up just to get his degree.

Yup, that's really heart-breaking...I understand how that feels because I would also feel the same way had my son stopped schooling. How old is he? If he's of age, he should be already responsible for whatever decisions he makes now...he will surely suffer the consequences of such a bad decision. There will come a time that employers look for college degree holders even for blue collar jobs, or something like that. He might regret such decision in the future. But if after pleading with him he still insists his way, then leave him to it, but let him know that should he change his mind, you hope that it's not too late...

I am sorry to hear that awonderfullife. I think he is making a mistake but it's his mistake to make. trust me as a mother of a 18 year about to go away to school i so feel your pain. I too would be heart broken if he went that far just to drop out. but it is going to be his mistake to deal with. It is going to be his hard lesson to learn. just hug him and wish him the best.

I can imagine your disappointment and frustration. But ultimately he is an adult and his parents no longer can control his choices. What you can control is how much financial support you are willing to give him. If he is not in school he must have a job that makes enough money to support himself independent of parents. Make it clear that he is making a choice to be on his own and as an adult he must support himself. Don't make the mistake of making it easy for him to become a permanent dependent. It will do irreparable harm to his future. I know it is hard to let go. But for everyone's sake it is the right thing to do.

I'm so sorry that your son decided to do this. Maybe, since he does not have a full time job or a back up plan he might see how hard it is to get ahead in life without that college education. He may rethink things and go back and finsish. But, on the other hand maybe he will really find happiness and success on another path. Whatever happens, I wish him and you the best.~D

My youngest brother did the same thing. He went to college for some 4 years and was one semester away from getting his degree and quit. I don't know why kids put so much effort into something only to give up at the last second. I really hope your son changes his mind. Don't give hope for him. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

I am sorry to hear that. We all know it's better to have a good education and it'll be an advantage for our future. But since your son made up his mind and your objection doesn't work. And perhaps you have to try to accept it. One day he will realize he is wrong. And he can go to study again, although at that time it'll be harder. But study will never be late. Some people need to learn from the mistakes.

Oh, I hope he changes his mind before it's too late. My son quit with only a quarter left. Last time his Dad talked to him, he said he was going to try to go back, but I don't know if he can now or not. He actually quit because his car broke down and couldn't make it to class.. So I know how you feel..:(

Hello, I know it is very depressing and hurting for a mother to know that his son is taking the wrong decision.Maybe you should share your dreams and explain to him briefly about the wrong decision. As your son is in college,he is mature enough to know what he is doing.Try to find if he has taken the decision in any depression or something. Best Wishes to you.

I am sorry to hear this. Yes College is extremely important. I agree with you. He is old enough to make these decisions. Even if they are the wrong ones. And yes he may regret it later. But take hope. He can always change his mind. He can always go back. As I was more than once told, "You can only raise them. At a certain point they'll do what they're going to do."When he realizes the cost of his education, and what it really takes to earn a living to support ones self he might change his mind. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

I know this makes you sad because you had hopes for but were they his own. It seems we do all we can to point our children in the right direction but that's all we really can do. If this is really what he wants then all you cn do is be there for him and support him. Some people just have a hard time with school. Who knows maybe he will change is mind. I hope he does for his own sake of his future. Hang in there. You've done what you can as his mom now all you can do is hope for the best.