Should smoking keep me from dating a guy?
By PeachTree373
@PeachTree373 (86)
January 10, 2008 2:08pm CST
So, I really like this guy, but he's a smoker. I'm not. I've never been a fan of smoking and it is a huge turn-off. But even with ym detest of smoking, I still have an attraction. So, should i put up with his smoking, or find someone else?
12 responses
@graedragon (329)
• United States
10 Jan 08
That would depend on how much it really bothers you. You may still like him at this point but will it become an issue after you've been dating for a while. If you thik it will then I would say let it go and find someone that doesn't smoke.
@PeachTree373 (86)
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10 Jan 08
SO, since i hate his smoking habit, and i can deal with it now, you think it'll come back to blow up in my face?
@graedragon (329)
• United States
10 Jan 08
That's not what I'm saying. What i am aying is do you think that down the road you will have an issue with it. Sometimes we think that I'll get used to it and it won't bother me. Then later on it does. I am guilty od this myself. Ithink everyone is at some point in thier life.
@PeachTree373 (86)
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10 Jan 08
oh...well I don't know. It's hard to say now. His smoking bothers me because it hurts him and it's gross, but i don't know if i'll feel differently about that down the road.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
10 Jan 08
i dont see any connection of smoking with love.besides,you can even ask him nicely to stop smoking when he is with you.i dont think it could make any difference as long as you like the guy.besides there is a lot of things to make stop temporarily.
@PeachTree373 (86)
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10 Jan 08
If he like me enough, do you think I could get him to at least quit around me? Honestly? Would that request push him away?
@aries_0325 (3060)
• Philippines
14 Jan 08
You should talk to that person that smoking is bad to our health and stop smoking. For me, as a guy, smoking in front of the lady is a like to show who you are. Or if he is not do it, you better not dating that guy.
@letsrock2001 (200)
• United States
10 Jan 08
hmm well I say if it bugs you which it does me when friends come over. To step outside and smoke if he wants to kiss you see if he doesn't mind eating a breath mint as you do the same. Or, see if he doesn't mind brushing his teeth. Sorry folks who smoke but kissing smokers is like kissing an ash tray!
@PeachTree373 (86)
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10 Jan 08
Yeah, that's one of the main reasons I hate smokers. Other than the fact they're at high risk for cancer, they taste HORRIBLE when you kiss them.
@malibu_barbie_mag (250)
• United States
10 Jan 08
Find someone else dear. If you are already having to put aside things you dont like about him to be with him, it's totally not worth it haha you know that!!! Find a guy that you love everything about. No if's ands or but's!
@PeachTree373 (86)
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10 Jan 08
i know babe...but he's such a great guy... :( I've liked him for awhile...obviously the ex doesn't know because i had stronger feelings for him. i wasn't going toleave him for this guy...
@tinkerbell07 (36)
• United States
15 Jan 08
If you really like this guy and you see the relationship goin somwhere, if I was u i'd put up with it. But if you don't then i'd find sumone else
@ozzie13 (177)
• Australia
11 Jan 08
Of course it is up to you, but i would go for it. If you really like him then it wont matter i have been with guys that have done lots of things i didn't i dont think its so bad... just make him light up outside.
@Lady_Vincy (1538)
• United States
10 Jan 08
If you really dislike smoking that much and don't think you can deal with it then move on. I don't think you should put your health at risk because you think you might like somebody. If you are willing to deal with the smoking then have fun and go for it but just remember to put yourself and your feelings on smoking before him.
@myworkid1987 (755)
• United States
10 Jan 08
You shouldnt have to smoke or put of with smoking for a guy if you dont like it. He would quit smoking if he really cared about you and your feelings. Second hand smoke is even worse for you than if you are a smoker. Talk to him and if he wont quit find someone else. He isnt worth your time if he doesn't want to respect you.
@Justareceptionist (869)
• United States
11 Jan 08
My husband's a smoker and I'm not. I'm like you where I completely detest the habit and it does turn me off. But if you really like a guy, the smoking shouldn't get in the way. If you're absolutely smitten by him, I'd give it a try hanging out with him and really getting to know him. Once you've established a bond with him, I'd tell him how I'd want him around longer and even cutting down on his smoking would mean a lot to you.
