How bad do u feel when u discover the person u loved so much is a cheater?

it will kill me of course, i will cry, become depress... that happened to me many times..and the last time i got hurt when the person i really loved and in fact his the father of my baby, leave us when i'm still pregnant and had a gf and they were already engaged..it really sucks me..that i wanted to light a black candle to curse him..but i already forgiven him for me to have peace of mind..

Me too feel like that. I had experience too. I got what you feel from your topic. but what is this cheating mean? Please explain.

Hi subha Yes that has happened to me one time in my life and it really does hurt. When I found out I decieded I would never see him again. And I didnt that was the most painful part. Staying away from him when I still loved him. But as time went on I got over the him and the hurt.

Hello dear subhal. When I discovered that my ex-girlfriend betrayed me, I was extremely sad for this. I tried to save the past love that we both had for about one year. It did not help. I had to let it go since we were not destined to be together as life partners. Now I am very happy for the true and sincere love from my wife. We are true to each other and we are both very happy for our marriage. Thanks.

It will never be a surprise for me. I found out many times, that the cheater, unexpectedly was me. They had somebody already, before meeting me, and they were not thru yet. If a guy would tell me that there is no woman in his life, I would wonder if he's not hiding something.

i know how it feels you just wanna kill her/him u don't wanna leave more tears dont stop nothing feels good u hate yourself for loving a cheater but hold on a sec just move on somebody better is waiting for you u didn't lost out on anything but now u r destined to get the better one cheer upp and move on some tears will shurely help ya one more thing dont try to make that relation ship it will be the biggest mistake

It has happened to me. It is a very sad and awful feeling to learn. it made me feel like I gave my heart and soul into this realtionship and it blow up in my face.

My ex husband did this to me, I won't go into detail here but I have to admit that at the time I never thought I would get over it as we had been together for over a dozen years at the time - it took me a long time to get my head around the idea that we would not be spending the rest of our lives together and that I meant so little to him that he could do this to me - it was actually his parents who encouraged him in this behaviour as they wanted him to leave me for a Sikh girl who would stay at home and have babies for him and wait on them hand and foot (which is what they have now). I felt at the time that my heart had been ripped out with daggers and that I would never recover. But hey look at me, I have been with a wonderful man for going on 6 years now, coming up to our 4th wedding anniversary and he makes me feel like the most special gal in the world and I look back at the pain I went through in the past and it feels like nothing. Time is a great healer - I never believed it myself until I went through such a trauma myself but it really is true. I hope you're not going through it dear Subha and if you are, I hope you find the strength to get through this in one piece and be a stronger person for it. xx

It will hurt me and I will hate him. Because I dislike being cheated. I have loved him so much so I can't stand it.

I had a boyfriend when I was in high school that cheated on me with my best friend....I was devastated. I lost my best friend and boy friend in one night. I have not really spoken to either one of them since and that was 40 years ago. I don't need people in my life like that!

It is really going to be a terrible experience. But you should be glad you found that out. Thanks.

yes it has happened to me, with my son father. He cheated, I found out. It does take a very long time to get over. Took me a few years. I would think I was fine than I would see him somewhere and be heartbroken all over again. But the saying is true time does heal everything. My loved for him eventually turned to hate when he basically shunned my son from his life.