pls. dear friend don't be repeatitive!

Haha.. I think I know who you are referring to. She is a friend of mine too. Yes, she must be having a hard time. But you have a point there, it's quite wrong to generalize our personal experiences and say that a particular system of marriage itself is wrong or meaningless. It's like if you cannot be successful or contented with something, you cannot say that others will not too. The same holds good for cheating as well, if someone has cheated you, you can't say all men are cheaters. As for the parental pressure, I have contemplated on that issue and have a reason as to why parents "force" their children into marriage. The Indian society is comprised so that the parents here are not just biological parents but they are also our legal guardians and caretakers. They are held responsible for the children's future till a certain point/age in their lifetime, it can be till they get married in case of girls and till they get a job in case of guys. So, naturally, if you have failed to find a genuine partner for yourself and have reached the age of marrying, it becomes your parents' responsibility and duty to find the proper one for you. So, naturally they will ask you to marry after you reach a certain age. You should be able to give them a reasonable answer as to why you don't wish to marry at the right age. It might be anything reasonable, whether you wish to pursue higher studies, or you like to become a saintess, or you want to play Mother Teresa - part 2, or anything like that, let them know beforehand. Saying "NO" to marriage for no reason at all is pointless. I guess the problem with this girl might be, she is somewhat submissive and gets swayed by anyone acting nice with her. In today's world, if women( or even men for that matter) are not staunch in their priorities, it's impossible to live peacefully. However, I'm not trying to be judgmental about her, but just guessing or doing a speculation. It's better if she discusses with her parents and clarifies to them what she wants to do with her future. It's not justified to leave parents in the lurch.

It is good to get your mind off of things and not thinking about that same one thing over and over again because you will only get more frustrated thinking about it continously especially when it is concerning questions about love. There are alot of other things to think about to get your mind off of love and being hurt. I often find myself thinking about the same things repeateadly and do what I can to 'distract' myself from it.

Hello! I also find it pretty boring and useless to create many repetitive questions. However, when love strikes somebody, it can really make the person blind. Perhaps your friend is just crazy for the feeling he has, and wants to know everybody's opinion before making a move. He doesn't want to make a mistake, or something like that. Or he just can't see that he is creating way too many discussions with the same topic. Respectfully.

Oh well,I dont know who are you talking about.. I havent come accross to a discussion like that yet.. But It seems pretty boring answering discussions that comes in a repetitive questions over and over again... Maybe you can send her a message, suggesting not to repeat questions on her discussions over and over.. Maybe you can tell her some interesting topics for her discussions to start up with.. :) Thanks~

Yeah,it is really a problem here,sometimes I feel it so boring to reply the similar discussions,but,I think,maybe they just wanat to relex themselves.So,just take it easy,and only reply the interesting things you like.wish you happy here.