Is Marriage going out of style????

I agree that it seems marriage is just out of date these days. I look forward to the day I marry my love. We dont yet have children. We do plan to wait until were married. Most people these days dont want to get married, because they fear their marriage might not last and they dont want to go through a nasty divorce. At least thats what Ive been told by many. Marriage is still popular among older people and smaller communities, but just doesnt seem as important in the larger cities. If you're just that old and out of style so am I. I can not wait til my wedding day.

I live in part of the Bible Belt, and even though a lot of people say they should get married and then have kids, that doesn't always happen. I live in Section 8 Housing. A lot of the people are women who's baby's daddy is not involved and they are on welfare. It would be of immense help to themselves, not just the government, if they would take the time to get to know someone, even go through pre marriage counseling, and then get married and have children. Sure, divorces still persist. But the values of people have changed, and society overlooks so much that people think it must be OK. I do want to say I know things happen to innocent people, and some people are taken advantage of. I don't want to blame people who felt like they have been pushed out of their family's homes and into the arms of a troublemaker. But there is help. It seems like there must not be, but there is. I myself was taught to get married, and then have kids. I have to admit if my husband cheated on me, I might consider divorce, but I am taking my time because when I make a committment, I want it to be forever.

I have no clue as to what is happening around here. I do not care what the trend or styles are. I have been married twice and neither relationship worked out. It has been a long time since I was last married. But, if I find the right woman, I will marry her. It seems that marriage has gone out of style, but that is a misconception. I think it is better for two incompatable people to not get married and subject their children to a life of fighting and disruptions. I still think that marriage is highly workable between the right two partners. To get married for the sake of the kid(s)is a huge mistake. On the other hand, having kids without the means to support them or without the support of both parents is not healthy either. Sad to say, but many get their info from TV and the silly media. No wonder this country is such a mess, and marriage is under attack.

The same thing is happening here, even though I live in a small town that in some ways is behind the times. I was recently talking to a friend of mine...she has 3 kids, two to the guy she is with, but they aren't married and she doesn't want to get married. She says getting married would make her feel trapped. There are a lot of girls around here that are having kids and not getting married. I was actually just saying something about this to my husband. I was reading our local paper and looking at the birth announcements. Out of 9 announcements, only 2 were married couples. The other 7 were two unmarried people listed, or one even just the mother listed. Its sad. I like being able to say that we were married before we had our kids. My husband and I are both only 26.

I've actually heard a lot of people say why bother getting married when it isn't going to last anyway :( Guess I'm old fashioned and still think marriage first and then the other stuff and when you go into a marriage it should be with the thought that it's going to last forever. After being divorced myself though I can certainly say I would have to think long and hard before I did it again.

Marriages used to be lasting things, of course. At least, that is the story we always hear. I think the situation might have been a bit different in practice than what you might think of as a 'good marriage.' It was easy for a woman, who had no means of providing for herself, to become effectively trapped in her marriage. Even if she could imagine how to get a job to provide for her children, she couldn't then imagine how to arrange for the care of her children. Single parenthood avoids admitting dependence on another person. Commitment is scary. Modern women can have their own careers and with some social welfare help, they can avoid the dependence on men that used to run them into trouble. Modern men, likely, are no better -- seeing marriage as a loss of their 'freedom' even though a child still binds them to this woman for an indeterminate time period. But, to answer your question, I don't think so. I believe that people without a spouse are more likely to need outside the house babysitting service. A married couple with the woman able to stay at home doesn't need her child watched. A woman who works professionally might even have daycare provided by her employer. These issues combined probably result in you seeing more unmarried couples. Certainly, there is likely to be a rise in unmarried men and women with children. There are other reason for this as well which involve the marital status of a person's own parents. (Thus determining if 'marriage' and children seem inseparable to you.) However, people still get married. When you are 'in love' it seems very much like the thing to do. With less difficulty living on your own as a single parent if needed, divorces also might be more frequent. There is, however, something in people that wants the comfort of marriage. I don't think that will ever go out of style.

Cohabitation is just the new style, I guess. I was learning about this in sociology not long ago that marriage rates have declined over the years because it's either cheaper or just plain easier. Unfortunately I don't remember all the reasons why, because I didn't pay much attention during this unit because I wouldn't necessarily say that marriage is going out of style.I think it's just that couples are cohabitating younger than they used to, and they get used to just being that way.. It already feels like they're married so why put it on a piece of paper? That doesn't justify anything, really.

I believe that marriage is so very important. I hate to think it is going out of stye. IN our community, there are a lot of people just living together

With the progress being made, people are losing the cultural values. More and more people would not want to wait or miss on anything. This lack of patience is causing many to act in weird ways. Hence, they find marriage to be constraining their freedom. Without marriage, they are not accountable to anyone. This way they can live a life for a few years and then just snap it off and move on some where else with a new person. Although it does sound exciting, it is not good for the society or the individual.

This is not surprising as it is like that everywhere in America. But 1 Timothy 4:3 says that in the last days people will be refusing to marry. It is really sad, because the children now are starting off in broken homes and they are the ones who suffer the most.

i don't kow about other countries what happen as reagrds marriag style or thoughts about that on this purpose!! in my country sincerly marriage is out of style normally people here don't want marry..especially omen who see the marriage as an old forms in life!!so the numbe of a single is double year by year and statics say that we are one of the major nation where people don't want built a family and having children too!! i don't know what happen in this purpose..but i think that nowadays much about this is in relation to money,earns and something like that..

That is one of the major breakdowns of American society today. There is no family structure any more. In the middle and upper class they can fake it with nannys and good baby sitters and excellent daycare,but in the lower middle class and the poor it is a sad sad situation, because there is no family structure to help the child at all. The old saying that it take a village to raise a child still holds true. The extended family is very important in the raising of a child. One parent usually is not competant to do it alone. I know I had to do it alone. It was horrible. Everyone deserted me. Family friends everyone. I really struggled and the girls suffered because of it, but at least they grew up with excellent morals and good work ethics.

If that is happening it is a real shame for the kids.

Here where i live people to marry.There are those who live together and is more frequent. it is a big mistake this aversion by marriage. Decades ago appeared fashion of " fear of the role". I agree that a role does not change the sense.. but shows how a person feels in on other. Then.. it was fashionable to say :The role bothers the divorce..Analyzing see that phrase that is totally wrong. The great sadness of separation is felling. Then with paper or not.. hurt if people go the same way. As one who has skin'cells together.. the marriage is the cell of society. And a lawyer is not so expensive... Married or not on paper...will be a legal process in the same way.. since the rights are acquired by coexistence. Having aversion to marriage is hypocrisy, fear, lack sense and knowledge of God.

I see that trend so many places myself. In my job that is similar to yours, I see the same thing. Not in the management levels, but in the direct care staff. On the other hand, in my other job, in the schools, you almost never see that. I do not know any more than you why marriage is getting such a bum rap. I know that lots of people who are looking for some one to care for, or to care for them tend to have children. The people who work in direct care, and have caring personalities tend to fall into that category. Also people who work at caring in nursing homes. It is satisfying to care for people who need you. Maybe that is the answer. Getting married is an equal partnership, caring for a child is caring for someone who needs you.

We live in the boon docks and it's a typical Peyton Place around here. Everybody knows about everybody and it seems many enjoy sleeping around and almost brag about it. My husband and I are very private people so, even though we've lived in our small town for over 3 years, we don't know many people. When I used to go to the local 'pub' I would say something innocent and someone would in one way or another put a different spin on it and it would get back to my husband. Needless to say I don't go any longer and I don't tell anyone about our life so that nothing can be construed in the wrong light.

I think marriage is going out of style even though I am still married with my hubby. Recently, I have read many articles published on the newspapers that many high profiles couples separated or divorced after 20 even 30 years together, which I hardly hear before. I always thought the separation or divorce is normally happen to the young couples due to the immature or unstable relationships. As a result of this, I do see the marriage is sort of out style from the other side of view. If the marriage is so insecure, after 30 YEARS TOGETHER, will still fall apart, what is the point to get marry then?

You wrote; 'she would never marry her baby-father yet she has a year old child by him and lives with him.' I can't help but wonder if she planned this pregnancy with this guy. I have heard of many people picking the father but no he won't be the husband they say. What gives with that? He is good enough to make a baby with you but not good enough to marry. To top it off she lives with the guy but oh no I won't marry him. What's up with that? People are so screwed up these days!

You're living a real world. In the real world of today men and women have their own prerogative, meaning its their choice if they want to get married or not. I know single parents who choose to live alone with their child and they are quite sure that they would survive life without a wife/husband. Here in my country it's like that, maybe they think it would be happier to just be single and free and all that. Maybe, n ot really sure why.