I love him but don't know what to do???
By mystic_0318
@mystic_0318 (937)
United States
January 11, 2008 9:50pm CST
I love this guy with all of my Heart and Soul and would do anything for him! We have been together for a little while now and he wants to marry me and of course I want to marry him with all of my heart...He even wants me to get my tubes undoen so we can have a baby together and I would in a heart beat...But lately he has been changing and everythign and I don't know how to take it..Cause he don't want me to go out enless he is with me and he will stay on the net mostly all day and most of the night and not say one word to me...and When he does coem to bed he gives me a kiss and that is it...and it use to be he would talk to me all night long and hold me until I got up and and everything...Anymore it just don't feel like he loves or cares about me anymore and like this all is a convenience to him...Maybe I'm taking this all the wrong way.. Cause he tells me all the time I'm his one and truely love and he only wants to be with me and never wants to lose or leave me..But I don't feel like it's true....I don'tknow what to think or how to feel right now.. If any one has any advice please help...maybe he just got me to spoiled and noe I don't know how to act???What should I say to him with out him thinking I don't want him???
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@graedragon (329)
• United States
12 Jan 08
I would tell him how you feel.I know it's hard to do but if you don't it will eat you up inside until one day you blurt it out and then their will be hurt feeling on both sides. If he truely loves you then he will be willing to talk about it. You cannot have a good relationship without communication. It took me a long time to learn this myself but now I am with a many thet I truely love and he returns that love to me.
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@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
12 Jan 08
I agree. Sometimes people need feedback. We just go on and on, not realizing that someone is being bothered or offended.
@jhoana_joey (616)
• Philippines
13 Jan 08
Communication is very important in any relationship. Talk to him and tell him what's bugging you. Everything will be fine mystic. Wish you the best. Take care.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
13 Jan 08
Have you tried talking to him? If you are having a hard time with that, have him read this discussion. Maybe he will get the hint. Is the internet new to him. I know when I first got online I was on constantly, I still am on lots. I don't have anybody right now though. I do know that it can cause troubles when one partner is on the net all the time. Do you both have a computer? Maybe you can put your computers next to each other, then you both can be online next to each other. I wish I had some magic words for you. I always tell people when someone ask me for advice, to say your prayers and follow your heart. Good luck and take care.
@kimberlylynn (978)
• United States
13 Jan 08
It's natural for some of that initial excitement to go away. It's if you can grow and still love each other afterwards that will make you stand the test of time. Communication is so important and if you can't discuss these things now, it will only get harder after you are married.
@kerakool (12)
• Jamaica
12 Jan 08
His attitude seems unusual. I think you should first talk to him about what you have been observing and how you are feelng as a result. Ensure that both of you really want the same thing(s). Then observe any adjustment in his behaviour. If there are no changes, you will then seriously need to make a decision about your future together.
Being in a raltionship should be about happiness,serenity and trust which are all apart of love. If you are not continuously experiencing these, then what's the point???
@mariam74 (555)
• Egypt
12 Jan 08
Why not you tell him everything you feel and see what is his reply, if I were in your place I'll ask him why you do this and if you really love me as you say you must give me some of your time not all the time on the net.This is the best way to know the truth is to go to the point direct.
@irishmist (3814)
• United States
12 Jan 08
His being on the computer all day and night, and not talking to you is really not a good sign. also he wants you to only go out with him, and not alone? That is a sign of his starting to take control over you. I know you really love him..., but you should take time to really think about this relationship, and perhaps even talk to your family members, and take their advice.. even if you really don't agree with it. it could be the best thing for you. Also you really did not say how long you have been with him.
@golechashrenik (55)
• India
12 Jan 08
U gotta stay calm n figure out if something is bothering him if something is den sit back n help him solve it n whn u have found tht its nothng bothering, den i think u shud put al these points infront of him n get ur answer done, make sure u stay calm n polite while talkng to himeven if he is angry), coz u really love him. Make him think hw wud it feel if u did tht wit him.
