I didn't know I have a beautiful family until my dad died...

Family - Your family is your first community. The community you will leave soon when you decide to grow your own. The community you always take for granted and sometimes exchange it with better stuffs and company.

On the other hand,this community does not turn its back on you, welcomes you whenever you decide to come back, accepts you when the world turn its back and rejects you. This community stays with you no matter what or who you are, no matter you want them or not because this is the only place where you could be secured and loved unconditionally. This community is your family.
Philippines
January 12, 2008 8:43am CST
I always compare my family with other families. I thought mine was very unique and absurd. I had a lot of wishes like I wished my dad was like my classmate's dad who was an engineer and earns a lot for the family; I wished my mom was like my friend's who dresses fancy clothes and talks with much finesse. I found my brothers very weird especially the third one who only listens to melancholy music and spends most of his time in his drawings and numbers. I wished my family was one of the riches in the neighborhood. I saw a lot of imperfections in my family. I had bitterness with my dad whom I thought didn't do all his best to provide us the best things we could get as his children. My dad died last July 2007 and everything just changed. My family went through a lot last year that made me think to commit suicide. Last Christmas when I went home to spend the holidays with my mom and brothers, we got a chance to talk together as a family. Together, we journeyed back and expressed every emotion we kept inside. My father's death was the most painful thing that happened and yeah, it'll take time to heal. I also came to know more about my family and appreciate every good things that each of us has. My mom just doesn't get tired from doing all the household stuffs plus her handicraft things to augment the family's income. My 2nd brother is just a very family-oriented person, my 3rd brother turns to be a good painter and mathematician, the youngest is just one of computer geniuses in their campus. My dad... well, he wasn't perfect but he was such a loyal friend to his friends even if they don't deserve his friendship. It took years before I realized that I have a beatiful family but at am thankful that finally I did.
3 responses
• Philippines
12 Jan 08
sorry to hear about your dad my friend... i hope that your family has somehow moved on... =)
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• Philippines
13 Jan 08
Thank you dolce, I appreciate it :).
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• Uganda
12 Jan 08
Sorry about that truel emotionally laden experience kriz, life takes all sorts of turns my dear, your Dad is gone, you have a duty not to feel too much loss to the point that you fail to pick your pieces up. You have people around you-its not clear to me if you are the eldest of your siblings, if so, take the mantle from your Dad, and lead the family forward-life must go on-love must get stronger within you as family members, remember, divided you will surely fall!
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• Philippines
13 Jan 08
Thank you... yeah I am the eldest among my siblings and currently working for the family, which I would admit is very tough. But I am happy to have given this opportunity to serve my family :).
12 Jan 08
Condolence for you....I hope i will also learn and value thing that surrounding me before i will lost them in the end.
• Philippines
12 Jan 08
Thank you :)... I guess I just started accepting them including the weakness part of my family members and embraced them as they are. Tolerance is one thing I had to learn.