what should i do for my boyfriend to trust me again?
@crazybeautiful (24)
Philippines
January 13, 2008 1:03am CST
Me and my boyfriend of 6 years have this problem for 1 year already when we got back together. We split up because he do have this unfinished relationship/business with a girl who's in bicol. He went there. and they lived in together for 1 and half months then found out their 8 years relationship is not worthy at all., so he got back,. When he got back I already fall inlove with my friend of 3 years and almost have forgotten and move on from my heart break with him,. my fault was, during the time he is winning me back, im telling him things about the new guy and told him things i shouldn't have told. For little did i know that my fresh relationship with my friend will be so rocky just after 1 month of being together. sad thing is that, we had s*x... and ive told that to the guy of 6 years... and after having a problem with the fresh bf, we havent fixed the relationship so after like 1 month, of our split up,. the 6 yrs,. and i got back together, and weve been together again for 1 year now but he still is blaming me, accusing me and he became so paranoid of lil things.. and im hurting. i mean, im not a b*tch nor a sl*t. i have no idea, he'll come back. i have no idea my relationship with my friend wont work either... and im so confused if we still have to continue this relationship or what... hope someone have had same experience that can share up with me...
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7 responses
@jean0827 (306)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 08
I very agree with you ljegbers.
I don't understand why the guy can be so selfish.
He himself can split up with you to be with another girl, but he cannot accept you had been with another guy, when he was with the other girl?
This is so ridiculous!
Selfish guy like this do not worth you to do more for him!
*Just my opinion, I am not you so I might never understand how you feel and complicated is this case.Sorry if I said something wrong..
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@crazybeautiful (24)
• Philippines
15 Jan 08
No worries... I understand. I so so understand that. and i appreciate your share of advice.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
14 Jan 08
I really think that he needs to get over it. You two weren't together for a year, so what you did during that time shouldn't be an issue for him, especially if he was with another woman. i think what it really boils down to is that he feels guilty about doing that to you and instead of apologizing he is trying to blame and throw up in your face what you did, which was not a crime. You had no idea he was gonna come back into your life, so i really wouldn't sweat it...but, i would make it clear that he needs to stop blaming you. What did he expect you to do, sit around and wait on him to finish being stupid? No way. I think he's just really jealous that you found someone else and now he's just taking it out on you. don't worry...i'm sure things will work out the way they are supposed to. keep us posted and God bless
@crazybeautiful (24)
• Philippines
15 Jan 08
was so touch with all of your comments. i post a comment at ljegbers post. just read on. thanks so much for your concern,. like what ive said i was confused.. way too confused of whats going on. ill keep you guys posted.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
13 Jan 08
i am a guy. i don't know if i should give a comment or not. but i feel for what you feel. it must be hard for you to give up those years of being together. however, i would say that i will be willing to give up my whole life to be able to spend just a day with the right one. don't dwell too much on the loss. treasure what you have now. best wishes!
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@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
18 Jan 08
get back to reality,you dont have to swallow all those ugly words from your boyfriend....he is completely out of whack and should be dumped.....no one should be blamed for what has happened since both of you have the problem then.....
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
13 Jan 08
If I read this right as some others have said - you both had other relationships so were not together at that time therefore I dont know why he is acting like this... he should be able to move past it and get on with having a relationship with you! You should not need to do anything to try to win his trust back - maybe you need to ask him why it still bothers him etc... Hope this has been some help :) Take care!
@crazybeautiful (24)
• Philippines
15 Jan 08
Yes youve read it right. just right, i posted some comments with ljegbers. just read on. and i very much appreciate your share of ideas. thank you. take care too.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
14 Jan 08
Sounds very confusing and it sounds as if some time on your own will do you all some good. Maybe just some time to sort out your feelings. I know that is hard to do but sometimes you really need to just kick back and take a break from relationships. If this guy is really meant to be with you, it will all work out
