Something I don't really get...

im fairly new here (only a few weeks) and my friend list is growing fairly quick.. no less than one a day for sure.. i dont approve everyone though.. theres been a few people add me who havent been in a single discussion i started or even responded to.. the people in my friend list are people ive actually communicated with more than a sentence or two.. i also have two people i actually know on my list.. my wife and her best friend :) and ive been meaning to send out some referrals to my friends to get some more people i know i like talking to on here

Oh my. I accept all friends here. Some of them don't respond to my discussions either but i hate to trun them dowm. If they spam me, I delete them though. My friends list is huge also but alot of them are inactive now. I like to have a variety of discussions to respond to so I accept all requests. I hope they become active and respond to your discussions. Good luck, ~Stephannie

I rarely add people, on occasion i will see someone who responds to my discsusions often, or i am responding to their discussions often, or someone in one of my friends group of friends that responds to similar discussions and i will add them. I used to add everyone who requested my friendship, but now i look at their profile first, and see what type of discussions they post and what kind they answer before adding them. Or how long they have been here.. i rarely add a noob, cause they usually dont last too long here! Silly noobs! Thanks for being my friend joey and joeys wife lol.

I'm in this situation a lot too it seems. It's flattering that so many people want to be my friend, and personally I accept all friend requests, unless someone has already seriously offended me. However, there's honestly no way I can keep up with every single person on my friends list at this point... especially the ones that don't seem to start the types of discussions I'm really interested in. Sometimes I can't even figure out how someone could have wound up on my list, because we don't even talk about the same things at all, ever. I've gone through my list and deleted people who have been gone for a really long time (except for my first friends here, whom I leave for nostalgia value). Even with that, the number is just insane. And very few of them are people I requested, so it's weird to me. :P

I get friend requests from people who have responded to one of my discussions or someone who read one of my comments on someone else's discussion. I assume they have similar interests. When I am looking for a discussion to respond to I look first at discussions my friends have started. If you are on my friend list your post is more likely, but not guaranteed, to be responded to. Most of my myLot friends don't respond to my discussion, though. And sometimes I go through and take off people who have been on the site for months without being active. I never look to see who is on someone's friends list.

Joey, I agree with you 100% and am especially honored that you chose me for a myLot friend. I don't expect my friends here to be able to answer every single discussion I started nor do I always know enough about each of theirs to give a sensible reply, but until recently I've had some people sending me 5 or 6 discussion "notifications" a day who have not replied to even one of mine. Actually, you can turn "notify" off, but but it is just as easy to delete false friends. Please turn notify ON for me, though, lol!

What I find highly amusing is that people add you to be a friend when they clearly haven't even bothered to read a single discussion you have started! Those I am more wary off and will decline because you know they are going to offload spam onto you! So many of my friends have become inactive so I do occasionally do a 'purge' if they reappear then I can always add them, it's very very seldom that I will add a friend myself.

I have just added you, as I'm glad to have you as a friend!;) I'm really shy when making friends' request, I seldom do that. Lately, I've just found out that I also receive such requests. Most of them I'm not familiar of, while others are those newbies that are just around less ten post (this makes me wonder, why they want to add me). Hmm.. I also noticed that I tend to add veteran members -like me, who have been here for ten months and up. Some, new but was also from my country. I guess I'm still not going out of my comfort zone, I still have my friend's list just below 200 and do my best to maintain my close friendly relationships with them!;)

something similar happens to me. I get more freinds request tahn i sent out. I also get responses from only few friends not all who have added me. But I still keep on accepting all friends. I just do not remove any.

This happens to me quite a lot too joey. Lots of people just request friendship that i have never even spoke to before and then they dont respond to any of my discussions, not that i start many anyway lol. When this happens i will leave them on my friends list for a month maximum and then i will delete them.

i still have 86 people that still want to be added to my friends list, i havent deleted them (yet) but for some reason, i dont really want to add them to my friends...what a dilema eh? cheers, cher

I agree with you Joey on this one.... I am very careful about who I add and try to add only those who have responded to one of my discussions! I don't understand why people request and then never come into any discussions...what type of forum do they think this is!?! It seems like a popularity poll to me and I'm not interested in that...My list is getting big as it is and I am going to have to go through it again and see who hasn't been active for two months or more and delete so that I can open up my list some...I have a hard time keeping up with the flood of discussions as it is without having these ones on my list who I never hear from and don't even start their own discussions! Take Care My friend! ~Heavens~

Joey, personally, I feel you ought to be proud of yourself. It is good feeling to get a friend request, not to mention 20 friends. It could mean they could have read your responses and feel you can contribute to their discussions. In a way, they are impressed and feel it worth to have you as a friend. It could also mean they are acting on some advice floating around to have as many friends as possible :p Personally, when I get such requests especially from new members, I just oblige them even though I know very well they would not respond to my discussions. No harm having more friends to replace the inactive ones. I would just leave the inactive ones around in case they are back from "long vacation".

I'll accept anyone who requests....does that make me cheap lol I'm new the more friends the better helps me get to know the gang, but I can understand how too many requests could have a down side.

I get a lot of friend requests too especially from new members. But when I check their profile and discussions I don't see anything in there like some interesting discussions. I don't add them anymore. Some new members I check too because its hard to make friends when you're new. When I was new here I just add everyone I've cross in the discussion page. It's a good thing they have added me to in their list.

Hi Joey. I tend to request a friendship because of the following: a) because I responded to their discussion, b) if they responded to mine, and/or c) we have the same interests. I try to respond to my friends discussions though sometimes their discussions (usually the subject line) may not catch my eye and I pass it up. Or sometimes I just may not know what to say, and I skip these as well. I may have a bunch of friends on here, though by no means am I going for the "myspace" effect just so I can have a high number of friends. I find the more friends one has on here, the better the chance of getting responses. Plus it is easier to find discussions that may interest me from these friends by either getting notifications sent directly to the email inbox or by searching through the "discussions my friends started". I don't delete any of the people off my friends list if they were to become inactive. Maybe they are too busy at the moment to stop in on mylot. Who knows, they may come back and post again one day. As a matter of fact, I just responded to one of my "friends" on here earlier who hasn't been on here for a few months. She came to mylot to let her "friends" know what was up in her life. Had I taken her off my friends list I surely would have missed this discussion! And just for the record, my myspace profile only has a small number of people. And they are only people that I've known in real life, not online.