I would like to vent about a problem with my mom.

Like I said to you earlier your Mum needs to realize how precious Children are and she has no right to but into your Life You need to get away from her and you need to tell her to but out Sweetie I know that is hard but I did it many years ago with my Mum and we have got on since then We did not talk for a long time but then we got on I hope you can get this sorted Sweetie

It would always be best to have communication and point out boundaries. Its a good idea to plan the the right venue and time to talk with your mom. Keep in mind that you use kind words like "We would appreciate mom that you..."

Wow!! Sometimes moving away from them is about the best thing you can do for sure in situations like this. Since that is what you are planning on doing this should help solve some of the problems for sure. It is sad sometimes when mothers continue to want to run someones life and be in control not allowing their own children to take control or grow up as well. Good thing you are wanting to take stand on this before it ended up effecting your Marriage and other things in life as well. Wishing you the Best.

My partner and I are having similar problems with his mother, only he doesn't help matters. When ever any little thing goes wrong he's straight on the phone to her and when we go to visit her and I'm giving my partner advice, she immediately undermines me and says something else, like I'm just a child still and I don't know what I'm talking about. We're both adults! It's so frustrating, but until my partner cuts the apron strings himself, neither of us will get any freedom and I have to bite my tongue. It's so galling. He's 27! I think it doesn't help that he's her only child.

Hey, at least you won't have to deal with it much longer. Think of the peace and quiet you'll get when you move away.

what i can tell you is that you can have as many wives as you want but only one mom. may be if she is telling you something it's for your own benefit and may be you don't see it. does your mom really want something bad for you. i don't know if it happened but it's an example when you're small she told you not to eat icecream. for you it was bad but your mom knew what she was doing. just give her a chance and see if things changes because i know she loves you a lot and want only your goodwill. i hope this helps.

You need to sit her down and let her know that this is your family and for her to quit running interference. That you are a full grown women with your way of doing things. That your husband is very important to you. That you still love her but that she is creating problems and you won't stand for that. I don't know how forceful your Mom is but she needs to be made to understand that the problems she is creating is not acceptable.

Well this sounds serious. I can say for the most part that I can understand where you are coming from. My mother used to do the same thing. At first I was afraid to say anything, but then I thought about it and knew what I had to do. I went to my mother and told her in a respectable manner that my business has nothing to do with her and I was totally capable of living my own life without her spoon feeding me. She was a little upset at first, but then later on she came to me and said "You know what you are absolutely right." An also another thing that could help is if you don't go and discuss your problems or what is going on in your marriage with your parents because they are going to see things from a parents point of view. They don't want to see their child hurting. So make sure that you keep them away from you and your personal life and moving to another state won't even be necessary.

I think that from the sounds of it, it is good that you are cutting the strings. Obviously this is a hard thing for you to do so if moving to another state is what it takes, then that may be just the break you both need. In fact, in time, I am almost willing to bet that you and your mom will be closer after a time. She appears to be having a hard time letting go as you are of breaking free. It is good that you are doing something about it before it negatively affects your marriage.

I think your problem is common to many women with their mother just around the corner. For years, mothers are there and maybe they are really used to protect their children specially their daughters. Moving to another place is a good solution. But don't let her miss you so much. She will be happy even when you're away already if you can still show your love to her by calling from time to time and by taking time to visit her if you have time.

You might be able to get away from the physical mom now you get to deal with vocal mom. I hope you don't plan on giving her your number?