Do You Ever Get Tired Of People Complaining?

i think co workers are the best are complaining about the same things over and over.. especially money.. i always get a kick out of my co-workers complaining about money.. we're a unionized place so we all make the same amount of money.. i realize different people have different expenses but im a sole provider to my wife and kid and pay childsupport and day care to another.. on top of that pay for my cellphone and habits.. so yah when i hear people complain about being broke im like wtf? and yah i make it a point to mention while we're on break that we are in fact on break and that they need to take a break or at least give us a break from their constant complaints.. the few regulars who love to complain daily dont sit with us anymore :D

I feel a little embarrassed saying this, but I am one of the complainers. Not that I complain all of the time, I just get in moods sometimes where it makes me feel better to complain. I'm not looking for anyone to listen, and most times I'm laughing through the complaint, but still I do complain. The woman you described reminds me of Reverend Fredrick Price's sermon he concluded today. God doesn't help a bad steward. He says when people are asking for help with something, usually there is a self-caused reason behind it. And it doesn't help to give this person money, because all they are going to do is end up in the same situation down the road. People that are looking for a handout very seldom want to help themselves, and are often very negative and complaining. My suggestion is spend as little time around this woman as possible. She can only bring your mood down, and that is unnecessary.

It all depends on a person who listens to such stories which are called compalints about their own living. I generally do not entertain people to tell their stories, not I indulge in telling anything about myself beyond a brief one or two points. Therefore, people (mostly relatives and friends) are aware that they cannot sell their compalints to me! In this world, there are all sorts of people. People who complain and people who listen to complaint. There are people like me who hardly complain and hardly listen to others complaints. There are instances where I do make complaints to the authorities when they make some blunders in their functioning which affects me directly or indirectly.

Your friend has "Yes, but "disease. If you offer her a possible remedy she will reply "Yes, but . . .whine whine whine." I do not blame you for being tired of it. It is like you said, she just is not doing anything to make things better, and only looking on the negative. That is probably why she is not at her better job right now. If you are always negative, only negative things come to you. She would not know a positive if it bit her. I think you are right all the way around.

Yes, you have got the situation entirely wrong…such people do not seek any help from anybody, it is their twisted sense of pleasure and pride to create a situation of being in perpetual hardship and how they struggling on against all the odds piled against them. I know such people and I try to avoid them like plague. If its in the family, I just nod my head and move alongwith them, without offering them any help. If its outside family & friends I just avoid them. For all I know, some of them are in situations far far better then yours or mine. They just like to soak in sympathy, like people to discuss their ‘problems’, like to feel important. Avoid such people, they know how to do their own job inspite of everything, but in the process they implant a seed of depression within you too. And never contradict or advise them on anything, its just a waste of your time and energy.

I, myself, am not a complainer. I have been known to, more than once, tell people who worked for me that the door they came in, will take them right back out. Personally, I see no gain in complaining. Complaining really doesn't get you anything other than on everyones "bad person to be around" list. I mean, who wants to be friends with or work next to someone who does nothing but complain about every little thing? Not me. Now, peple who sincerely are complaining and maybe don't realize how annoying it is, I usually tell them to look around and I am sure that they can find someone who has it a whole worse than they do.

I do sometimes, but I also consider that sometimes life hands out more than we can control sometimes. I sometimes have to distance myself and sometimes try to help by lending an ear and just listening. I try not to judge, everyones home life is different and we all have different problems.

Sweet there is a lot of People like that about and yes you are right why help her if she does not help herself I am still going through a bad time with money but I am slowly getting there I do not pester People and then knock them down when they suggest something I will give it a go I am now on disability and when I got divorced my ex Husband left me with a lot of Debt that was 5 years ago he has moved out of the Country and last week I receive a large Bill that he has not paid and I am now liable to pay as it used to be a joint account but I will just have to get on with it and only I can help myself So I agree with you this woman needs to concentrate more on helping herself then complain all the time

i get tired of people complaining a lot. i am infuriated by a person who is very negative about almost anything in life. sometimes, i just want to make that person disappear in my entire life so i don't have to listen to his/her compalaints about his/her life being miserable. i understand some people have problems. all people have problems some time in their lives. we should try to find the answers to our own problem and deal with it in our own way. let us not make somebody else's miserable because you are miserable in some point in your life.

Yes, I hate it.

Personally I try not to get into it or bother with it, because I enjoy my own life and I don't really find listening to others talking "oh life sucks" because it starts to affect you. (least it does me) Generally the only time I talk about it, is when I'm interested regarding certain things. People live their own lives, I can't watch over them and I can't allow myself to get tied down by complaining. I've had a hard life at times, no one's is easy and I strongly believe we make a difference in our lifes and our friends. I'll just try to as supportive as I can, without letting it get to me. ~Joey

I know ppl like that. They always complain but never want to change the situation. I look at it like this: If your unhappy with your situation, change it. If you don't like your marriage, get a divorce and move on. Same thing for your job, the town you live in, the house you live in, ect. Your the only person that can change your own situation so instead of complaining and being miserable all the time, change it. I have a little tag on my desk that says GOD GIVES EVERY BIRD IT'S FOOD...BUT HE DOESN'T THROW IT INTO IT'S NEST. That pretty much sums it up. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

I understand exactly what you mean. Some people just seem to always be complaining about their problems, without ever doing a thing to even try and change their situation. I used to work with a guy, we actually worked to gether for three years, and the whole time he complained about how he hated the job, he didn't get any recognition, and he wanted to leave. Not once did i hear of him applying for another job!! I stopped working with him about 8months ago and he still hasn't made the effort to look for somewhere else to work. Now this guy lives with his parents still and has no children, so it isn't like he has people dependaent on him so he can't take a risk by starting a new job-i personally think he just likes to complain!!

I know a couple of people who started out to be really kewl people but after a few years of being a victim of people taking advantage of thier kindness have turned into negative thinking people. They just seem to re-victimize themselves when they do all that negative thinking and shooting down good ideas from others. I guess if I where you I would keep her at arms length and not let her negative thoughts suck the life out of you, she would be considered a toxic person. I hope she gets help I used to be very negative and it got me alot of attention when I would be that way because people would try and help me and I would find reasons to shoot them down to make myself feel important in thier eyes. I changed after seeking counseling and they helped me realize that if I thought positive things then positive things would happen to me and they are right..Amberina

I too know many people who are constantly complaining.I'm really sick and tired of listening.There are some who love doing it they try to find something to complain about.there is nothing the listener can do about the situation still they rave and rant.I dont think they ever realise how annoying it is.

Yes, I do get tired of complainers and for the most part see they are simply 'negative' people. I have to admit my daughter is like that and at one time I made her sit each day and try to write down 1 good thing. I didn't care if it was the sun was shining, she didn't have school, or she eat something she liked that day. I'm afraid it didn't last long and today she is still the same way :(

Yes, I hate complaints. I prefer action. Like you said: Do something to change it. Like, if you have too many complaints about your job, then quit! If you have too many complaints about your spouse, then why the heck did you marry him/her in the first place? Get a divorce or something! I try my best to be positive so it does irritate me when the people around me are so negative.

Oh my goodness, I know exactly how you feel. I have a roommate who is 52 years old and has Kidney Failure. She started itching when she went to bed about three months ago. I kept telling her to talk to her doctors about it. She mentioned it once after about a month of complaining every single night. Apparently, the doctor did not hear her, because he never responded. We tried to think of everything that could possibly be wrong from fleas, bed bugs, soap powder, to peanut allergy and everything else in the free world. I thought about it being her Kidneys, but because I am not a doctor, it didn't make sense to me. So I kept telling her to mention it to the doctor again or tell another doctor. Meanwhile, her complaining every night was about to drive me insane. We thought it might be dry skin, so she bought some cheap lotion, but that did not help. She would go see a doctor and then come home and say that she forgot to mention the itching, but every night, I had to hear it again. Finally, I had a doctors appointment and had to go with her, so I reminded her right before going in to tell the doctor about it. She did and he said it was her Kidneys. She didn't ask if there was anything she could do about it and he is the type of doctor that you have to ask. So that night, I got on the internet and did research and found that lotion with Lanolin in it would relieve the itching. I wrote it down and told her about it. It has been a few days and she is still itching and still complaining. Right before I saw your topic I had just got finished telling her that she does not want to stop the itching or she would have bought the lotion already. I told her that no one would have had to tell me twice. She does not have a bad memory, she just likes to be thrifty. But, she is driving me insane with her complaining and when she is not complaining about itching she seems to be just waiting for it to start so she can start complaining about it. She is extremely negative and it gets to me. I am always trying to look on the bright side and she will mention the worse thing that could possibly happen. I will try to tell her something to help herself and she comes up with the most lame excuses not to do it. I know that she is old and has had a hard life. But, she makes it so I can not do anything to help her. Every time I make a suggestion, it is something that she can't do. I think she just complains to get my attention, but all it does is upset me.

Wow! I have to say, you kind of opened my eyes a little bit. I am one of those people who always complain. Most of the time, I dont even realize it. LOL Thanks for posting this,it kind of makes me wonder if people think that way about me. I think from now on I am going to try to be more positive. As far as your coworker goes...I don't think she is looking for any help to be honest, I know I never am when I complain. She might just need someone to listen so she can vent a little.

I think people like this don't want to be helped, they want sympathy and attention. I know people like that, and they aren't happy unless they're miserable, if you know what I mean. I think the best thing to do would be to avoid her as much as you can. When you can't, just nod and look sympathetic and say 'gee, that's too bad.' and move on. You care more about helping her than she does. You are letting it bother you. It's great to help people, but not to the point of it bringing you down. The thing is, if she finds a solution to her problem, she won't be able to complain and get all of this attention, so she will have to create a new problem, and then the complaining will resume. I try to avoid people like this, I do just like I suggested you do, and I walk away reminding myself that this is a person who doesn't want help, even if I could give it. I don't feel bad once I've established that the person doesn't want to have the problem solved. You are right, save your help for people who will use it to better their situation, and who will appreciate it and try to help themselves.