Is it possible never to have quarreled in your life.

India
January 13, 2008 10:20pm CST
Yesterday I met a lady who claimed she has never quarreled in her life. She seemed to be pretty calm, but no matter how calm you are, you lose your steam so many times in life. Is it possible she was spinning a yarn. I think so for I know I dont have a very bad temper, but I do blow off occasionally and quarrel. You either have to be a saint or prophet to endure everything with a smile and not quarrel or let off steam. What say.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
14 Jan 08
I think everyone has quarrelled at one time or another in their life. Just by disagreeing with someone starts a quarrel. Maybe she don't think she has ever quarelled because she has not said a word back to the person she upset. None of us are perfect.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
16 Jan 08
It leaves me stumped also because no one can agree with someone all of the time.
• India
15 Jan 08
You may suffer in silence, but sometimes you do blow up. You may even have an amicable argument. Never to have quarreled leaves me baffeled.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
14 Jan 08
its impossible. that lady is a hypocrite if she is saying that. nobody has never quarreled all her/his life. i'm sure, at least once that a person have lost temper and got angry. maybe she thinks that she doesn't get angry because she doesn't get violent, talk rude, or react fiercely. but people are different in expressing their anger. i'm sure she has a different way of expressing it.
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• India
15 Jan 08
Well said friend. Not to lose temper is like bottling up your emotions which may come out in a more dangerous form than blowing up. I too cant believe it.
@anaknitatay (1335)
• Philippines
14 Jan 08
this is possible but it aside from being a saint you are either two things-- a big coward or very dumb.
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• India
15 Jan 08
She is definitely not dumb. Coward maybe, but even cowards argue or fight a little. I definitely think she is fibbing.
@youless (112582)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Jan 08
I have a big doubt to it. It is the same that anyone says he has never told a lie in his whole life. Will you believe it? Perhaps she is a very nice person, but it is common that she will have the temper.
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• India
15 Jan 08
I too doubt the authencity of her statement. Every person, unless a saint, is endowed with a temper which we lose oft and on.
@candytang (341)
• China
14 Jan 08
I agree with you. I don't have a bad temper ,but I lose my temper and quarrel with other people too.About the lady ,I don't know what to say.Maybe she really can do that ,she can control her temper and forgive everybody and never remember the unhappy things. But ,to never quarrel with other is the aim I want to get .I think I should control my temper and have a happy day everyday.
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• India
15 Jan 08
I cn understand the forgiving part, we all quarrel and forgive. But to never have quarreled is amazing. Its dangerous to bottle up emotions like that, unless you are a saint. I know of a saint from India called Tukaram who did not say a word to a person flinging mud on him. He kept going to the river and bathing after every mud slinging and forgiving him too. Ultimately the person fell at his feet. She is definitely no saint.
@mummybec (685)
• Australia
14 Jan 08
I find it hard to believe that she has never had an argument at all in her life... everyone argues with someone, not matter how big or small the argument is. It is also not healthy to not argue as it would mean you are bottling all those un-said feeling up inside. If she honestly has not ever argued with anyone she would be the first person who hasn't I think!!
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• India
15 Jan 08
I think she is fibbing. Not possible at all. Yes, to bottle up all the emotions inside is also dangerous. Dont know whether to believe her or not.
• United States
14 Jan 08
Just like a person who says they have never sinned - that's impossible. Exactly the same reason to say that a person has never quarreled. We'r human beings - we make mistakes and do things because it's part of our nature. I hate getting into quarrels myself I just tend to walk away from them. Or if I ever get into a quarrel I tend to become sarcastic, make a joke to make the other even more angry or make them laugh. And no you don't even have to be a saint or prophet - because they too are humans that sin.
• India
15 Jan 08
I totally agree with you view point. But there are innumerable stories of saints looking at their opponents and enemies with love and forgiveness and not fighting. So a saint I can believe, but not her. Dangerous to bottle up things inside. Maybe she vents her anger in another way which may be more dangerous than just shouting or arguing.
@liowkc (50)
• Singapore
15 Jan 08
The lady in question must either in denial and/or a repressed state. The reason that a volcano's eruption is devastasting is obvious
• India
15 Jan 08
Maybe I will try and irritate her or differentiate with her ideas and see what happens. Bottling up emotions is bad and your simily of a volacano erupting is simple wonderful.
• United States
14 Jan 08
I dont know what to say except for kudos to the lady who can hold it all in and hope she never explodes
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• India
15 Jan 08
Is it possible in a life time ? I dont think so.
@ellie333 (21016)
14 Jan 08
even the most placid person disagress and quarrels at some stage in their life, so know I don't believ what she told you was true. Like you say unless she is a saint!!
• India
15 Jan 08
Totally agree with you. Just not possible. Maybe she is making it up to gain attention ? She definitely does not act like a saint or dress up as one, i.e. simply.
• United States
14 Jan 08
Wow, that has to be impossible. You can't not argue in your life. I bet she argues with herself because she holds all that anger in.
• India
15 Jan 08
Maybe she vents off her anger in some other way which could be more dangerous. Just cant believe it.
• Zambia
15 Jan 08
She's crazy. She may be suffering from a disorder of some kind. It's good to quarrel. It lets off steam. Besides she must be a crowd pleaser then. A follower.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
20 Mar 11
I think that this is an odd thing to say the least. I think that at some point, she would have had to disagree with someone in her life. It might have been few and far between, so its likely not to be remembered and perhaps it was so long ago. Still, the fact that this has never happened in her life, I find that rather hard to believe myself. Then again there are some people who remain calm in the most insane of situations. I know for a fact that I myself would blow my top. These people are really a marvel when you think about it. They just brush off everything like it was nothing and that is really something that I admire. I would never be able to be so calm about a lot of things like they are.