Friend gave up everything for religion

@angemac23 (2003)
Canada
January 14, 2008 12:20pm CST
My best friend gave up everything in her life for her religion. She gave up her friends, her taste in music, the types of movies she watches, her social life and me. We work together and she does not even attend work functions anymore because they are evil and against god. All she does is go to church, listen to religious music, watch religious TV and tries to shove her beliefs down everyone's throat. She is Anglican, so none of the things she did before were against the Christian god that I know of. I have no problem with her being religious, but is it right for her to be treating the people she once loved the way she is because now she loves Jesus more than us? I am highly offended by what she is doing and fed up. I plan on completely stopping talking to her because she says everything that I do is wrong and I should do things her way. All she talks about is god and Jesus and religion this and religion that....it's annoying!
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
14 Jan 08
If your friend were really following the example of Jesus, she wouldn't be treated you badly. Perhaps you should remind her of that. I've seen this with a lot of new Christians (or newly "devout" Christians)... they suddenly change their whole lives in order to attempt to become some kind of "perfect person." For a lot of them it wears off if you give them some time to settle into their beliefs, but for others it's just the way they're going to be. The problem with this attitude is not only that it drives others away from them, but also that it's really not compatible with the beliefs they are claiming. It's really sad to lose friends in this way.
@uath13 (8192)
• United States
14 Jan 08
I second that coment & add that their in for a big disappointment later on.
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• Australia
15 Jan 08
I absolutely agree with your comment!
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• United States
15 Jan 08
maybe you should try to see what she has and what she is going through and share the love of God that she is sharing. she is showing the behavior that most new Christians show to you this is odd 1Corinthians 2:14 But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned But to her this is not odd maybe if you would put your feet in her shoes.
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@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
15 Jan 08
you should not be offended on what ever she decides.since it is her decision,as friend you should respect her decision and support her you may not be in the same religion now but you are still friends no matter what happens.what if her new fopund god is the real god,then you will end up fighting the real god for what you are doing.its better to respect each others religious beliefs since no one really knows who the real god is its better to play it safe than lose an old friend just because you dont have the same religious beliefs.then when that happens it only shows that you are not really friends all along.
@angemac23 (2003)
• Canada
15 Jan 08
you are way out in left field! The reason I chose not to be her friend anymore is because she avoids my calls, avoids my emails. SHe has said herself that she only wants to hang out with people who are of the same religion as her....we used to be great friends, we did everything together and now she wants nothing to do with me because my beleifs are not the same as hers! I dont go to church but I certainly follow a good life....I dont steal, I dont cheat, I dont even drink! I do respect her beleifs but I dont understand why she cant still be friends with me. She's the one who does not respect other's beleifs, not me!
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
16 Jan 08
oh!ok...but do you know any reason why she was avoiding you or maybe she was just too busy doing something.do you think it is because of her new found religion that keeping her away from you?if it is so?why would it be?do you know anything about?
• India
15 Jan 08
Yes, it is annoying. It seems she is doing everything just the opposite of what Jesus did. As much as I know, he never shoved his teachings down anyone's throat. He gradually moulded their beliefs through series of discussions, discourses and gentle speech. All religions try to that. And in today's age it is definitely preposterous to expect people to give up interacting and socializing and confine themselves to religion only. But even then, those who do, should actually give up all worldly attachements and go and stay in a monastery. That option is always there in all religions for those who think that leading a normal human life is a sin. The more you try to thrust religion on people who are leading normal lives, the more irritated they become and the more disservice you are doing to religion.
• Canada
15 Jan 08
Sounds to me like your friend became a born again Christian; did she? If so she is probably just trying to find her way and do everything just right. She is probably so exited about what she found. She is coming on strong because of her new found faith and wants everyone to experience what she has. You can ask her if Jesus would push people away. We all need something to make us think once in awhile. Especially when we are doing things wrong and we need a good friend or loved one to set us straight. Most people are zealous when they find something new and want to share it with people. God is in the business of changing lives for the better. Your friend is going through a change, it is okay she doesn't like doing the things she did before. Maybe it will always be that way and maybe it won't. Right now she is wanting t focus her attentions on growing in God and learning about Him. If your frustrated with her and she is indeed your friend then talk with her and tell her what you think and see her doing. Maybe you can learn from each other!
@zhwbeast (326)
• China
15 Jan 08
Yes,it's not just annoying but also I would be pity for her. Although I'm a marxist and do not believe in the religion,I can say in equal that a person lives just for something that not exactly or without any evidence is foolish. She can give her soul to the god or Jesus, but it has nothing to do with our daily life such as making friends,listening musics,looking movies and others.
@salmans (32)
• Pakistan
15 Jan 08
CAn u tell Me the Religion Of ur FRIEND
@dvschic (1795)
• United States
15 Jan 08
she is trying to control something that she cannot find within herself, so instead she's focusing on what she can control.. her belief. she probably had something lacking in her life and since she's filled all her time with god, she doesn't have to focus on what else was lacking. i would try not to take it personally, although it is hard, and just continue to be there for her, if and when she ever needs you, she'll appreciate that you were there for her throughout. i have had some experience with it, since i'm an athiest and a lot of people find god around me (maybe i'm a magnet) and sometimes they stick with it and sometimes they dont.. i know its hard to not take it personally, but it really doesn't have anything to do with you, its stuff lacking in her and something she needs to figure out.. good luck!
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
15 Jan 08
beh in reality i was not annoyed about people who are so maniac about religion..such as i'm a believer in my religion but i'm not too obssesed as people i knew in the past!!normally people for christianity which are so obssesed by religion come from little community where religion play the most important role in life such as for personal taste or choices!!sometimes it is funny to kno this kind of people,i know that they try to suggest you everytime becaus see ourstyle of life sometimes as sinner you know..but everyone have the free choice in his/her life..may be you can be annoyed when there are people who try to convert to their religion using all possible things and even impossible to achieve this..so in this case sometimes can be annoying but generally if people are strong believer and talk everytime about religion suggest..it is ok..i was not annoyed about it!!
• United States
14 Jan 08
Stories like this is nothing new. I too have experienced a time of a Christian life. Going back in history and even the Bible it spoke where Christ spoke to many people about giving up everything for the sake of God's Kingdom - but of course that spoken of years ago Christ meant something about it. Now for this person who gave up everything for her religion would have been similar of what Christ spoke of or she actually understood what it meant. But it's her choice and free will. She changed not because for people or whoever, in her heart she did it to change because she loves God and wants to obey Him. And that's a good thing for her, she feels peaceful and happy. You feeling offended doesn't change anything - because people like you trace back 2,000 years ago of people who turn to Christ and they were offended as well.
• Malaysia
15 Jan 08
I pity for her,for me she is like culture shock.She though she done right but unfotunely she don't know anything just follow.She must missunderstanding about her religion.i don't think her religion want her become too obses of something too much.Thats good she want to be a good religious but she miss something,its knowledge.If she think logic,is she sure her religion want her to become hatred and too pround person.Who think she better from every one.U should not make adistance with her,If u still love her as friend,I tell u she axactly need u help before she lost her self.but u also have to respect what her believe just when she talk about religion just argue with a logic statement.And try to make her respect others back....
@NYzJatt (16)
• United States
15 Jan 08
She has the right to believe and god and stuff but she should keep it to herself.
• United States
14 Jan 08
That's sad. Religion should never be a barrier to make friends. Jesus Himself teaches that we should love our neighbours as we love ourselves. I believe you are a good Christian. I suggest you try to understand your friend and what she is going through. Sometimes people get too fanatic when they have entered a new religion or even tried new things. Tell her directly that what she is doing is hurting you and that if she can't accept you for what you are, then you might as well part in good terms. It is better to be strangers than be enemies.