Am I wrong for this..............

definately take a breather. If you are stressed, if does nobody in your family any good. As a mother of a one year old, I can relate. Make time for you. Maybe even plan a girl night out or get a sitter and take the hubby out for dinner. We all love our children but there are somedays that mommy needs a break. My husband work during the day and I stay home with the 1 year old. When he gets home, its his turn to take care of the baby while I make dinner and catch up on the dishes. Maybe a routine like this might help. Just a though. Hang in there.

You are certainly not wrong but this is the way the cookie crumbles for us women. Ours is always a thankless job, our satisfaction has to be found by us within ourselves. While women of our previous generations lived mostly in joint families and had helping hands with children, we have a very very tough time indeed. There is no use blaming the children, the hubby or cursing our luck. Some solution has to be found and an hour’s breather is no solution at all. Firstly, speak to your husband and see if you can get a hired help for 24hrs. It will definitely take a great deal off your shoulders. If that is not possible, then both of you should plan together about how to get some quality sleep at least at night. I am a working woman and my son is now 8. when he was an infant, he used to be awake throughout the night. He would go to sleep after his evening milk and then wake up at around 9:30/10 pm and then whole night he would just play, cry, mess the bed, demand attention and so on. Since both hubby and I worked, we devised a plan whereby alternately one of us would stay awake half the night to take care of the baby. We would put the alarm to about 2am and then one night maybe I would go to sleep after dinner and he would stay with the baby and then at 2am, I would wake up and be with the baby while hubby would go to bed. We reversed the cycle the next night. Somehow by this way, both of us managed to catch 4 to 5hrs of sleep and were not so tired during the day at office. You can try something similar but screaming to your husband about your daily chores and the babies wont help at all. It will only worsen your domestic life further.

You are not wrong. You need a break and what I know about little girls of six months old is that they LOVE their daddies. So it would be that she will calm down when her daddy is home. He might even get her to go to sleep, so that you can have a rest. Besides you have been up since six and doing all the housework, making the meals, while he has been at work and has not been rushing and doing extra like us women do when we are at home.

You are not wrong at all.... we all need a break at some point (especially after a long hard day!!!) I am a stay at home mum of 2 so I know how important it is at times to get a break yourself. Dont feel bad or guilty for it.

Yes you are right, but dont make it a point to go off as soon as he is home.. Give him time to relax, give him time to be comfortable and then let him know that you need a break and want to have a walk and walk off, what say?

You are not wrong for this. Both of you are the parent so you both need to help each other out. I know guys are like well I've been at work all day and try to say you haven't done anything but you getting away will give him the chance to spend time with his daughter

Whether your baby was cranky or not, a stay at home mom needs some 'me time'. Many times this is neglected and then complications set in. Like resentment, depression, anger, etc. If you don't allow some time to yourself and wind down, you can bet your health, mental or physical, will suffer. If you don't fulfill your own needs, your well-being will suffer. If your not healthy or in the right frame of mind, how can you be expected to take care of your family? Do it and do it now! Each day as needed!

Ok so he's been working since 9...but didn't you say you've been working since 6? I say he owes you 3 hours or at least an hour and a half if you want to split the difference. Being a stay at home mom is a job just like everything else only without a set schedule unless you make one yourself. If you need a break after x number of hours take it. You don't owe anyone an explanation or apology.

I see nothing wrong with taking a break from the baby. You need to relax and have a little our your own time. Even though your husband worked all day, he should spend a little alone time with her. Also the baby probably senses your mood and that could be making her a little more hyper. Dad on the other hand is fresh and hasn't been with her all day.

No I dont think you are wrong to wont just an hours break it will probable do you good. I am sure your husband will understand, just tell him you need a walk or something.Talking of walking have you thought of putting her in the pram and going for a walk, it does help. My baby girl is almost 9months old, and My husband works away during the week so it is just me and her at home andshe has not been sleep well at nite due to teething, I often find it really good to get out of the house and she loves it.sometime the house work has to wait.

can i suggest "baby einstein" videos? they are a lifesaver have you taken her temperature? sometimes the screaming can be from an ear infection also maybe she doesn't agree with a new food? of course then there are times they are just cranky, too mine got up 6 times last night!! she was sleeping through!!

The way you are feeling is perfectly normal and not at all unfair to your husband. The guilt that you are feeling must come natural to us women. I always feel guilty for needing a break. But I'm often reminded by others that it is okay to get away for a bit and even though I agree, it is still hard to not feel guilty for it. Enjoy your break, you deserve it!

No it's not wrong. It's his child too. You deserve a break even if it's just going down the street to the gas station for a Snickers bar and a Coke. If he won't watch her, just leave her there with him and force him to watch her. Just because you stay at home does not mean you don't do anything. If she screams that much, there might be an underlying medical condition. I might suggest you take her to the MD. She could have an ear problem. My little nephew, when he was about your kid's age, had bad ear aches, but the only way my S-I-L could tell was by the fact he screamed and cried more. It was his way of telling them his ears hurt. Just a suggestion.

Hi I went through this feeling over 20 years ago but then what I used to do is put her in car seat go for a drive playing the music I liked and it calmed me and her, but if you need to get outofthe house without her do so, your health and mental state are very important. You are a very good mum but a very tired one. Take some time for you. You are not wrong

Oh I feel ya girlie! No, you aren't wrong and you shouldn't feel guilty. Everyone needs a break every once in a while. I'm in dire need of one right now. I have 2 of my kids fighting over a battery, one in the tub, one covered in red koolaid, and one crying because he can't figure out how to make an A in cursive! I'm about to pull my hair out! On another note, when your baby is fussy, put a recieving blanket in the dryer for about 10 minutes...take it out fold it in half, then in half again long ways, so it's long and skinny and then wrap it tightly (not REALLY tight, but snug) around her belly. That should calm her, she probably just has a belly ache when she gets fussy like that. LEt me know if that helps! Take care and stay sane! :-)

Take the break, I know I did many times. It's been a long day for the both of you and having your hubby just mind her for a short time is ok too. Nothing wrong in that at all. You will feel a whole lot better if you took that break so go for it :)

My baby son is eight months old. My friend has a little girl that doesn't sleep much and cries for much of the time. She finds it essential to get a break for an hour to relax a bit without hearing her daughter moan and cry. Her husband baths their little girl and reads her a story before he gives her a bottle of milk. During that time my friend can unwind and calm down after a busy and stressful day. Another one of my friends has a little girl and she is nearly 4 years old. But when she was born my friend suffered post natal depression. Nowadays she offers support for ladies that suffer that. I send you good wishes for getting some rest and getting your baby girl happy most of the time and sleepy at the right time. You are not wrong, your husband is sharing caring for your daughter.

i don't think you are wrong. you need to take care of yourself as a new parent. there are many new mums who don't realise that they need to make sure they are mentally alright. otherwise both they and the baby and the marriage could suffer. relax and take sometime out for yourself everyday. even 15 minutes is good. i'm sure your husband won't mind spending 15 minutes with his child everyday and give you a small break.

babe, it took both of you to make the baby so it needs both of you to help care for it, i agree, he has been at work all day but you need a break to, when he gets home from work, his job stops, yours doesnt, it wont hurt him to give you a bit of breather, perhaps you could arrange something with him where hell have the baby for an hour or so in the evenings so you can have a bit of you time, have a nice hot bath, read a book, have a nap etc xxx good luck hun xxx

My son who is now almost 4 use to do the samething to me. I use to take off for a bit to have some me time when my husband got home from work. I use to tell him, he had time to interact with people other then a screaming child. I use to go and sit in a park, go for coffee, anything to gather myself and then come home and be a better mommy. I dont think you are wrong for doing it at all