do you let your baby cry when you put them down to sleep?

I have a really fussy baby,who use to be a very happy baby at one time.Now that she cries a lot I usually go to her and pick her up and make sure everything is really ok with her.I sometimes will let her cry for awhile before I pick her up becauseometimes she will soothe herself without needing me to do it for her.Its different for every parent,and it just depends on the child too.

Aslong as we don't leave babies for long, i don't think its wrong..... because like you said they need a routine. I use to go to my son when he got aggrevated because if i went to him straight away he thought i would be doing it everytime he cried. It worked well most of the time, but sometimes..... if i let him cry to see if he would go back off to sleep on his own, he just cried more and got louder and louder...... and also got aggrivated sometimes. I will be doing the same thing with our baby who is due in a few months to see if it works with her too. ~Joeys wife

I personally would never let my son cry it out. He is only a little over two months old and he needs to know that I'm there to take care of him. You can't possibly spoil a child when they is so young so every time he cries I run to see what I can do to soothe him or see what he needs. When he gets a way older, I may let him cry but for now there is no way I would ever just let him lay there and cry.

Yes we do that to my aunt baby, the first sign of crying we just look at the baby that the wont see us.

this is a touchy subject amoung mothers so please don't take anything i say as criticism. We let our son fuss himself to sleep and after about 3 or 4 days he would put himself to sleep at night when he put him in his crib at bed time. We put him in there, let him fuss, checking on him like every 10 minutes and pay attention to him cries. I can tell the difference between the "i am fussy cry" and "I am hungry cry" and the "I am hurt or uncomfortable Cry" Different strategies work for different families. Good luck.

Really I think your routine is fine and its not that harsh i do that too mine.

I never left either of my babies to cry. When they are so little that they can't communicate their needs, crying is the only form of speech they have.

Hey ya know my son has sleep all the way through the night since he was 8 weeks old. He also hasn't had a passifier of bottle since he was 7 months old. Now he has thing like you said where he refuses to go right to sleep. I first make sure his tummy is full and his diaper is changed. So then I know if I lay him down and hes fussing that hes just trying to wind down to go to sleep.. But, like you said if hes screaming I mean to the point where its unbearable then yes pick him up! But, when you do make sure hes not teething.Or has a fever! Diaper rash could also be bugging him. After that I lay him back down.Now its on him I go in the other room and come back and check on him an hour later and make sure hes covered up with his blanket! But, anyway I am a mommie and this is my experience so far! Good Luck

I would let them cry. Cause they don't want to go to bed. So yeah I agree with you routine does have to start. I have three children and now I can usually tell whats wrong with my children by their different cries.