Would you still love even if it hurts?

I have done that lot of times in the past, but when it really hurt already, I woke up and realized that it's not worth it anymore. Not only was I wasting my time, I also wasted the love that I might have given to others.

Unfortunately it seems like your friend truly believes that this guy is 'the one.' There's very little you will be able to do for her until she realises that he is not the only guy in the World and one day someone who appreciates her will come along. I think the only way to help her is to make sure you invite her along to places, keep her sociable even when she complains about not wanting to go out. And when you do go out, don't let her mention him as it will only make her feel bad. If you can save the conversations about him for when you have a girlie night in, she may get used to being herself when she's out and a new, much better guy will come along. We can't help the way our heart leads us, even though it can be so wrong for us. She will learn from this & become stronger in the long run. Nica x

Sometimes you stick in there even if it hurts-you keep hoping the Guardian Angel of love will hit him and turn his mind and heart towards the real love in waiting-yes sometimes hope keeps such lovers going and when such is seen to be goings on, the best to do is to leave the concerned parties to sort themselves out!

Oh the agony of unrequited love. I feel for your friend and you are a good friend too for trying to help her. She will never stop loving him but it will mellow with time. Now she must sit up straight and talk firmly to herself that life must go on. She must find another to love and give herself to with her heart. There will be many more men who are worthy of her love and attention even though she may not think so at this time. But there will always be a little corner of her heart where her current love will reside. And that corner is right beside where she keeps the love for all her friends. Those parts of her heart are VERY close together and hard to tell apart.

It is not really True love when it is a one way relationship.I think it is pointless and useless to invest your time to a person who have another love partner.That's why the hurting is more because of one's craziness to love in this way.I have done this in the past and no I wouldn't be a permanent stupid person not to realize the lesson I learned on this.

Hi,there, Actually it is hard to say ..it all depends ..it depends on the person who heart me .it depends on how deep this hurt will be .it depends on the the person's attitude ..etc.. Under these conditions then I will judge whether I will love again or not.. Molly

Love always hurts. This is because if you aren't making sacrifices you aren't truly giving of yourself. It also makes you grow and learn about the bad things within yourself. Your ego and jealousy have to go in order to truly love another. This is also true of loving God. We have to improve ourselves to have a true relationship and be honest with ourselves and others. Without pain there is no real growth.

You can never be sure of love, sometimes you get hurt and you get lucky if you end up with each other. I don't see any problem in loving someone, as long as you know that there's also a chance that you get to be loved in return. But unlike your friend, I'd be a fool to love someone knowing that the person I loved already has their special someone. If you'd ask me, I'd rather focus on something else than waste my time and effort of hoping that he'd love me in return..

Not as in the sense of trying to get the person to be my spouse. However, I shall love the person as I love other person.

Love hurts regardless. Your friend is hanging onto a guy who shows no interest in her so he's NOT her soul mate. The only thing you can do for her is be there for her. Eventually she'll come to realize, in a painful way unfortunetly, that he's not for her and she'll hopefully move on... the sooner the better.

LOve is hurtful no matter how sweet it can be at times.. But time will heal everything.. There's isn't a need to change her thinking or rush her to forget him.. ONce the right guy comes along, very naturally she will forget him and start all over again :)

I feel i will always love no matter how much I have been hurt,I have loved some one the same way as your friend, And i can tell you she needs your surport even if she dosent know it yet ,What I had to find was a place, in my hart to love the person still and that it was ok to love him, and still not have him, and it was ok to let him live his life and still love him ,and yes i cryed all he time to for a very long time,when you love someone turely, you never stop loving them ,you need to find a safe place in your hart to love them,you need to tell your friend that its ok to love him and miss him and to hurt,that is part of healing,And most of all be there for your friend, listen even if it gets hard and crazy,for you ,it all takes time, i hope this helps alittle, and bless you, Donna

I wouldn't love if it hurt.He's not with her so she is wasting her time.She could be enjoying life with someone else.

I was in a similar situation some years back. I started a casual relationship with this guy. I did not find out until I had fallen in love with him that he was married. He did not wear his wedding band so I did not know until it was too late. My heart was breaking and it took a while for me to end things with him. I don't want to be the other woman. I would not want someone else to do that to me whenever I am married. She needs to figure this out on her own. She will not listen to your advice only her heart. She will just have to live and learn as I did.

I can't criticise your friend. Love is always unconditional. So it has it nothing to do with the attitude of others. I too love someone who don't even care about me. But it does not mean that I do not enjoy company of others. I really enjoy the life to its full extent. Here your friend is wrong.

If I feel he is the one for me but he doesn't love me , I would still love him but I would try to move on.The problem is that your brain knows it is hopeless but most of the time you can't convince your heart.all you can do for your friend is be there for her.Maybe in time she will get over him.

Such things happen to people when they love some one too much, we should be careful and i really feel sorry for your lady friend. Its not her fault its what our heart plays with us, i have a similiar experience and according to me time is a good healer. I wish and pray for her that she too will get well soon for that emotional sickness. God bless you and your friend too.

I think everybody experienced the breakup. I have to say that I still loved him when we broke up. It is a very sad experience. As we have sacrificed for each other but we couldn't be together at the end. Love is an emotion, and you can't control your feeling. Even if you know you can't love this one any more because it's no future, but you can not just stop your love feeling. It needs the time. As time goes by, everything will be better and it'll be less hurtful.

I've been there, done that before. It hurts, a lot actually but I've no regrets because I've learned my lesson. I guess let your friend realize things are probably not for her. I wish your friend find happiness in herself. God Bless

The time will gonna tell when she can stop loving that guy. As a friend just stay beside her and listen. Just guide her but don't ever leave her and don't tell her that she doing is not right just don't forget to love her self too.