forgive and forget - hard?

I couldn't possibly compare myself ever being in the same situation for forgiving as in you topic. However in my lifetime I have forgiven many times some pretty bad things but I NEVER forget so whoever it was who wronged me will not ever get the chance to do it again.

i can forgive easily, coz there is no reason not to forgive... but not forget...coz according to my experience and astrological sign, 'fish', we are the one that cant forget things/events that had happened to us...but it doesnt mean that we fake forgiving or something like that..we cant forget in the sense that it happened to us, its been a part of our past that will always be part of our life...but the feeling, for example, anger or hatered, is no longer there..we only take those things as memories...forgiving is easy coz there is no reason keeping hatered in our hearts, it will do us no good...but forgetting things that had happened is hard coz it happened and nothing will changed that but it only memories to remember and laugh with...

Forgive and forget are always used hand in hand, but I think that is wrong. I believe it is important to forgive, but not for the other person who wronged you, for yourself. Otherwise you'll go crazy keeping all that anger inside you. But one should not forget. For example, if you were cheated on, and you allow yourself to forget, you may be vulnerable to it happening again. As for a murder situation, yeah I would still forgive just because I know that one day he will have to face true judgement.

I think forgive and forget don't so hard for me,because I always forgive everybody like priest.

I don't understand this forgive and forget theorie. I maybe can forgive but I could never forget. And something this serious I couldn't forgive. I have experienced a crisis in my life that I could never forgive the person for hurting me, and I most certainly can never forget what happened to me. I believe in God but I can't forgive such a hurrendiuos crisis.

Hi friend,I think depend that person principle.Actually I admit so difficult to forgive and forget about what happened was occur but we must think positive.We give a chance to change their life.If that person do the same case we can decide to give heavy punishment for give he regret.I think not wrong if make decision to forgive his because if we revenge can't give benefit for them.that my opinion.

i don't think it's hard for me to forgive and forget. i am talking about having a fight with someone who is dear to you and you forgive him/her and become friends or close to each other again. i would rather choose to be close or friendly to someone than being enemies to each other. if we were enemies, it would life would be a lot harder. i ask this question whenever i get into this kind of situation, " why be enemies when we could be friends?" true, why would i spend the time and energy to hate somebody instead of loving each other.

I tend to forgive rather easily, but it takes a long time for me to forget the occurances that lead up to me having to forgive them in the first place. Though it may be a different story, if a person did something like that to someone I was close to. You kill one of my family or friends, mentally ill or not, and I'd probably hate you for the rest of my life, and hope the worst things imaginable would happen to you. And personally even if a person is mentally ill, I don't think that should be a reason to forgive murder. Guess I'm just to hard headed on that issue.

It's hard to explain. I can forgive and forget quite easily, however I do hold grudges and once I'm annoyed it's hard to "re" get me to be open or even interested in that person. If they keep doing it, then I tend to hold the worlds biggest grudge and never forgive. my wife parents, I cannot forgive as they was too cruel to her for no reason. Just because they didn't like me, doesn't mean I could forgive them for taking it out on her. ~Joey

There is absolutely no way I would even begin to forgive! A person like this that kills someone should be punished to the maximum! That is why we have so many killers, because all we do for punishment is a few days in jail, and we are expected to feel sorry for them!

Hi glitzypurple, Yes it is very difficult for us to forgive and forget, but also very necessary. I have struggled with it in my own life, and feel that I have forgiven, but it is much harder to forget, at least for me. There are those who will tell you that unless you forget, you have not truly forgiven. I don't think we should seek revenge, but hope that the person will change, and make a better life for himself/herself. I can understand the friends of the priest forgiving him because it is a prerequisite if one is to be considered a Christian. Blessings.

well,its depend on the situation...but im a person who easily forgive and not to forget...coz it makes me feel great.

i dont find it any meaningfull to forgive and forget.at in serious cases. one may forget incident involving small issues but big ones r not meant for forgetting. you need not forgive big losses in ur life. forgive and forget r meant only for insane philosophers who do not love themselves

Forgiving is easier than forgeting I think as there will always be memories of the bad situation you had to forgive for and those memories are harder to erase. Forgiving releases you from bitterness and resentment which can ruin your life more than a bad act from someone else

I think it depends on whether this man was insane. If he had a mental disease that made him do it, then it would be easier for forgive and if his deed did not personally affect the forgivers, it would also be. But I suspect none of the forgivers had been snatched by this man and barely escaped with their lives. It is the distance that makes some people forgive. For instance, the parents of a kidnapped and killed child. The ones that have a hard time are the ones who were the victim and escaped with their lives. So you can forgive, but it is more like forgiving yourself for wanting revenge. We have the law for that. Also you cannot forget, but you can leave it up to God who will punish the one who did this monstrous thing in the after life. I am sure that HE will know whether the man was truly repented or whether he was pretending to get out of jail.

Some one who does something like that is mentally ill, hopefully while serving their time, they had therapy and are now on meds to control these impulses. I guess I could forgive and forget but I would still be very conscious of this person propensity toward the very abnormal. I have a question...would him have eaten a different body part been less disgusting then the brain?