people who have been abused in childhood
By Natalie_PTR
@Natalie_PTR (92)
Canada
January 15, 2008 11:40am CST
I know it's a very difficult question but I was abused in my childhood by a member of my family and since then it has always been difficult for me to come to terms with it. I've been searching for explanations for this and I thought starting a discussion might help. Please share your experiences if any regarding child abuse and molestation. How can we put it to an end?.
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8 responses
@twilight_75 (479)
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15 Jan 08
Only time and talking will help this one, though it never goes away, you just learn to live with it. I let it ruin a lot of my life, took a long time to get my head around it all. We can't change what happened, but we can sure as hell make sure it doesn't ruin the rest of my life!!
@Natalie_PTR (92)
• Canada
15 Jan 08
You are right, we've to learn to live with it and move on. It might take a lifetime for me but I'll keep trying and not going to give up. Initiating this thread was also a part of getting some help from people with similar experience and to learn how do they cope with it. Thank you for your response. I think it is very difficult to find out that abuse is happening if the abuser is within the family because you least expect such a thing. Also the victim is more likely to not speak against a person from inside the family then a stranger. In my case it was my own grand father and I never found the courage to tell my parents because I always feared that no body will ever believe me. Once my mom saw it and then she talked to my dad but he never believed it. I was too young at that time so my parents never asked me directly for a testimony and my father kept believing that my mom was casting a lie until recently when my sister told my dad that she has experienced it too and it's true.
@shailendraraj (259)
• India
16 Jan 08
Yeah u r right.. unfortunately its a part of the society... i propose the easiest n the most effective way to tackle child abuse... The parents have to take the child in confidence.. u have to build the repo with ur child.. n then slowly n lovingly teach them the difference between touch... like when someone touches them with care and love or when someone touches them with cruel intentions. this will certainly take time but things will improve... i know few couples who have been successful in doing this training.
@shailendraraj (259)
• India
18 Jan 08
Thats what is building confidence ... n it need not be the mother who has to take the lead... one must develop the relationship with the kids in a certain manner that anything unusual is immediately brought to their notice... else several children will continue to face the evil....
simultaneously the law against such heinous crimes be made stringent..
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
15 Jan 08
Personally I go to therapy for that.
Granted, my situation is rather complex. Not only was I sexually abused by my grandmother's husband and some of my mother's boyfriends, but I suffered physical abuse from most of my other relatives, was sometimes homeless, and was raped when I was 11 by yet another person. So my whole early life was pretty much nothing but terror and abuse in one form or other.
So not only do I talk about it with people I trust and deal with it through positive lucid dreaming techniques (to defeat nightmares) and meditation (for calm), but I also go to therapy regularly for the post-traumatic stress disorder I've been diagnosed with.
@Natalie_PTR (92)
• Canada
15 Jan 08
I'm extremely sorry to hear about your story and I'm glad that you are trying your best to get all the help. Keep it up and I pray that you and every one who has experienced any trauma in their life do find their peace.
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@lorvenking (15)
• India
16 Jan 08
It is quite became so common, but no one is able to respond to this in a right way. it is true, that in childhood we may not be in a stage that what is happening to us. the improper activities puts their signficance into our life for a long time. if we are not in a stage, to understand this it may lead to a kind of depression. we may get affected to several abnormal behavioural disorders. there is one solution for this.
1. Understand yourself.
2. Believing the right that there is no fault in you.
3. All that happened to you is only an incident.
4. Try to know the values of humans and their behaviours.
5. Better to read books on Psychology and books of personality developments.
@LUCKYASH (39)
• United States
21 Feb 08
the only way is to inform people and become an activist i also struggle
@riah13224 (96)
• United States
26 Feb 09
ever since i was young i have ben degraded by my grandmother
i was and am never good enough
whatever i do i still have to do more
she calls me sooo many name i have grown use to it but it realy just eats me away inside
im fat im stupid im just a trouble maker in her mind i am a incapable fat and retatded girl who will go no were and never do anything with my life but you know what im going to prove her wrong
ill do somthing with my life i am just try soo hard
@subha12 (18441)
• India
16 Jan 08
Look it is said that persons who are abused in childhood, have difficult time when they grwo up. Its like you. it seems taht you can't get away fron those happenings. Do one thing. Take help of councellors and confide in someone close to you. they can help you for sure.
@healer (1779)
• India
16 Jan 08
I don't have any such experiences but i have got friends with such experiences, like molested by their uncle when they were very young or even in the teen years. It brings some discomfort in the family bond relationship and so normal life relationship becomes very hard to these kind of people. They find it hard to trust people and also their nature of dealing and view points becomes different. In a way it has completely changed their outside view, lets hope these things does not happen to us and let not these things happen.
