"You complete me". Is this so?

Before I met my fiancee, I thought I was very happy. I thought I had all that I needed. And then when we started talking I realized she is what I needed. I've been with her over a year now and I am so much more happier than I was before I met her so yeah, she did complete me. I also know that if I ever lost her, I would be so lost in this world. I am so glad I found her and I really want to spend the rest of my life with her.

well, you probably don’t search for your soulmate..you find each other, when the time is right. And yes, I think as long as you're happy and content with your life, you don't need other people to make you happy and whole, as your happiness depends on you. but we're humans after all, we need to love and be loved ;)

Right, if you are complete, why would you need somebody else? I think it's like having a great steak dinner, but its the strawberry and cream dessert that 'complete' the meal.

well, it depends on how a person look at himself i guess. like priests and nuns, they believe that having relationship in their order is bad because they have given fully their life to God. that Completes them. as for me, yes i have a boyfriend, and he completes me...

As a regular person in a relationship and as a therapist looking inside of one through a clients ees, my conclusion is the same: if two people are NOT WHOLE withinin themselves, get whole first before being in a relationship because when you do come together in harmony when one needs reserve energy, affection, compassion, empathy, passion, etc it will come from what you two put in together and not depleting from a person lacking what the other 'seems to provide'. Did that make sense ? I hope so . . . sharing the light and happy new year, Miss Erica Hidvegi, the Enlightenment_Advisor, B.A. Psych/M.A. Transpersonal Studies- Cnslng/Author, Artist, Photographer, Entrepreneur & Freelance extraordinaire

another person is not going to make you whole. You need to be whole first and know who you are and what you want out of life before you can determine who your soulmate is. If you aren't whole, you aren't in touch with your soul. in order to find our soul mate, you need to find your soul first.

i think in any relationship, both the person should be emotionally reciprocating. in love I do not think anyone should be complete to love other. May be it is love which feels up the void and makes someone complete.

What an excellent point you make here. I'd like to elaborate but I honestly can't think of much. I'm alone and content (alone except for my animals that is) and I truly feel that there is no room for someone in my life but I still wonder and yes, wish that there was someone truly special to share the good bits with. Of course that person would be my soulmate.

hi same me too

Hello sararuthbeth22!:-) Very interesting question indeed! Well, here's my take on this... Humans are never a whole 'whole'. I see humans as parts of a whole but as distinct wholes in themselves. It's like two pieces of a puzzle or in engineering terms male and female parts of a machine which are separately a 'whole', yet, when combined they not only complete each other but also make another bigger "whole". Or perhaps, human body will be a better example. We have different organs, which are distinct working units having their own unique functions and roles. They are 'whole' in themselves in the sense that their job is/can be done by none but them, yet, a bigger whole, a 'complete' human body is formed when they all get together and complete each other in a joint and mutually dependent fashion. Moreover, in order to enjoy one 'whole', "completely", the other should itself be a 'whole'...like in order to enjoy the full functioning of an arm (one whole) and its best performance, Brain (other whole) should wholly be working, otherwise if right side of brain is damaged, left arm will appear as less functional or even non-functional. So, in my view, it is possible that two are distinct ‘wholes’ yet they may further complete each other to make another bigger whole! I don't know if it makes sense to you, it didn't make much sense, perhaps, to me either until I was married!:-)

It's a bonus to find someone who is your soulmate. Yes. You need to love yourself first and be somewhat of a whole person so you can be confident enough to open your heart! And sometimes when you meet that person you grow and become more!

Complete me as in emotional needs, sure. It's human nature to want or to be loved by someone. When we find a person who pays attention to us, we feel 'complete' because that missing part of our life -- not being loved or appreciated -- has been found. Complete me as in I can't live without you, not for me. I am just as happy married as I am single. Before I found my DH, I was not looking for romance or love. I was VERY happy being single and had decided after 2 failed engagements (one of which he dumped me 2 weeks before our wedding date then married the sk-ank on our wedding date using OUR flowers that we paid for and used the chapel that WE paid for), I gave up. Screw it. I don't need love. But it found me and I couldn't be happier. But it does rub me the wrong way when I hear that so and so completed me and I can't live without him. Unless he has you hooked up to a self controled ventilator which is controlling your breathing when he pushes the button on it, you can live without him.

I think that we are all made to be in a pair, we were built to be in a couple. I believe you have to be strong and know yourself before you can love truly though. I dont think that another person completes you necessarily, but if it is the person for you then it makes you feel like you have found your equal!

I think when you've found the right person after a while when your not with them it does feel as if part of you is missing. I've been with my partner 4 years and cannot imagine not having him there to finish off my sentences for me and visa versa. Its also nice when your just about to say something and the other person already knows what you're thinking

What I've noticed is that men and women tend to have certain emotional needs in a relationship. It's easy to get carried away by a fascinating new person, but those levels of fascination are different for men than women. I think most men will chase after a pretty face, while women tend to be drawn towards exciting and confident men. It seems to me like people are too free-spirited; maybe they say what they want, and need something completely different.