When you are married for many many years, will you still hold hands and walk.
By ketybhagat
@ketybhagat (4123)
India
January 15, 2008 10:21pm CST
I was out walking to work when I saw an old couple walking hand in hand, old means nearing 70s. They were both taking care of each other and it touched my heart to no extent. This type of love is very rare. My husband after 22 years of marriage will not hold my hand on the road these days, those days are gone for us. But when I saw this old couple, I was deeply touched. How many of us will be able to claim such a relationship when we are old and grey. I sent a prayer up to God Almighty to give them each other for many many more healthy years.
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Jan 08
I have been married for atleast 27 years..but im happy to say that we are still close and still hold hands in public or even hug each other as the situation arises( i hug him if i hear some good news or just feel like hugging and vice versa).. we have experienced so many ups and down but we are still very close and intimate with each other and i thank God for that..( i married young at 18 and hes 27)....
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@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
17 Jan 08
I guess the difference in age is what is so endearing. To have loved a person who is much elder to you means he is mature enough to take care of you and your wants. After 27 years of marriage, if this is the relationship you have with him, then yours is a rare marriage. Take care of each other and may you have many many more wonderful years together.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
16 Jan 08
Yes. There are 15 years difference between my husband and I but we have been married for 13 years in July of this year. We still hold hands like we first met, but not all of the time because we have aged and matured and live very hective lives. I can still see us holding hands when we both are older also.
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@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
17 Jan 08
I get a feeling that the greater the difference in age, the more mature and loving becomes the relationship as it grows on in years. May your love blossem and grow even when you are both old and greay. Amen.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
19 Jan 08
Thank you very mcuh. We have both had bad relationships in the past and we both know how valuable true love, respect and honesty to one another is.
My husband is already gray and I am starting to get a few here and there, LOL.
Thanks alot. I really hope love will grow in your life also.
@sojournseeker (1244)
• United States
17 Jan 08
Oh gosh I sure hope so . . . but it doesn't require us to be married, does it ?
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@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
22 Jan 08
I hope so too. No, marriage is not the answer to it. You can grow old and grey and love every moment of your life with your partner, married or not. Good luck dear and may you find the partner of your dreams, and may your dreams last and last forever.
@VeronicaClarke (84)
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16 Jan 08
I sincerely hope I can one day have a love like that, I don't think many people are that lucky. Alot of relationships fizzle out and lose any kind of spark, so to see a couple like that is beautiful
Nica
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@quickaddictions9 (25)
• United States
17 Jan 08
yeah i would, it usually leads to other things ;) haha jk but i still would
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@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
18 Jan 08
I think it is so sweet when older people are still affectionate with each other after many years of marriage. In the nursing home where I work, there are several older married couples who are like that. Or they could just be holding each other up! LOL
I have been married for 15 years and still hold my husband's hand when we go out or even when we stay in and watch a movie together. His 20 year old son gets embarrassed when he walks in and we are hugging. I think he would have a heart attack if we kissed in front of him!
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
22 Jan 08
Married for 15 years and still lovey dovey. Vow. May Almighty give you both many many years of such love. You both are really blessed. God Bless you. Yes, sons do tend to feel funny when parents hug or kiss, but thats growing up. Maybe it is a good sign, for he too will look forward to having a married life like yours. Yahoooooooo
@marymarj2002 (1769)
• Philippines
18 Jan 08
Wow that is such a nice couple. I really appreciate those couple even if they are already old but they still show their affection to each other. I am just new to marriage but after the short period we have I have observed that my husband is not the same as before. It seems that he is far from me. I thinks he gets bored of me.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
18 Jan 08
It is very sad that love fizzles out after some time, or one gets bored of ones partner. It is very difficult not to take each other for granted. After such a short period of marriage, your husband gets bored. Its a shame, he does not appreciate his loving, caring wife as much as he should. Never mind, keep looking your best and enjoy yourself with friends. Take care and good luck.
@vicky_lane4987 (980)
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16 Jan 08
i plan too...me and my fiance have been together for nearly 3 years and were still like a new couple. i think that it is really cute to see old couples like that. i dont think that there is enough of that now. plus i think people take each other for granted abit
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
17 Jan 08
Vicky, you seem to be a very understanding person. Not all can get to the root of all problems in a relationship, i.e. taking each other for granted. Life plays many games and to come out of it with your love intact is the biggest hurdle overcome. May you too have this kind of love.Amen. Good luck to both of you.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
22 Jan 08
Yes, after 40 odd years we still do. In fact, more so that before because when we were young we tried to be careful not to be demonstrative with one another in public and then as society changed and it became OK to do that we were busy and had different work schedules so we really couldn't do it that often. But now that we are retired we are stuck together like glue and go everywhere just as you describe the couple you saw. If I hold his hand it helps him walk a bit steadier and I can be sure that he will not trip or fall, too. He says he much prefers holding onto me than a walking stick.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
24 Jan 08
Hats off to you two. This type of love and understanding is rare and you both are blessed with each other. Many many many happy years ahed. God Bless.
@asawanialvin0611 (1877)
• Philippines
22 Jan 08
we shuld because touching makes one feel better and feel loved
@graedragon (329)
• United States
16 Jan 08
I hope in years to come that my husband and I will still be holding hands. Our relationship is still young but I can wish upon a star that this will come true.
@mad_evo99 (24)
• United States
16 Jan 08
I have to start my response that praying to a "god" is a waste of time, but whatever floats your boat to get by each day...
I seriously hope I will always hold the hand of my significant other! If not, the other person must noy be that significant, which is really a shame :(