How open minded are you or are you shut tight with the key thrown away?

It's all about positivity and negativity isn't it, your brain has a tape in it which is either full of positivity or negativity, it's about taking the tape out if it's full of negativity and replacing it, but it's not easy, training your brain to switch from one to the other. We are so used to saying no I can't that our brain accepts it freely and doesn't question, it just follows the same route. It's like a car that always goes down the same road, it never deviates, never turns round, just heads straight and unless you can learn to change direction you will never change your lifestyle, pattern of thinking or become a better well accomplished person. It's easier to say can't it makes life simpler, but also very dull and boring and you never achieve. And life is a big achievement waiting to happen if people but knew it.

Like your downline, I shy off when I need to talk to people I don't know, especially if it is going to be a sales talk. It is worst if I am not fully knowledgeable about the product. I understand practice makes perfect and one can gradually perfect the skill the more one presents. So in a way, I am rather open if I am in full control else I do shut down a bit. lol.

hey Mom! So sorry not been in touch - thought I would be able to get online more once kids went back to school, only to be struck down with the dreaded lurgy - well a really bad cold that left me unable to keep my eyes open properly or to focus on a computer screen! Hope you are really well and know that I love you loads - the kids and David send their love too! As for can'ts, shouldn'ts etc these are all words that affect your mindset and your mood and I couldn't agree more that they close down your brain. That was one thing I used to do all the time and one of the forst things that I learnt in a depression management course was that we use these words and put a lot of pressure on ourselves, which only results in making our own self image and self belief very low and negative! I now try really hard not to use them in the same way as I did and it really helps! Couldn't agree with you more on this one! Huge Hugs xxx

That's so true, Raydene, and thanks for posting. Our subconscious accepts whatever we feed it. If we think we can't, we're right. If I want more of life's goodies, I need a mindset that is open to the positives -- the possibilities. The rub is that I've been beaten down. My positive thoughts and actions were not successful. I didn't get the job. I'm going to follow up and see if I can find out why. It might not have been about me :) When I tried an MLM, people didn't want to do business with me. I gave up. I've been telling myself I'm not the type.

you are just a shy type person.... you will be bloom as a big flower in time...

As I read your posting I could recall how that statement is very true. I guess we fail to realize that what we say is giving ou body a command in some way, even if we can't physically see it! This is definately something I was glad to read today!

it is not easy to overcome shyness. people need to be well adjusted to the sorroundings before we can say words or can talk freely. practise makes perfect take one step at a time dont push yourself to hard for it may not come out naturally.