Girls' and Guys' definition of Gentlemanly Behavior. Any difference?

haha.. It's normal for guys and gals to behave differently in front of the ple they like because they wanna set good impression in front of them.. =P But me as a guy, i agree that a guy should be more generous, refine and polite :) For me, i will hold the doors for ple regardless guys or gals if they are just behind me or wat.. Even inside the lift, i will be the last to go in and the last to come out.. I just think that, this is just a very simple and yet thoughtful action done by guys :) hehe

A gentleman should be courteous to all girls no matter what. A gentleman should help girls lift and carry things. A gentleman should have a sense of humor but not be crass A gentleman should open the door for a lady and let her walk ahead of him.

I think you are absolutely right. I have aklso seen this. Mainly boys are very good natu=ured with their GFs, not with all girls, even not with their friends. I faced this many times. Once what made me feel bad that I had a male friend. He had a GF too. He only told me that to meet his GF every month he goes by train to long distance. the whole journey to and fro takes 4 days( inclusive of stay there). Once his Gf was late in coming and he waited at station for 4 hours! Its nice to do that for his GF. But during one event in Office, he was supposed to be waiting with his bike outside as i was coming by foot to office gate. it takes about 5-7 minutes to walk. he only told me he will wait there. But when i came at gate, he was not there. I thought he is coming. I waited in cold for 15 mins. it was dark too. After taht i called him and he told that he has forget that i am waiting there! i was so surprised. how can he forget in 2 mins? I left alone. Next day he told me he was lying at taht time as i wuill think bad. he just left as he toight waiting for me for 5 mins will be boring! Hope you get the situation.

ha ha ha ha ha... I guess we all put up some sort of mask when ever we are with people. Different masks with different groups. It is never wrong to be gentlemanly. But to be able to be gentlemanly to a fellow friend when one is attached, it will really be dependent on whether the female significant one will allow it. I know of friends who used to be really gentlemen. But when they are attached, they become a totally different person. This is because their partners get jealous easily. I am a man, and I can understand where they are coming from. Anyways, there are still ways to be gentlemanly without incurring her wrath. Some examples would be as follows: 1) Holding the door for the ladies after your lady has passed. 2) Not being to calculative with it comes to splitting the cost among friends when sharing a meal. There may be more examples, the list is long and would require specific scenarios to be able to decipher what would be consider gentlemanly and what is not. ;)

hi poohagal.i too admit with you to some extent.i have also experienced the same behaviour in many person.i think everyone be it a guy or a girl has two different identities.one that they actually are one that they potray to people they want to .mostly girls want their man to be a polite and a gentleman which very few guys are,but they konw this thought of girls so they potray themselves like that so as to get the attention of the girl.however when they are with themselves they are just what they are actually.its sad but i think tthis is the reality and i think even some girls also do this nowadays.

Behavior as such is a way of life and is not something that can be imposed. There are guys who are different and have their best foot forward towards the girls they like to have first impression that will last. I think there are guys which behave the way you have said it because they are just being themselves, they are just thrifty but not stingy. For me, "ungentlemanliness" is an outcome of the congruent behavior. Its like Respect begets respect.

Well, I met only calculative. stingy guys and those who are generous do it only on the first and the most generous, maybe until the third date. Some girls and women like bad guys and don't care too much about their vulgar speech. I do care only if it is abusive or critical. If a guy is critical to me, not only do I leave him but I curse on him before doing it. Actully, not all guys are having an impolite speech on the first date. They start later, when they think they made a conquest already, but they shouldn't count on this. Actually, I don't want to be helped physically by somebody, guy of female. I feel like that they want to control me.

I agree with you. they should also hold the door and let you order first. When waiting to be seated at a restaurant, the benches should be offered to the elderly and pregnant. This makes me crazy when a group of teenage guys are hogging the benches and there are grandparent type people standing. Where are their manners?