marriage after pregnancy

Pregnancy is not a good reason to get married... most of the people i know who got married because of this ended up separated and bitter to each other... in the end... the child is the one who suffers the most... so i suggest that wait until the baby is born and then work out if the marriage will be benficial for all concern or if it is the other way around...

Nobody should be forced into marriage, as it will probably ewnd in hurt and pain. Also it would not be good for the child to grow up in a home where the parents don't really love each other. Children need to be raised in a loving home.

I think what you should be asking is why should a woman get pregnant outside a marital home? However if a woman gets pregnant for a man why in the world should the want to be forced in other to get married. what am trying to say is that if a man and a woman will get to the stage of sleeping together without fear or favour, then they should accept there failure and in order words do what is right.

personally i dont think it matters if you are married after you have your child. as long as you are in a strong loving relationship then it doesnt matter. if i was to fall pregnant before me and william got married then its ok. i would prefer to have children once we are married, and had a year or so just to enjoy married life. but i dont think it matters

I come from the Uk and this sort of thing is literally unheard of over here now. What I am interested to know is what happens if pregnancy comes from a raping or such like. I can kind of see where their beliefs come from but I am presuming that protection is frowned upon too.

No, I don't agree that they should be required to get married. I can say this because I got married when I was four months pregnant. We felt like we had to from his parents and mine, until our wedding day and then my parents told me to not marry him and to run. I didn't listen to them, but boy do i wish that I had. It was a bad situation that only got worse after marrying him. Of course, now that I am back to living the Christian life that I lived for so many years, but fell away for a while, I teach my children to find that special someone that they know they will marry and not practice any kind of physical situations with them until they are married. I strongly believe in abstinence until married and wish i had done that instead of being a fool at such a young age. God bless

Definitely not! Marrying someone that you don't really want to make that commitment with is just ridiculous, for any reason. If someone has to push you into getting married, then obviously you aren't ready to take that step. I know a lot of people who have been pressured into marrying because of pregnancies before, and most of them wound up in divorce anyway. Not only that, but quite a few of them were in relationships that were abusive, or became abusive. Others remained married as expected of them, but were unhappy in their marriage. Marriage should be a step that a couple decides to take of their own will, because it's right for them, not for any other reason.

yes, i agree..its not necessary to marry the person its because you become pregnant..what if after pregnancy, you realize that you not really love that person? i mean, what if everything will change, you have to think not only once but twice because life of a marriage person is not easy..there are lots of things to considered..like financial status, emotional, spiritual and also physical status..

As for me, I'll only marry if I love the person. I don't think getting married is the right answer not unless you really love each other.

I don't think an accidental pregnancy is grounds for a secure and happy marriage. they should do their best to raise the child together, so long as the relationship is comfortable between them. if they separate they should try to remain friends, for the best interests of the child, but should not be forced to remain in a relationship if they are not right for each other.

Don't get married only if you are pregnant. Get married if you Love or at least like a person who got you pregnant. It will not work just because of the baby. Just save yourself some time and tears because you will loose a lot of time trying to get out of this marriage and will pour a lot of tears if you will get married only because you are pregnant

I dont think that parents should force their kids to marry someone just because of an unexpected pregnancy.I was 17 when I got pregnant and my mother being a active member in our church thought i needed to get married to my babys father. Well she didnt force me but she pushed and pushed until I finally agreed.I have since regretted it quite often but we are still married and now have two other kids as well.I dont regret marrying him,but I regret that we did it at that time because I still had a lot of growing up to do. Parents should let their kids decide for themselves whether they want to marry or not and dont push them into anything.

I don't agree either. I think forcing them to marry will cause resentment.

the marry is an important thing in ur life.we can choose by ourself.but if u love him or her in ur heart.why cannt u married with ur lover. It's not ur parent's responsibility.but it's yours

ofc i dont agree with this but i do blame the teens or ppls for their unresponsiblle act if they think they rnt ready for this they must b more carefull in the start.

I agree with you that when your impregnated and your not ready for marriage you should not pursue it unless you really are ready to go into it or you love the person that impregnated you. It has something to do with an old belief system that to get pregnant out of wedlock is shameful and only marriage could cover it up which sometimes put you in a more compromised situation than staying as single mother yourself.

Like the others, i'm against that too. Marriage is only for two people who love each other and would promise to love each other 'till the end. Marriage is a sacrament and too valuable thing to be put into compromise.

Heck no I don't agree. What if the woman got pregnant by a rapist? Should she be forced to marry that scum? What if it was a one night stand? Should she be forced to marry a total stranger? It should be up to the woman to do what she wants. If she wants to marry him because she's pregnant, go right on and marry him. But if she does not, then she shouldn't be forced to do anything she doesn't want to do. At least in the USA, the stigma of unmarried pregnant women is all but gone. Very few women actually marry someone due to pregnancy. I had a friend do it, and she got divorced 2 months after the baby was born. She couldn't stand the baby's father and divorced his worthless self as soon as she could.