in-laws
By LoganzMom
@LoganzMom (618)
United States
January 17, 2008 12:48pm CST
my ex and i had sooo many problems with his family! they were always trying to control what we were doing, and caused fights between us all the time. they hated me from day one and treated me terribly. i tried for so long to fit in and make things work but it just wouldnt happen. the things they said and did were extreme and the sad part is that it was like the movie monster n law and my fiance never realized the extent of things. ultimately after over 4 years his mother got her way and we split up. has anyone else had big problems like this? how do you deal with a mama's boy that believes his family over you? im afraid for my next relationship about meeting his family lol. any advice about inlaws?
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@angieang (262)
• United States
17 Jan 08
To look past their judgments. Eventually they will be gone one day, and maybe before then your fiance would have realized that the ultimate happiness is with hisself. If we begin and build relationships worried about what the inlaws think of us, then the relationship bond between the couple isn't really that strong. True love will prevail over family members trying to rain on someone's parade!
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@LoganzMom (618)
• United States
20 Jan 08
i agree completely! i had to realize that if he wasnt willing to do this then im obviously not that important. thanks for the imput!
@Noxmorexlies (739)
• United States
17 Jan 08
That is horrible, and so common with families interfering in relationships and even worse getting their way and making a mark. They have no right to interfere only the two people in the relationship have say because it is their relationship. Dealing with a Mama's boy, is making him realize his mothers behaviors and actions if he will always be a mama's boy then it is going to be difficult and may not work out. That is the worst part of it all.
@LoganzMom (618)
• United States
20 Jan 08
yes it really is very sad. we have a wonderful son and we both love eachother, but our relationship is damaged from all the fighting and i cant get over him not standing up for me. i gave it 4 years and it was one thing after another. i think he will realize and understand one day, possibly when they are gone and regret his decision, but it will be way too late. thanks for your input!
