Help! He beat me up.
By scarletred
@scarletred (7)
India
January 18, 2008 4:47am CST
No! its my dad.How is this justice? I am over 20 and I still live with my parents.They pay for my college education.I am too hurt emotionally.We're not talking from then on.All because I shared about who I am in love with.I love my family, but I still cant manage my hurting heart.I cant move out neither can I put up with this.After sharing about my love, I haven't been given any freedom for more than two years now.I have no choice but to shut up.I long for their approval.Not in a position to severe relationships with them.Are they right in any way? I believe that I should be free to choose who i want to marry.I want both and cant help either.Holding myself together somehow.What do you think?
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4 responses
@jenya1234 (36)
• India
18 Jan 08
Please be cool.You are still studying.Let your education complete first.Then you think of marriage.This is the age we feel proud about our loved one.But you need see things in practical way.unless or untill you get financial freedom people arround you will take descissions on behalf of you.No matter who they are,your parents or your husband.
Be patient and lead life with appropriate plan.
All the best.
@scarletred (7)
• India
19 Jan 08
Doing exactly that.Waiting for my education to get over.Of course I don't want to get married right away.Hoping to get married only after some 5 years or so.They are doing what you said.Just hoping for some freedom till then.I cant even talk to him with my parents' knowledge.Hoping for a change.Thanks for your response.
@Vintervarg (697)
• Estonia
18 Jan 08
Of course your parents are not right to think this way.
I think that this is a rough and not pleasant thing to do, but next time he says something negative about your love relations, you can reply with something bad and unpleasant about his life, remind him about his weakest points, and this usually helps. This might make him understand that his deeds are no better than yours. If you are not too afraid of your father of course. Because one has to be strong and self-consident to say things like that to parents, even if they are too cruel.
@scarletred (7)
• India
19 Jan 08
I've tried that also.I don't like to talk about his weaknesses.Sometimes when I am so compelled to say, I do everything I can to stop myself because of the respect and love I hold for him.If I am going to do the same thing he does, it is not going to make me any different.I don't want to hurt him and see him react even more violent.I saw that if i mentioned his wrong doings, he doesn't think about it, rather he tries to turn on me again.I am definitely not scared of him, neither am I of anyone else.Just for holding his dignity in the society am I still in the house.Hoping to wait till i finish my degree.Thanks for your response.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
18 Jan 08
That kind of abuse is unaccepetable and I think you should see the police and cause an arrest immediately-you are an adult and beating you at your age ammounts to a serious criminal assault. I suggest you leave his house, you are 20!
@scarletred (7)
• India
19 Jan 08
Of course it is unacceptable.I am also not in a position to put my parents in jail.I would not be fine with it myself.I want things to go good, not become worse.Thanks for your response.
@bishu_sinha (1457)
• India
18 Jan 08
Look you silly. Only weak talk of ending their lives. If you both muster up enough courage and speak to your families, they would come around. Ultimately parents want nothing but happiness for their kids.
@scarletred (7)
• India
19 Jan 08
Silly?? Anyway, I believe that may be at some point of time because of all obvious reasons, they will approve of it.I just want things to go fine till then.Not violent.Thanks for responding.
