Is this fair?

Hi dear if ur hubby earn much that house chores run well and he dont need financial help then i think mother should take care of kids and home

Hi bishu_sinha: How much money would you make if you worked? Now take off the taxes that you would pay. Now take off the price of the baby sitter. Take off the price of the better clothes you would need over and above what you would normally need. Your groceries will probably be more expensive now because you will not have as much time now to prepare meals. Tell husband that he now has to do the laundry and house cleaning as you will not have the time because you are working full time and you will probably be to tired. As well there are still lots of other things that you still have to do. Also, Transportation costs to and from work plus probably a few items I have forgotten. If after you take all this into acount it you are still going to bring home an extra 200.00 minimum or more it might be worth it. Remember 40 hours per week @ $5.00 per hour is $200.00. A lot of work for not much money. You be the judge of it. I am assuming that you are in Canada or USA. If you are someplace else in the global communty you will have to adjust the dollar figure accordingly. Don

ure it is, but put up a chore list for stuff ue has to do now that you are workimg see how that wors with him an tell her to butt out! ! !

Its definitely your choice.The better choice would be to stay at home with the kids and take care of them because they are young.If the need is pressing then may be you can think about it, otherwise you better try to change your lifestyle(cut down expenses) to manage with the single income ,then there would be a lesser need for you to work.Daycare wouldn't be a very good idea because children need that emotional support and also you needn't stress and strain more.You should talk to your husband about what you really want to do.Let not people outside the family make decisions for your family.

My opinion is you're an adult and can make decisions about your own life without any help from your mother-in-law. What goes on between you and your husband is none of her business. If you and your husband decide that you need to get a job for financial reasons then your husband also has to agree to shoulder half of the household chores. Being a mother/housewife IS a job and it wouldn't be fair to expect you to be successful at two jobs while your husband only had one. If you don't have a financial need for a job then you should stay home with your children...and try to get you husband to pitch in a little with the chores, 'mom' hours on the job far outnumber regular job's working hours. Another option for bringing in extra income without having to leave hom would be one of the many real work from home opportunities. I just started one so that we can afford a home of our own again (we and 4 of our children are currently living with his parents so I understand mother in law problems). With the one I'm getting into I should be able to make $1000 a month.

Well i think if your family needs the money and your MIL ( mother-in-law) will watch the kids for free. Then yeah i can see it. But if your family don't really need the money and you will have to pay a sitter and hubby will not help out around the house. then sometimes it is better just to stay home. I stay home with my kids. Hubby works, but if i worked he still would not so anything around here and things would start going to (H***) the dogs * winking* :)

Fug all that bish..... Just work from home.....it is fun, relaxing and if disciplined you ould make twice the amount what you would from workin outside Maybe your mil...is trying to take control of the house and kids....kidding ! Contact me, shoould you need any help Regards

If they will pressure you, then you have to talk to them who will watch the kids and do all stuff for them. you cant just say yes and no one will take care of the kids..that is also one thing that your husband also needs to consider before telling you that you need to work right?

I think there is nothing wrong with that because it is practical to do and you can prove to the world that women are not just for the house and children.You can be a housewife and a working mom at the same time.Just don't exhaust yourself too much.I'm imagining myself as a future wife and mother.After work,the kids will come to me and kiss me and all the stress will go away because of them. :)

arent we the superwomen of the world?? no my dear - it isnt fair... but unfortunately.. that's life.. i am a working mom myself - five children. i often complaint to my husband also... i help him earn extra money for the family, but he doesnt help me with the chores - no fair !! .. maybe i have gotten used to it... but i tell myself everyday.. i do this "in the name of god".. and "may god help me"... i tell myself i am doing this for my kidz - makes it a lot more worthwhile because i do know we cant do much with just my husband's income... talk it out with your husband.. hopefully he is more 'cooperative' than my own dear husband... i assume that your mom-in-law should help too... at least take care of your children while you're out working.. maybe you could find a job that has flexi-working-hours... that wouldnt keep you away from home so long.. dont worry, dear.. take care.

I believe that the happiest and healthiest people are those who don't work or who work just a few hours. Making money is not everything in this world and just taking care of the house and spend quality time with your kids is more than enough. But if it's really importand, maybe concider to start working only for a few hours, if ofcourse you have someone take care of your kids while you are not at home.

No it isn't fair. I have the same kind of problem myself. Only I am 50 years old and my reason for staying home is because of medical issues I have. My husband keeps saying I should go back to work. He says I should just put up with the medical problems. We could use the money, that's another difference between you and me. But it is so hard to work when I am feeling sick and I would miss a lot of work and what employer would put up with that for very long.