Am I cheating my hubby ... ??

Hi dear if u dont have any intention to meet him or revive those emotion then its Ok but its better not to be in touch with him if u think u cant be able to control ur emotion Rest, u can decide urself take care

I don't think it is cheating unless your doing something else to go beyond the limits. In a relationship it is really important to know your bounderies. And in that sense I can say you're still not in the stage of cheating your husband, But if you were thinking to pursue what you have had way back then and do some efforts to make it happen then I would say you are already in the way to cheating your partner.

This situation seems very similar to the one I started on cheating. You might want to look into that one just to get an idea of the responses....which had various scenarios. Here's the link http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1376081.aspx Personally, I wouldn't say it's cheating...but it might lead to cheating if you continue keeping in touch and might get tempted (especially if you are having trouble with your spouse).

upto what had happened is happened leave it and put an end to such type of actions. whether u had made any body contacts? even then end it all for u r child no one can be controlled by any one every one is the controller of him/herself its just my suggestion

If you go beyond with your communication w/ your old flame.. like say, instead of just thru e-mail, you expand through conversations on the phone or you can probably meet him somewhere.. then that's the time that I personally can think of it as cheating. Just like you said, you're feeling guilt. But what for? It's not like your doing something wrong. It's just communicating with someone who you had a connection w/ or relationship w/ way in the past. It's not really wrong considering that you're just 2 friends (u and your old flame) having e-mail conversations together. Your just friends right? But although, there's always a tendency that when you communicate with someone whom you have gone with in the past, you can probably recall the memories you had together and probably even how you felt towards that person in the past.. That's one reason or probability why you have been feeling guilty about it. You're married and I think you know that you have to be honest with your husband regardless if he accepts it or not. -Best of luck-

I think it is alright if you just stay friends with your old flame. Talking about pleasant past times is fine. However you should let him know that you are married and in love with your husband. Have you told your husband about getting this email? The present is different to the past and I think you should be careful if you meet up with your old flame. You should not do this unless you are sure all he wants is you to be friends. You have not done anything with him so it is not cheating, but it would be if you have an affair with him.

hello there..i did some thinking and i think that if u feel guilty already when u havent done anything it means u want to or have thoughts of cheating on ur hubby..and thats a bad sign hun..if u were talking and had no feelings what so ever id say ur fine..but the fact that ur already worried..hun..i say Run..Run as fast away u can..i wish u lots of luck and take care..April

Well from an Indian point of view, I would say, don’t take unnecessary risks with your settled life. Its very easy for us women to talk of gender equality, but middle-class India still believes in separate roles for men and women which are to be followed for perfect harmony at home. Even small and harmless incidents can go beyond our control and one thing may lead to another. You never know. And then there are the children to be thought of. They would not like anyone to point fingers at their mom, no matter how innocent you are. This is India darling. Its OK for us women to have flames when we are single but once we are married, our priorities change and even if our husbands don’t think too much of it, we should never give any chance to anybody to slur our image and that of our family. We have to think of our husbands, our children, our in-laws, our parents. What WE think and feel comes secondary to them. My advice would be to stop communicating with the guy…don’t do it overnight if you don’t want to sound rude, but gradually stop responding to his mails and he should take the hint. I am saying this from personal experience. My hubby and me are the same age, we are more friends than spouse, yet even he would not like to know someone from my past who was a flame and I would not like to hide anything from him, either.

That really depends on you and your hubby would he see it as cheating? You say you see it as if you are cheating the only thing left is to know whether or not your husband would see it as cheating. I think that if you are thinking so often about old times then you should be careful to me you are not cheating but it could certainly lead to doing so.

If you are not re kindling it, then it is ok. Also you must see that what if your husband knows it. if he feels bad, then its cheating. If you were in love, why you did not marry him?

i THINK IF YOU DONT TELL HIM ABOUT THIS.. YOU ARE LIKE TO CHEAT YOUR HUBBY. HIDING A SECRET FROM YOUR HUBBY IS LIKE CHEATING TOO. EVEN IF YOU DONT DO ANYHTING WIHT THAT GUY.

Yes, I too think so. But the situation is not incorrigible yet. Just imagine, how you feel if your hubby is also doing the same, with another woman. Right now, it's just "mental", but soon this might not be the case, if you continue. Just think of your child, your lovely innocent child. Picture him/her in mind, each time such feelings arouse. Last but not the least, don't forget, where we are from....the holy land where Sri Rama and Sita devi lived. It's all in the mind, be strong. Be strong and devoutful as Sita maatha, all "Ravanas" will vanish of themselves.

I do not think that you are really cheating,but if you are feeling guilty then I think you should either alk to your husbad abot it or stop talking to this person once again.The grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence.Do you feel like your husband will consider this cheating?do you think he would be upset about you talking to your old flame?And how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and it was him talking to a woman from his past?All of these questions need to be considered before you make a choice.I hope I have been of some hlp to you and I hope you make the decision that is right for you.

ur not a cheater!!!

For me, if you are doing something you would not be happy doing infront of your husband then that may be cheating. If you are doing nothing that he would not like, i dont see how you can be blessed be

Its best to tell your hubby.Not the guilt ,but being in touch through email.Keep him informed.If he doesn't seem to like it, then its not a very good idea.If you're really feeling guilty, then you very well would know when,where and how to stop it before it becomes trouble.Try talking about him normally to your husband.if you feel like hiding, then may be something is wrong.Cut it right way in that case.

I think you are cheating. Would you have the guts to write to the other man when your hubby is standing next to you? I don't get that feeling from you. Now it is easy to write down some words here, but the reality is far more intense then words can be printed. Most probably your heart starts to race when you get to the computer to check your mail. This delightful tinkling in your fingertips. Yes, I know the feeling, I am in the same position, but............it can not lead to anything anymore, unless you are going to take drastic decisions...and then what about your child?? My solution: I stopped reading the emails and marked them as SPAM, so they are not even visible in my inbox anymore. Sometimes it is hard, but I value my present relation more then the past. Remember, there were good reasons why you ended up with your present loved one and NOT the other man. Focus on where you wish to go in life and appreciate what you have, don't waste it. Remember, the grass always look greener on the other side, even if it was old grass.

you are playing with fire here. fantasizing is harmless and fun but when you are flirting with an old flame and remembering the good times and probably forgetting exactly why you 2 are no longer together, it can easily get out of control. Reminiscing is ok also but if you are feeling guilty, i'm thinking you are maybe stirring up more feelings than is good. whatever you do....don't meet up with him unless it is to introduce him to your hubby.

Hi.. I think the answer lies in your own mind. Guilt comes when you think you are doing something wrong... If so, it is up to you to set it right. In that case, i think you should put an end to this revival of friendship at the earliest. You have a child to think of, my dear, and Indian society is not very kind to such a situation. The rest is up to you.. Good luck, anyways.

Sorry babe, but you are um kinda cheating on him, opps. If you dont meet up with him then technically you are not cheating on him. I dont think it is a bad thing, i think it is human nature, i think it is abit of an old wives tale that we fall in love and stay inlove for ever. I dont think love is everlasting but thats just my opinion and proven wrong a few times a day by people who stay together through anything and until the end. For some reason this doesn't seem to be my style, or anyone else's that i have dated.