Do you get resentment from people because you are disabled?

Some people, even my friends, complain (usually not out loud) about meeting my needs because of my disability. A good example of this is my friends at the People's Music Network, an organization of which I am on the board, doesn't seem to understand why it's a problem to hold an event in a place with no wheelchair accessible transit, so disabled folks who come to the event who don't drive.

Sometimes I do, but I pity those who judge us by what we cannot control. To me, it is them who are disabled worse than I am, the disability they suffer from: Ignorance.

I can barely walk in from the handicapped spaces some days. I don't "look" handicapped, but how can they see fractures in the feet? Fibromyalgia? If I hear someone saying things like that I remind them that accidents happen & tomorrow they might NEED a wheelchair, or even it its 30-40 years from now when they get old & want an electric cart... but heck, my roomie is visually impaired & preferes to use a ramp because she can't really see her feet, has no depth perception and curbs are one of her biggest problems. Curbs & stairs, she avoids them as much as possible.

I know how people who have no disabilites can treat those of us who do. many days I get a very rude look as I park in the handicap lot and walk just fine somedays, but do they know how far I can walk? or how much each step pains me no they do not and untill they have a problem themselves they will never understand.

Things are getting better in this country but they could be a lot better for the disabled. I have retired almost two years from Ford Motor and I took a course in Nurse Aide to help people in their own homes..volunteer mostly but I am certified nurse aide and have worked in a nursing home for two weeks for my clinical...and both my parents were in nursing homes for several years..So I am aware of the problems of the diabled. I have been to Japan, Phiippines, Germany, and Mexico and know their conditions also are very bad for the disabled. It will take a lot of work and I know that there is hope with advocates like AARP and Disabled Veterans who are trying to educate the public to the plight of the disabled. Even TV shows like "The Little People" show the problems that happen to people who are not average height or have a disability. The only thing that really makes me mad is to see people still used the handicapped parking and they don't have a sticker and could walk to the store. Also I seen kids playing on the electric wheelchairs in some stores and the parents let them and the store did too..sad. Thanks for the informative post.

Hey all~ what a great question. i think that i would have to say yes, i do get resentment from many people. like another user said, my disablity isnt always readily seen. i live in chronic pain and that gets in the way of everything from sleep to normal activities and thought processes. it dosent help that i am only in my mid twenties yet when i am with friends i have to get a parking space in a handicap spot more often then not all the while looking youthful. i often wonder if some of these uncaring individuals spent even one day in my shoes if there attitude would change, then again i wouldn't wish my pain on anyone else....enemy or friend!

hey well i donot know really about these disablities .